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FILLY25 37F
105 posts
6/8/2006 6:28 am

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1/13/2007 10:53 pm

hmmmmmm


ok ppl lets talk about online relationships..... are they really worth it?..... do they ever work out for anyone? .....dose anyone honestly find true love through the use of their comp?....is it just a fantacy world?......im starting to think their more trouble than their worth ... i mean what good can possibly come out of it? ......from my stand point it seems nothing but heart ache & pain ... or the occasional mind fuck ..... but thats just my oppnion ... whats yours?

pretty_blue_eyes 38F
2091 posts
6/8/2006 8:08 am

I really don't know. I think that the majority of the time its not going to last, its to easy for people to be someone or something they aren't. Sooner or later the real person is going to come out and their "significant other" may not like what the see. That and its just a game to lots of people online. "Lets see who I can screw with today" lol.


Fritz104 56M
282 posts
6/8/2006 7:14 pm

Interesting choice of words......


rm_burnyfive4u 43M

6/8/2006 9:11 pm

Not worth the time and effort. You just can not get to know someone over the computer. We all have a mind and ideas but we are all basically still animals. You have to meet someone face to face. Smell them, feel them, see them, taste them to know if you can really be with them. Ideas are great in theory but I have never really had that great of one but I have meet some really awesome women face to face that changed my life. Kick the computer to the curb and plan a social in your town.


FILLY25 37F

6/8/2006 9:55 pm

yeha i thought you might like that... lol


rockerboy66 50M

6/9/2006 8:24 pm

to burny....hopefully I cant smell them....maybe their perfume but if i smell them...Im outta there, lol
It's frustrating at times but obviously we're all still here...


squezemetight 34M
103 posts
6/9/2006 8:43 pm

you get more out of face to face meetings then you do spending years talking to someone online. i seem to find all the psychos online or at bars so....fuck it. i think i'll stick with going to work. coming home and working the farm. then going to bed only to do it all over again the next day.


rm_horney633 53M

6/13/2006 11:44 am

The problem with on line is you can pretend to be anything you want. Then when you actually meet!!!! On line has actually let me be myself. No image to project. In person i get nervous & shy sometimes. So it depends on the person to weather they are honest about themselves or just pretending.


towerman61462 41M
7 posts
6/24/2006 1:19 pm

Unfortunately, your right, it IS a lot of hassle. But I think a bit of a craps shoot... you very rarely "win" but I think this to be easier to at least MEET people. Like my experience here in Springfield, everyone seems to be in way to much of a hurry, or they make pop judgements from afar. I'm not saying that looks are not important, but someone could be having a bad day, or anything. So I say this is just another means to an end to find someone you can be happy with, just a bit more comfortable, for some, than the bar scene. But hey what do I know...


rm_otrdriver101 45M

6/24/2006 11:55 pm

No online is a good way to meet someone new you might not have met otherwise, but it's no substitute for face to face meeting. Spending time with someone is a much better way of finding out who that person truely is inside.


FetchLingsThews 52

6/26/2006 11:27 pm

i've been doing this for about a year...i've meet some very interesting people...some i'd wish i'd met under different circumstances....others i wish i hadn't met at all....but through it all...u get what u pay for...now i just want sex, so that's all i look for...that way, nobody gets hurt when its a mutual feeling...some here search for love, that magical person that will make them happy for the rest of their lives....to them i say, stop dreaming and get real...anytime u meet on sites like these to have casual sex...u cheapen the value of love...especially when it was love that u sought in the first place. online relationship never work when there's the anticipation of a loving, lasting relationship...however, love can develop if raw sex is replaced with real emotional time together...not chatting on a computer... if you are frustrated with a monogamous relationship...this is definitely not the place to spice things up....maybe a one time thrill might do the trick...but continously sharing your lives and your bodies with strangers...yes we are all strangers here...put an extra burden on an already fragile relationship....i just figure my rant would give you a different perspective....by the way, you want to meet for sex...lol...let me know seriously...i'm on yahoo....thebigunit_63....


