I'm out!  

Gameboy4youWI 43M
19 posts
2/9/2006 6:34 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

I'm out!

That's it! I'm done with AdultFriendFinder! I'm out! My account expires on the 28th and I'm not renewing! Why? Because this is all some bullshit! What brings this on? Well I'll tell you. As per how it usually goes on AdultFriendFinder you contact some body on line, you play email tag for a while, and maybe you get to chat online. Things work out you make a phone call and maybe arrange a meeting. Right? In a perfect world that's how it goes. But say for example that you are on the other end and you think everything is going fine but suddenly the other person freezes up on you. All of a sudden they make up excuses about how they can't meet. Too busy. Yadda yadda. Now they won't return phone calls. Or emails. What's the deal? You thought you were establishing a rapport right? You thought you had something? BAM! You look at the person's new profile and lo and behold they have found someone on AdultFriendFinder and are no longer looking! And that someone ain't you! What. The. Fuck. How? Why? What? The fact that she found somebody doesn't bother me as much as the fact that she let me twist in the wind like some idiot! I'm sitting there like a jackass, calling and emailing and thinking 'Oh she's just busy.' No you moron! She's ducking you!! She doesn't want to see you! Am I wrong in thinking that she should have just said so as soon as she found out? Now I feel like shit and I'm soured to the whole AdultFriendFinder experience. So goodbye AdultFriendFinder! You won't have this jackass to kick around anymore!!!!

rm_1SweetBitch 55F
8575 posts
2/9/2006 7:57 am

Sorry to hear you have not had the best of luck on here. I myself don't think you should give up...many on here are real and do want to hook up...give it time...go with the flow...it WILL happen for you.

No Day Is So Bad It Can't Be Fixed With Great Sex!

1 SweetBitch

evilgothgirl 51F

2/9/2006 8:09 am

Hey sweets....

You are not the only one to get played here!!! It happens to all of us. I met a wonderful man here..we have great dinners, conversation and sex, so when the time came to meet the next...I expected the same...

Oops..first mistake...it started as the same..then the ugly reality of his real personality comes to light...mentally abusing psycho...he played me..and even now a year later...I gave him a second chance...played again...makes plans, then never returns my calls...makes plans, then says..oops..I forgot I made plans with someone else...make plans... get the scene?

Now, I am complaining for sure, but not looking for pity...I just wanted to show you that there are 2 sides to AdultFriendFinder....Stick it out..you may be surprised at what you find.

Either way...best of luck to you

007sexy40plus 50F  
7603 posts
2/9/2006 8:57 am

If I had ran off after trying when I signed up 4 yrs ago. I would not have talked to all the people I have talked to here and I would not have met the guy I did meet. so Being jerked around by one woman or three is not cause to turn and run from the rest. There is a woman on here for you, it just takes time. Good luck!

I am the real deal! "Come Get Me!!!"

moonlightphoenix 45F
6508 posts
2/9/2006 9:03 am

I know that I've been where you are too. And on the other side. I get bored & frustrated with AdultFriendFinder and all the morons on here. The thing I've learned is that you NEVER know what's going on on the other side. Just when you think you know what's going on...you don't. I've learned not to take things personally for the most part. people let you see what they want you to see. They let you hear what you want to hear. They let you think what you want to think and then they move on. There ARE real, sincere, genuine people on here, that's true. It's just like the 'real world' in a lot of senses. Patience is a virtue, but also remember...you just never know anything about anyone on here.

crazygurl2xx 56F

2/9/2006 9:23 am

Sometimes when you find someone you care for and you want to pursue the relationship further, the fact is it may take time to find out how they really feel. In that interim both parties are free agents. There is no reason to alert the world and kill your other options over something that may not work out.

It's not playing. But you have to realize that anyone you meet in any way whatsoever ALREADY HAS A LIFE GOING ON... it just may not be settled yet. And it's more than likely messy. You have to be prepared make allowances for that. Obviously this person felt sure enough to take that leap of faith and alert the world when she realized she wanted to pursue this other relationship... Oh, yeah, and don't forget that may one day be you in her shoes!

I have been that person recently. I had a relationship that was an open relationship for months, except he didn't like it and he didn't tell me until he left me and there I was looking again...yes, with a cold eye to being hurt, but looking. And I did meet some men in the meantime and I did let prospects know that I had been in a relationship that ended badly... how was anyone to know that time and experiences would bring us back together? It didn't seem likely at all, but that's what happened. And it took weeks to get to the point where I felt that I needed to give this relationship my full commitment and to let other guys know that I am no longer available.

In the meantime, when things don't work out as you planned, there is probably a Very Good Reason (like it's not meant to be?). Count yourself lucky that the damage was limited to a broken date, and not a broken heart.

Gameboy4youWI 43M

2/9/2006 10:58 am

Wow. All I can say is I'm touched by the nice comments by you ladies. Maybe there is a reason to stay on this site. Maybe I don't need to make such a knee jerk reaction from this situation. Thanks for understanding ladies!

iwantatasteofu77 39F

2/11/2006 8:21 am

Hey you... no need to get all stressed. Sometimes when a single woman thinks about a situation a man may already be in, being married, she decides she does not want to play second string. We too are entitled to find what makes us genuinely happy.

Also, as stated above, sometimes we just do not know how something we have will turn out. And when it turns out be to the connection of a lifetime, well we have to follow it through. We do not mean to disrespect, hurt, or otherwise put off the other people around.

I am sure you will find your friend that you are looking for. Just be patient, if it works like it did for me, you will find just what you are looking for when you least expect it.

Good Luck!

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