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31 Questions My Friend Asked Me to Respond To
31 Questions My Friend Asked Me to Respond To
1.How important is fitness in your life? Fitness is very important--yet I also get myself so involved in work that I don't exercise the way I want to.
2.What's your favorite scent? Why do you like it? I respond very much to scent--the one that comes to mind at the moment is gardenia. Mom had a gardenia bush in our back yard in Florida for many years and its scent brings back memories.
3.Do you snore? Do you talk in your sleep? I have been known to talk in my sleep from time to time. I have sleep apnea and snore unless I'm connected to my C-PAP machine--then I don't snore, just look funny. (Sorry, just being real.)
4.What songs or artists put you in the mood? I like Celene Dion as an artist. I like different type of music for different moods.
5.Name one of your favorite books. Why do you like it? I like the works of Anne McCaffrey--especially the dragon series of books. She creates a world of wonder with delightful characters who are bonded telepathically and with love.
6.Tell me some of your all-time favorite movies. Why do you like them? Casa Blanca is one--The story is fascinating, then the development of the characters is heartwarming. I like a variety of movies, though romantic comedies remain my favorite.
7.How important is family to you? Describe your relationship with your family. Family is very important to me. I am an only child and my Mom turned 91 on Sunday. My Dad died in 1995. I came to Illinois so that I could be near them after they retired. (Before then I had lived all around the world.) My goal is to improve Mom's quality of life while she is here. My married family (when I have one) will also be very important to me. Dogs, by the way, are essential family members.
8.Tell me a favorite childhood memory. Hard to pick a childhood memory as a favorite. One thing I liked to do is to have a Christmas Caroling party every year with several close friends. I lived in Sarasota, Florida, and we had fun singing carols in front of Christmas trees and for neighbors.
9.How much do you tell your friends about what's going on in your life? I'm pretty private about my life with my friends. I have a few close friends and, when needed, can go to them for help.
10.What role do you play in your family? I am divorced and have no children. The role I play now for my Mother is both her son and her trustee--to take care of whatever she needs. She lives in a retirement community in Carol Stream. In August, 2004, she had a fall and I went to her apartment to care for her dog and to help her when she returned from the hospital. The emergency became chronic and I stayed in her apartment for a year, returning to my home in Geneva in October, 2005, when I was recovering from surgery myself. Mom has moved to an assisted living apartment in the same retirement community--though she's feeling depressed there (a new feeling for her).
11.What's your favorite outdoor activity? I enjoy many. I used to ride bicycles and am now more into walking and hiking.
12.What countries have you visited? What was your favorite? I have lived and worked in North and South America, Europe, Asia, and Australia. My favorite country is Italy--where I lived for about 3.5 years. I fell in love with the people, the wine, the food, the culture, and the place. (I was also fluent in Italian at the time.)
13.Describe a meal you like to prepare. I'm usually a simple eater. I like baked chicken with a side dish of steamed vegetables and something light for dessert.
14.How much personal space do you need in a relationship? That's a good question. The best way I can describe it is to look for a king sized bed--where we can share the same room and the same bed and have a little space. (Actually, in my house in Geneva, a queen-sized has to do--no room for a king-sized.)
15.How long was your longest relationship? Why did it end? I was married for 7.5 years. I realized before we married that it was a mistake and I worked to turn that around for 7.5 years. At the end of that time both of us realized that it wasn't good for either of us, so we dissolved it. I've grown a lot since then and have had a long distance relationship for more than 15 years. There has never been a way for the distance to decrease and I feel the need for a real relationship and closeness and connection here with me. I want a family rather than a friend. (Though I expect my spouse-to-be to be my best friend.)
16.In a new relationship, do you like to take it slow or do you start with a bang? (It really depends on the person and the relationship. Both are fine as long as both parties are in synch.)
17.Morning person or night owl? (Morning person normally. I can be a night owl, though I would usually rather go to sleep and get up early.)
18.Make your bed or leave it messy? I usually make my bed--let's not talk about dusting or vacuuming, though.
19.Glass half-empty or half-full? Half-full.
20.Admit your favorite guilty pleasure. Hmm, I could have several. I do love sex and am interested in learning more about Tantra--a sacred form of sex. Other than sex we could talk about ice cream ("enjoy the guilt" was an old Hagen Daas or Ben & Jerry's commercial)
21.Name five things you can't live without. Love, friends, dogs, joy, and nature. (There'll be more later.)
22.What three things do you always keep in your wallet/bag? Driver's license, debit card, calling card (for telephones)
23.If you could bring back any deceased musician for one concert, who would it be? That would be hard to pick at the moment.
24.If you could go back in time and relive one day in your life, which day would you choose and why? I work to live my life forward--I try to learn from everything I do and don't choose to repeat any day. I want to bring joy and loving forward each day for myself and for those around me.
25.If you started a treehouse club and could only invite three members, who would you pick? What would the sign say on the door? That's hard to pick at the moment, too. I'll think about that one later.
26.What is the strangest job you've ever had? I've had some strange ones--several careers. Being a 4th grade bilingual (Spanish) teacher for a year was one of the hardest jobs. My most recent (past) job was as a Senior Business Analyst where I would go to a small company and diagnose it's strengths and weaknesses and develop a plan to correct its weaknesses--all in about 1.5 days. I had fun in another job being out of the country for one week a month training people in how to deliver an experience-based training I had developed. I trained people in Canada, Australia, Hong Kong, Spain, and London on that project. Another project had me coordinating a big learning event in Caan, France--one week after the Cann Film Festival. All of those experiences were fun.
27.If you could change careers and do anything you wanted, regardless of pay, what would you do? You know, Pattie, I've changed careers at least six times and am really thinking about that again right now. I was in the Army for 10 years many years ago, was a management consultant for a number of years, was a college professor for about 3 years, was a learning designer for 5 years, then an organizational change consultant for 5, then a classroom teacher for 3, then back to consulting. I love making a difference for people. My purpose in life is to help others learn how to help themselves. I've done that in all of my jobs. Now I'm looking for something that I will love and that will give me the quality of life I seek.
28.What was your favorite course/subject in school? Why? I had several. My favorite course was one I taught. I taught teachers the human side of teaching and loved that experience. I did it for three years while I was working on my doctoral dissertation at Florida International University in Miami.
29.What are your secret talents? What many don't know about is that I am a Reiki practitioner--I work with energy to help heal the body. There are other secret talents in that regard that make me like the works of Anne McCaffrey and, of course, the Harry Potter stories.
30.Tell me about the person who has most influenced your life. Over time, it's probably my mother. Her father was a strong figure in her life--both my grandfathers were ministers in different protestant churches. She was a great model for unconditional loving and for service. Both of those qualities I find expressing in my life.
31.Do you ever talk to yourself out loud? What do you talk about? I will sometimes talk to myself out loud, often reviewing the steps of a project. I have also found it easier to write sometimes by talking aloud into a tape recorder. I have also recorded books to play back to classes I was teaching.