BDSM/Is it too kinky? too scary? is it only for the strange?  

FoxyCaramel1028 43F
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1/8/2006 9:14 am

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BDSM/Is it too kinky? too scary? is it only for the strange?


BSDM (Is it wrong)

Everyone somehow form of shape have experienced BSDM. For those that doesn't know the meaning of the term I will provide the definition:
Bondage (BD)
Bondage & Discipline (B&D)
Domination & Submission (D&S, DS, D/S)
Sadism & Masochism (or Sadomasochism) (S&M, SM)
All of these abbreviations are combined which is called BDSM.

Why am I bringing this in the forefront of one of my BLOGS to discuss. I do want everyone opinion of this. BSDM for those that haven't done these sort of acts, most people actually think BDSM is Dark, a place where people that have some sort of Psychological issues. A place where people form some type of sadistic practices. BSDM is a alternative lifestyle where someone can really be open without having close minded people judge you. Another form of Erotica a Mind Plesuring Experience.

When I was first introduced into the BDSM lifestyle at the age of 19 I was nervous I wasn't sure what was going to happen. This individual that I have dated in college, was a nice normal conservative All American guy he was a gentleman and very polite and respectful his Major was Pre-Med. When we went out a couple of times and formed a friends w benefit type of thing. One of the times that we gotten together we had this discussion of fantasies. One of my fantasies was to be fucked by two guys. My sexual dream came true he provided me with a friend of his and that was great. He told me one of his fantasies, which was to be spanked,tied up and submit to a woman pleasures and needs. He told me that due to stress with college and pressures to be a perfect person. He wanted to have someone to spank, tie him up and blindfold,Humiliate him verbally and Taking complete advantage of him. Of course when he presented this idea I was shocked.. however the surprise went away. He wanted me to be his Mistress or Madam, someone to Dominant him for hours and hours on end. We have done that several times and I actually had this type of power and control that I never thought I could have.

We all in some shape or form have experience BDSM. Whether its just plain handcuffs, a doggy style position where spanking is involved. To blindfolds. Most people don't want to admit to it to who they are dating or deal with because that person may think they are sick, and have some type of mental issues. I myself think its a place where you can let go a lot more outside the box.

So have I been a dominant or a submissive before? yes several times. I have been called what one calls "A switch". Yes I could have gotten on a BDSM website and seeking that. However I am someone that is seeking a lover and friend. I have no expectations to bring that to whom I am involved with. Unless he is ok with the lifestyle and want to try something different. Being in that lifestyle its all about trust and being very comfortable. I have a free sexual mind and love to experience what is out there within reason..

choclit76 48M
3 posts
1/9/2006 10:18 am

i love the fact that u don't have any problems with having a very open mind about your sexual experiences. some folk have problems with anything outside of the norm. people never really know what they might truly enjoy because of their conservative views. i'm 38 blk man, who is married, looking to explore my secrets with someone that is experience like u. so if u are looking for a student, please respond back.


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