Has the good times come to an end?  

Frostygirl 46F
168 posts
7/9/2006 8:51 pm

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Has the good times come to an end?

So here I am a first time blogger and I ask that you to be kind. Just some musings that I have been thinking about for awhile and thought I would share.

So here I sit chillin out on a Sunday night and preparing myself to go back to the grind tomorrow after a fun but not long enough vacation I have come to a some realizations about my long term affair with AdultFriendFinder.

As some of you know I have been on AdultFriendFinder for over 4 years. The experiences that I have had good and bad and the people that I have met along the way has been an excellent life experience for me. It has shown me (despite what my ex said) that I am a pretty fun gal at times. And yes that I am sexy to some men as well despite the fact that I am a full figured gal. For this I am gratefull to each and every person that I have had the good fortune to cross paths with.

So on to the reason for the blog. I am an active member in several local groups and the biggest one in particular is the St. Louis Fun Group. I have tried my best to help a friend Mr. Sctrrdr to help promote local meet and greets for local AdultFriendFinder people. It was always the goal to get local open minded people together in a safe environment to be able to meet people face to face and to show that there are reall, kind and caring people who are on what is considered a sex sight.

I think that this has been very successful considering this particular group has now been meeting the 3rd Sat. of every month for a year. The parties in my personal opinion are great and I can't tell you how many fantastic people that I have met. They seem to be growing bigger and bigger each and every month and that is so FANTASTIC!!!!!!!

The life long friends I have made in doing this are astonishing and amazing and have made me a very very happy girl. I never knew when this started what great connections I would make with people that I never ever would have met out in the "reall" world and for that I am truly gratefull.

After our next party I have decided to take a back seat on the St. Louis Fun Group for awhile. I wouldn't say that I am dropping out but I can no longer be an active member of a group that I have found that I don't necessarily have the same beliefs with.

Now Now before anyone gets there panties in a bunch let me explain. This is just my own personal thoughts. I know by life experiences that not everyone is always going to agree with everyone all the time. I am totally cool with this and this is to be expected. Its life! Thats how it is! Life wouldn't be interesting if everyone had the same beliefs and there was no controversy or debates.

When I say I don't necessarily have the same beliefs what I mean by this is that I have observed at times there is common lack of courtesy or respect for others within the group. Now this is not to say that I have not done the same thing because to say this would be a lie. I am by no means any better than anyone else nor do I think that my way of thinking should be how everyone else does too. Nope not at all! Thats not the way it should be! Everyone has the right to there own thoughts and beliefs and how they approach them no matter if its good or bad. But I do firmly believe that even if you don't agree with what someone else says or even if you don't personally like that person that there should be common courtesy. To be polite to someone can go along way sometimes no matter if you disagree with what they say or you just plain don't like a person.

One can always agree to disagree and thats a good thing. It keeps life interesting and in perspective. When the line is crossed and nasty and cruel things are said to someone because of things they say or believe in thats when problems occur and this seems to be the problem that I am having.

So that being said and I'm sure that this will ruffle feathers and if it does I am sorry and it is not my intention to do so. Anyone that knows me knows that I am honest and upfront. I have come to the decision like I said before, after our next party to take a break from actively promoting the parties for the group at this time.

Now this doesn't mean that I won't show up from time to time. I have to many great friends and wonderful people that I enjoy seeing there every month. Good Friends are a blessing in ones life and they can not be replaced!!!

At this time I just think its best for me to take a step back. There are to many dominant personalities within the group and that also includes my own. I truly understand the fact that you can't have people who party together all the time in a social setting and not have conflicts. This as well is a part of life and to be expected. I think though that sometimes it might be a little worse when sex becomes involved with people. It seems to me that when lovers part ways but still are socially active within a group of people that knows everyones buisness that a new level of jealousy and mean spiritedness becomes involved. Not always but sometimes!

I also know at this time in my life that I am not going to meet the kind of guy and have the kind of relationship that I am seeking off of AdultFriendFinder. This also is not a big deal. I am totally cool with this. I like many others originally started off on AdultFriendFinder to make new friends and meet some Hot guys and at that time as my sister put it. "Your mean as hell and you need to get laid"...lol.. But that was then and this is now and I am at a different place in my life and seeking different things than what I was 4 years ago. But damn how awesome has it been to make such wonderful friends!!!!!! That is more important than anything to me personally!!!!

So to all my great friends you know how to get ahold of me. Or you can always catch me in the lower midwest chat room as well. I don't want you all to get the impression that I don't want to hang out or party together either. Thats not the case at all. I honestly enjoy the friendships that I have made here and I don't want to miss out on that.

So that being said Be Safe, Be Kind and Stay Protected!!!

BTW spell check doesn't seem to be working so any typo's or misspelled words....oopps so sorry.

SingleWarrior 52M

7/9/2006 9:15 pm

Good luck in what you do.

ComradeNumeroUno 60M
22 posts
7/9/2006 9:35 pm

Sorry, you're toning it down, Frosty. I was looking forward to meeting you sometime. Hope you keep up the blog!


Frostygirl 46F

7/10/2006 5:31 pm

Thanks guys I appreciate the comments!!

QuietMan780 51M  
6 posts
7/10/2006 5:34 pm

Great blog...I think many of us should sit down, read it, and think a bit about the group, and why it's growing. I think the term "growing pains" is a good way to describe what is going on, which is normal. Anyway, good luck in your future, and thanks for all the work you've done....I don't believe it will be forgotten.


TiredOFtoads2 50F

7/11/2006 11:28 am

Frosty you know that I'm here for you and to reconnect with you after 24 years away is amazing....Friends always...you know that....

Hugs and kisses to you and yours....


onespicylilPEP 37F
60 posts
7/12/2006 6:58 am

Frosty...stay in touch doll!!! We've been there together for the last 2.5 years..hehehe Bad bars, stupid people, and good friends!!! Loves ya chickee!!!


ridemcowgirl2006 53M/38F

7/12/2006 2:11 pm

Ahhhh, Frosty give me a hug again!


rm_loveoceans 58F
11 posts
7/13/2006 9:48 am

frosty, i just joined this group less than a year ago, and you were one of the first people i met. you always made me feel welcome and part of the group. for that, and for your honesty, i just want you to know how much i appreciate all your efforts on this group's behalf and your friendship. it meant a lot to a newcomer. i hope things simmer down enough for you to become an active member again, because i for one, am gonna miss you! love, xoxox sin-d

Frostygirl 46F

7/13/2006 6:21 pm

quietman I thing you hit the nail on the head with the term "growing pains".....I think that is a very appropriate thing to say.

Everyone else ty so much for the kind words. I have always tried to make people feel welcome to the parties and to be at ease....hopefully this continues.

Ragnarthesexgod 47M

7/16/2006 7:55 pm

I agree with Sin-D. Frosty is so genuinely friendly and interested in meeting people, that you can't help but feel welcome. That's what I liked about the group. Most of the people were like that.

tugit2 45M/45F
1 post
8/13/2006 8:08 pm

booty call is great think i will use that


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