MrTickleStick4u 41M

7/10/2006 11:54 pm

Heya Filly25, I dont know if there worth it or not...I personally have'nt had much luck with em in my short time trying...But who knows...maybe that something special could happen??? I dunno, I guess I'm a hopeless romantic. B.T.W. my real name is steve and I just joined the springfield group. I hope we can get to know one another better. Your quite beautiful (im sure u get that all the time). Please give me a holler if u have the time. take care.


curious-in-mo 43M
1 post
8/15/2006 2:23 pm

I found someone, not only online, but on THIS site nearly 7 years ago. I love her completely. She is the greatest person I have ever met. End of story.


6inaround7inlong 47M

8/17/2006 8:33 pm

I would just like to say that it depends on how true to yourself you stay. Like one of you said, you can be whoever you want and then when it comes time to actually meet that person, you're someone else. My perspective on it is this: If you were to meet the love of your life on your own without the net', it works. History has proved that. The only difference that I see is that in that situation, the chances of you meeting someone that shares a lot of your same interests, desires, etc. are a lot fewer and so you BOTH HAVE TO LEARN THE MEANING OF SACRIFICE AND SWALLOWED PRIDE because you have to actually WORK on the relationship! It's not 50/50 it's 100/100! You can still find somone on the net' but you can find out their interests, likes, dislikes, a lot sooner and save youself SOME hassle. Reguardless, people don't know how to put WORK into relationships anymore and I think that when you occasionally meet some old couple who've been married for 50 years and they're still very much in love (which I beleive you will see less and less of as time goes on which supports my theory), over the years, they have both gone through changes and learned how to accept those changes and adapt TOGETHER. Just my opinion.


8inchcockring 39M

9/7/2006 8:47 am

i think meeting is important but if you are looking for a relationship it takes more than just one meeting to find someone you are truly passionate about. on here i think most of the guys you will mett on this site will only be interested in sex.... that is why most of us come here. see i am married but i love sex and i am bi curious so i enjoy both worlds. i am not looking for a relationship so i tell people up front that. as far as finding a relationship i would have to tell you to just be yourself and go about your daily life -- someone will come along and sweep you off your feet. and as far as the physical needs along the way this is the place to be -- just find yourself a fuck buddy to help you get the physical urges out of the way and eventully someone will come along and you can cut off the buddy because there are no feelings involved. this is how i met my wife -- i had a buddy that was just a friend and nothing more just someone to have sex with from time to time and i met my wife but because of not haveing to deal with baby batter on the brain we had a great time getting to know each other and even though i wanted to sleep with her so much i didnt because i had my friend to help me with that. belive me try it it works. and by the way if you are looking for a buddy -- married work the best -- no strings no ties -- im available too LOL. good luck and hope this helps, worked for 2 of myfriends as well -- including my fuck buddy she is now happily married and we still talk once in a great while but no feeling or strings.


more2love06 36F
1 post
10/16/2006 4:57 pm

I met my husband on line. We've been together for nearly seven years and will celebrate our 1 year anniversary this month. It was hard. We knew each other for a year before we fell in love and then had to wait another 6 months before we met face to face. Luckly the connection that was on line translated very well into real life. I couldn't be happier with him and if it hadn't been for the internet I never would have met him as he lived in California and I was living in Texas.


rm_travlman38 48M

1/9/2007 4:13 pm

Well i can't seem to find true love in the reality world or cyber world. I know true love exist cause i see it with my friends/neighbors. I envy them for what they have. Take my best friends who live across the street from me. They have been married for 25yrs now and I can tell you where they are every night. They are sitting side by side on the loveseat watching tv and/or reading a book. They are happy with there lives and I only wish I could have what they have. Ofcourse I would need more going out time with my true love than they do, but that's not how they are. Everytime that I've told a woman that I love her, she makes me regret ever saying it. So I QUIT! Not going to look anymore. If it happens then it happens. If it don't then I have no problem groing old alone.


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