Mothers and daughters...  

GingerSnap2000 61F
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3/6/2006 7:59 am

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Mothers and daughters...


Yesterday, as I was helping my mother take a sip of gingerale in her hospital bed, it came to me that the mother had become the child and the child had become the mother.

My mother is in the hospital with congestive heart failure and a lung infection. At least that's what we were told. Having suffered a stroke seven years ago, that left her left arm useless, she was already in a weakened state.

All I see is my mother getting weaker and weaker, barely able to cough up the vileness that plugs her lungs.

The mother I remember wasn't a perfect mother; but she did her best, with what she had. She was young when I, her first born, arrived. In fact, she once told me, "you and I grew up together". Three more children were to come and our family was complete, with all the trials and tribulations families have.

The doctor had asked my mom what she wanted done if anything were to happen to her. Did she want any heroic measures to save her.

My mom was quick to answer, "No, just let me go".

When my father told me this, my heart quickened its pace as I realized what that meant, but I knew it was the right decision for her and I'm grateful she was able to make the decision herself.

After she finished her sip of gingerale, she lay back, almost disappearing into the bed. I then realized how selfish I had been, praying for her recovery. Promising God I would be good from now on, as we all did as children, if he would just make my mother better and let her come home.

I sat down on the chair by the bed, closed my eyes and said, "God, it's in your hands now. I trust you to do what's best."

"Mom, no matter what, I love you.

Ginger
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GingerSnap2000 61F
259 posts
2/23/2008 5:53 am

SSD,

Thank you so much for taking the time to read my blog. I was so sorry to hear about your dad and your grandfather. My thoughts are with you and your mom.

My mom is now in a nursing home and still adjusting to her new surroundings. So far she is doing well.

Take care and thanks again for your comments.

Ginger

Ginger
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SexiSassiDevil69 29F

2/23/2008 2:19 am

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SexiSassiDevil69 29F

2/23/2008 2:18 am

Hiya Ginger i am so sorry to hear You are going through that with Your Mom i just lost my dad (Stay) in November and my grandfather in December and i know it is extremely Hard but remember She loves You very much and she wants You to be happy and i know You want the same for Her and Remmber if she does go she will be up in Heaven looking out for You and will be happy to be able to watch out for You and remember i am always here if You need to talk ok (i may no know You but You seem like a wonderful woman)


GingerSnap2000 61F
259 posts
3/8/2006 9:34 am

mickdevil, thanks so much for your encouragement at this time. I appreciate your kind words and I'm sorry for what you and your dad had to go through. I guess it is part of living and dying. Take care my friend.

Ginger
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mickdevil 50M/52F
3496 posts
3/8/2006 3:55 am

ginger i no exactly what you are going threw I went threw it last year with my dad ,and it is one of the hardest things we have to deal with in life is letting your parents go!I watched my father suffer for along time with his illness,its not only hard on them but the people they love most that suround them,and him seeing the pain in their eyes.My wish for your mom is peace,and for you the comfort of knowing she is happy.Memories are beautiful,I now respect the stories I have been told by my parents,and the little things we shared together,that ment so much!

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GingerSnap2000 61F
259 posts
3/7/2006 8:10 am

Thanks beaver...

Ginger
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GingerSnap2000 61F
259 posts
3/7/2006 5:57 am

Thanks ArealUnicorn, I will remember that.

Ginger
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GingerSnap2000 61F
259 posts
3/6/2006 5:06 pm

Thank you Angel, I truly appreciate your kind words and I'm so glad your Mom is better. Take care.

Ginger
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ArealUnicorn 44F

3/6/2006 4:35 pm

prayers are with you hun...seriously I remember trust me...jsut email if you need to talk...


angel8808 51F

3/6/2006 4:11 pm

ginger im so sorry u are goin through this hon, as u know i almost lost my mom a couple of months ago but i guess god wasnt ready for her yet, but i do have an idea what you are going through, u are my friend and u know my prayers are with ya always


GingerSnap2000 61F
259 posts
3/6/2006 1:03 pm

dreads...sorry for your loss. I lost my grandmother last November. You're right, your grandmother is much happier now, as is mine. Thank you for you comment.

Ginger
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dreadsandbigdick 44M

3/6/2006 9:15 am

I just lost my grandma to cancer....I hated watching her waste away,but in the end i know she is not suffering anymore and is happier now.
but i do miss her terribly.
xx


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