The differences in perceptions  

FriendsNMore22 53F
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11/24/2005 9:16 am

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The differences in perceptions

I was talking to a friend the other evening who was heartbroken. She had been seeing someone for several weeks and decided to have sex with him. Two days had passed after they had sex and she still hadn't heard from him. She was in hysterics.

I was very surprised. For as long as I've known her, I never saw her act that way. I always perceived her to be a male hater as a matter of fact. She gave me the impression that no one was good enough for her. Many man would talk to her when we would go out, give her their phone numbers and she would then make jokes to me about how she wouldn't date this guy for long because of this reason, or she's not even going to call this jerk. It never made sense to me.

So on this particular day when she called, I knew if this guy didn't call her back, she would have been worse to men in the future. She even made a comment to me saying, "you know that if things don't work out, i will be jaded for a very long time" and I said yes, I do know that and that's a very scary thought !!!!!! LOL

My single friends call me for comfort all the time. It's not that I'm better with relationships than they are. I just look at each person individually. I don't categorize all men as pigs, jerks, assholes !!!!!!! LOL They think I'm naive when it comes to men because I give them the benefit of the doubt. I see both sides. I believe everyone has their reasons for doing what they do and it really has nothing to do with the other person. You should not go through life taking things personally.
In her case I said maybe he's nervous. Maybe he's thinking that he should wait a couple of days to call you. Just wait and see. And it turned out that he did call her. She called me back a couple of hours later and said I was right. So all is well with my friend LOL

Maybe it's not "all well" with her because obviously she has some insecurity issues that she needs to deal with. But I believe everyone has their own insecurities, maybe not to that extreme, but we do.

AltumHunksUnite 53M

11/25/2005 3:16 am

The jokes she cracked about not dating a certain guy for long and coming up with reasons... this is an obvious defense mechanism. So, yes, you're right, she has insecurities.

Let me drive. I like the view

Tone_33756 55M

11/26/2005 7:35 pm

Cleavis hit the nail on the head! I couldn't have said it better.

BTW, 80% of men ARE pigs, jerks, is to find the other 10%!

I know I know I know I's not fair....but it's the truth.

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