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His point of view
His point of view
I went on a date a couple of weeks ago with a man I met on AdultFriendFinder. He was my age, nice looking and we got along pretty well.
One topic of discussion was how men don't take as many chances asking women out as they did in the past. His point of view is, when men were younger they were used to getting rejected. If this girl doesn't want me, I'll go on to the other. It really didn't matter when they were younger.
Now, he believes that many women are jaded from past experiences, which makes it harder on men at his age. Women don't have eye contact, they ignore you even if they may be interested, so there are no signals. Who wants to spend the time only to get rejected if you don't know who may be interested.
I understood what he was saying. I'm sure it must be difficult for men. But then I thought women jaded? Would this be the reason why they don't flirt or show some type of interest in a man? Or is it because they just aren't "made" that way?
I'm sure that some women may be jaded. Many of my single friends are looking for love, their soulmate, someone to spend the rest of their life with. So if they go through the steps of flirting and talking with them for the rest of the evening, exchange number and make a date, only to find out that this man isn't interested in a committed relationship. So, they are now the ones being rejected.
It sounds to me like it's a vicious circle. Should we give up that easily? And why blame the opposite sex? So many times I hear "all men are this" or "all women are that". I believe every person is different and has their own reasons for defining the type of relationship they want. If it doesn't fit your needs, move on. Don't give up. Don't believe that everyone is the same. Eventually you will find exactly what it is that you are looking for.
11/26/2005 7:42 pm
This can be a vicious cycle! Absolutely! But, it's a cycle that can be broken if you set your mind to do so.|
It's up to each person to find that someone with the chemistry that is needed for a happy friendship/relationship.
People do need to put away their sterotypes and past failures. All it'll do is cloud the future.
That will require many dates/emails/conversations/chats with many different people.
But, it's worth it. When you find somebody you really feel comfortable with socially and sexually, is there anything better?!??!
And when you find that certain someone, it should last as long as humanly possible
12/31/2005 8:18 pm
UMmmmmm why am i JUST NOW finding out about this date?|