Seek and Ye shall find  

GhostwolfSpyGirl 47M/47F
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6/22/2006 8:30 pm

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7/6/2006 4:13 pm

Seek and Ye shall find

Arrogance or confidence?

I often wonder exactly what all the cues someone gives off that make us perceive them as confident or arrogant?

Some are obvious they are in denial and they are in no way shape or form anywhere close to as good as they believe. Others do carry the “swagger” they can back it up in certain situations for a short time. But get them out of their one ideal element they sink. I would call them fair weather successful.

The braggarts are the outward opposites of the self-doubters. Doubters, for whatever reason do not think they can get it done, nor do they deserve to be there. Yet these types of folks are everywhere? Some do build their esteem and move on with quality lives, while others seem to use “whoa is me” as a strategy to never be self-responsible for their failures, or lack of effort. In the long run braggarts and whoa is me end up in the same place if they never break the cycle.

The ones to watch out for are the humble ones who just know they can the task. They do not need to talk up what they can do, they just seems to do it, time and time again. Yet, they never seem to try and be better than everyone else, they just seem happy to be part of the club. They are reasonably forgiving of others faults, and try to make things better with out trying to take over. They bring a positive energy that makes the others around them better.

It may seem more like we are seeking a career minded job applicant. But considering the potential for pleasure and the potential for disaster with a Friend With Benefits, why not seek the personality most suited to your needs? One does not need the Hollywood body, the suave talk of a lawyer, or be the hero. We are seeking someone who just seems to fit. Like some movies with a cast of actors that together have this great on screen chemistry, and BAM! The show works better than if anyone actor tried to carry it alone.

SirMounts 102M

6/23/2006 2:10 pm

And then there is, well, the one and only... Me. *admiring self in mirror* lol
Welcome to blogging, GhostwolfSpyGirl. *smiling* write very well.

GhostwolfSpyGirl 47M/47F

6/25/2006 6:57 pm

Very true sirmounts, many only can see to the nose at the end of their face!

it seems being fake is the norm. They even tell you not to lie on job applications, but get very clsoe to a flat out lie. ANd with as much TV as people watch with fake reality, I am not sure how to even judge honestly.

to describe an arrogant woman? the self denial is not gender specific, but we call her a bitch some have such need for control and to prove they are alphas they embarress themselves.

SirMounts 102M

6/26/2006 7:11 am

Why, yes GhostwolfSpyGirl... and I feel badly for those individuals. After all, one should at least be able to see as far as one's own... reflection. *winking* lol

GhostwolfSpyGirl 47M/47F

7/1/2006 4:30 pm

You shrunk? Oh NO, you might try those Smiling Bob vitamins. hahaha

I agree with you I think many do not think through the consequences of their actions, so they just fire off things hoping to get what they want. One can just lie to cover the other lies, then act all hurt when the bull shit is called out.

It is very possible to be highly responsible even with non-monogamous relationships.

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