So we never talk about sex..........  

Fallic40 53M
3214 posts
8/5/2005 5:27 pm
So we never talk about sex..........

As many people notice, and many others have pointed out, I never really talk much about sex and dating and women.

It's not that I am not interested in this. I am really interested in this. It has been 7 months since I last got laid and that is way too long.

The real problem is that, for me, casual sex has always been difficult. I am not a fast food kind of guy.

Unfortunately, I find that my life is very full, without being fulfilling, and there really is not a lot of time to date and meet.

So how do I proceed beyond this? I have lots of new friends out there and I want, and expect, all of you to weigh in on this subject and it's related posts over the next few weeks.

We are going to get me laid.

DirtyLilSecret61 55F

8/5/2005 7:29 pm

When you figure out how, lemme know.

I'm next month's cover story in the American Journal of Medicine as proof that the hymen really DOES reattach itself.


frogger1995 39F

8/5/2005 7:33 pm

It sounds as though your aim IS to get laid, though you mention you don't like casual sex. I have found that a lot of people here are in your situation, very busy and looking for fun. How long have you been on this site? If not too long, be patient!

redmartinigirl 43F

8/5/2005 10:42 pm

you are in a serious catch 22 situation!! no easy solution to it. it sounds to me like all you really want is the occassional fuck buddy, so spend time getting to know someone on that level - and yes it does take time and effort! but if you're real from the beginning and so is she, you shouldn't have a problem. It also might help if you had a real picture of you on your profile rather one from some e-mail joke that's going around.

just my two cents!

Barbiebunny69 43F

8/6/2005 9:51 pm

maybe u should reevaluate your beliefs about sex/pleasure.

It seems u have an all or nothing attitude. Either im in love and having sex or Im not gonna have a one night stand.

How about being open to Ms. Right Now? Miss tuesday and thursday night, a good friendship and pleasure?

But red has it right, you need to be honest with yourself, then others can gravitate towards you...u have the wit to catch a lovely womans eye
Good luck!

CuriousKitty675 41F
365 posts
8/7/2005 9:45 am

What you need, fromt he sound of it darling, is a special friend. Someone who is not looking for instant eternal love but isn't just looking for a f*ck buddy either. A special friend is someone who you can hang out with, talk to, share things with but there is that extra little connection that allows you to be intimate and yet still only friends.

I've had one of these in my life and he was a treasure. Neither of us felt bad about the relationship as it stood and the sex didn't change the friendship. There was respect mutually and no jealousy if the other found a boyfriend or girlfriend. To us it was simply the connection of two souls when we were together. The intimacy of being that close to another person.

I've never found another like him. They are rare and precious when you do find them. I wish you the best. And I hope you find someone to fill your needs.

rm_jayR63 59F
1884 posts
8/8/2005 3:52 pm

LIL I bet I got your record beat.

Fallic40 53M
1858 posts
3/1/2006 6:51 pm

jay, maybe we need to have a poll?

Fallic40 53M
1858 posts
3/1/2006 6:52 pm

frogger, of course my aim is to get laid. But I want it to be more than just a casual one night stand kind of thing.

Fallic40 53M
1858 posts
3/1/2006 6:54 pm

Lil, and just think, there are women paying good money to get theirs reattached and you have figured out how to do it for free.

Fallic40 53M
1858 posts
3/1/2006 6:55 pm

barbiebunny, you make a lot of good points.

Fallic40 53M
1858 posts
3/1/2006 6:56 pm

redmartinigirl, your points are very valid; but trust me when I say that there is a very good reason for the picture.

Fallic40 53M
1858 posts
3/1/2006 6:57 pm

sakrilej, yes indeed I want something a little more than most.

Fallic40 53M
1858 posts
3/1/2006 6:58 pm

curiouskitty, that is indeed what I would love to find.

Fallic40 53M
1858 posts
3/1/2006 6:59 pm

sexyfitwoman, 7 months is way, way, too long.

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