We say we don't judge others BUT is that really true?  

FeelinFriendly2 47F
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8/3/2006 10:36 am

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8/5/2006 1:55 am

We say we don't judge others BUT is that really true?

I was thinking about this today and really if you think about it I believe we all judge others too a extent. Whether it is by looks, personality, or whatever. Everyone is picky in what they are looking for. It seems like we all have our own tastes and is what makes everyone so unique. Being a plus sized lady i tend too see alot of people judge by size and shape. It is like people are looking for perfection when in all reality not one of us is meant too be perfect. Sure i tend too look more for personality but even i tend too be picky. I am looking for a person with a sweet disposition, a great sense of humor, stability, a open mind, sense of adventure, a person who can communicate ect ect. It seems like the list goes on forever. Is this why happiness is so hard too find? Maybe we expect too much. Maybe we go based more on the outside then on the inside. Maybe we just don't give some good people the chance out of fear of rejection. I don't know. I just know that in all reality everyone of us is picky in our own degree. Whether right or wrong and whether we want too admit it or not we do all judge. I think this is what frustrates me so. I try so hard too always please others and be there for those i care about. I try too be confident and strong inside, but in reality just keep building that wall higher and higher around my heart for fear of being hurt. Being judged for not being good enough. Trying not too show those feelings inside that ache too be desired and cared for. I guess i just feel like i am holding myself back and don't know why? This is my own wall i must get over. I need too learn how too accept myself for who i am and let others see that. Maybe i need too quit being so picky and just be me.

silvereclipes2 50M

8/4/2006 1:59 am

i'm the same feelin too even tho i look for a person that has what it taker's on the inside i always seem to also look at whats on the outside too. even have throwing away some really good lady's that didn't meet what i was looking for on the outside even tho they were great on the inside too. guess we all have the flaw in us it is what draws us to that other one with hopes we will find that perfect person.even tho we all know their is nobody perfect in all areas we keep looking and won't settle for any thing else but perfection.

countryheart_71 45F
8082 posts
8/4/2006 5:43 am

That is one of the reasons that I always look to the inside by taking my time to talk to them, listen, and alot of times by watching them. You can learn so much about a person in these ways. The wall is hard to break down. I am still learning that but as a good friend of mine has told me, you won't know until you take that wall down and give it a chance. Good luck to you in your search!


rm_sizzlin57 59M

8/4/2006 3:05 pm

I say you should go for the guy that suck the least. That way you don't have your standards so high that nobody can meet them.

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