Healing wounds  

Fallic40 53M
3214 posts
7/28/2005 10:34 pm
Healing wounds

September 1st will be the 7th anniversary of my divorce being finalized. September 12th will be the 8th anniversary of my splitting with my ex-wife. These dates are etched into my psyche.

In that time so many things have changed and so many things have stayed the same. Most important of all is the love we have for our daughters. Nothing, including the two of us, is more important than the two of them.

In that time I have added 20 pounds in weight (some in muscle, some not), a lot of scar tissue from knee surgeries, a couple of incomplete romances, a master's degree in mathematics, a lot of emotional scarring from all of the doubt that creeps in from "failing" at something for the first time, and a clearer understanding of who I am and and who I am not.

And sometimes, in a moment of rare lucidity, I find that my ex-wife and I are still thinking along the same lines: especially when it comes to the girls and that we can exist together.

I remember that there was love and caring in our relationship. And so yesterday, I e-mailed her and told her what a great mother she was and what an incredible job of raising our daughters she had done. And I meant every word.

So send someone an e-mail today to mend a rift or to heal a wound. The wounds you heal might be your own.


rm_FreeLove999 46F
16127 posts
7/30/2005 10:17 am

actually i'm in a different process of widening rifts, and right now, that is the right process for me! the gaps i'm closing -- which is much more healing -- is the ones between and people i've never met before ...



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Barbiebunny69 43F

7/31/2005 6:24 pm

wow..swoon


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