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Got Loose with the Survey's
Got Loose with the Survey's
On the rare occasion I'll go poke my nose into some survey sites where the surveys are built by your not quite so average folks. I can't quite say that they're all that much insightful, but they are interesting with the outcomes.
For the soul (and he should know who he is) who suggested that I'd be the type of gal who'd flirt about showing a little bit of cleavage, a little bit of leg, and then show up to a study session wearing sweats and an oversized t-shirt... the answer is, yes, I'd do just that. I've been married and divorced twice within a ten year time-span and have known nine people with varrying degrees of sexual intimacy. Long story short, with the important folks I've done the fancy dressing, the cute nightie, and definately the thigh high garters and stockings (still have my thigh-high boots without heels, I hate heels, but that was more for a 16th century costume reinactment thing), they either were clueless, which I doubt, or in the case of my second ex-husband, he just ignored me. Sad to say, the idiot was one who, as he put it, didn't like being teased. That is to say, foreplay was not his thing at all. This coming from the man who talked big, and even stole my leather cuffs when he left me, but he couldn't put out at all. No, I'm not bitter, just annoyed, and disillusioned.
I am a demanding woman. I want what I want who I want it from. Which means that no matter what anyone says, I have no intents of ditching my fiancee and hopping into the sack with a soul even if they just want a passing fling. I've done the threesome. I've done the secretly masturbating a member of the opposite sex in public. I've done the BDSM and all the other letters of the alphabet. I've even had sex in a car, and been fondled in the movie-theater. Fun as it all can be, it's not worth diddley to do while I can't sort out things with the fiancee. I'm going to be with him for the rest of our lives, unlike the previous two husbands, and I will get what I want and need with time, patience, and training him as well as myself. Long story short (my favorite phrase), how can I really indulge in all the other flavors in life if I can't get my regular ice cream to taste right first.
You scored 100 imagination, 83 confidence, 62 dominance, and 41 generosity!
You are a KINKY, CONFIDENT, DOMINANT lover who prefers to RECEIVE.
This means that:
You like relatively kinky sex, and you have the great imagination that will always keep your partner guessing and excited! There's no getting bored with you around, you could never settle for dull sex, you want something fun and new all the time. You aren't afraid to try out anything you hear about. You might just be an intelligent lover who needs to be mentally engaged, or perhaps you have some dirty dark secret kinky desires, but either way, you're never boring.
You are pretty confident in bed. This means that you know you can please your lover. Maybe you've read a lot of sex manuals, or have the experience from previous lovers, or just tend to be skilled at whatever you get your hands on, but you're good and you know it. You can really get results and know that you have pure talent, so you won't be hiding away shy, pretending to be all innocent. Your partners love your naughty self assurance, you don't hesitate and this makes you a sensational lover.
You tend to be dominant in bed, so you prefer to be the one giving the orders than taking them. Maybe you like the power, or just like controlling the pace, perhaps your partner likes to be dominanted, or maybe you get a kick out of the whole master/slave relationship, it could be something as small as liking to be on top during sex and tie up your lover to tease them, or it could be as kinky as them having to ask your permission to do anything at all. Either way, you are firm and you enjoy it!
You would rather Receive than Give. This usually applies more to Oral sex than anything else, and other types of foreplay. This could be for a number of reasons. Maybe you are just very hooked on the sensation of orgasm, maybe you feel you deserve to be treated like a god/goddess, maybe you just aren't confident about your skills when it comes to returning the favour. Maybe you are lazy. Or maybe your partner loves to give and that suits you fine, so everyone is happy. Either way, remember to be a giver sometimes too, as long as your partner likes it.
WE SUGGEST YOU TRY:
Fluffy handcuffs, soft whips. You have the kinky factor that will mean you'll enjoy playing games in bed, and using these fluffy cuffs rather the metal sort of the just a silk scarf means you will be tied firmly, but comfortably. You can't get away, but you wont be in any pain. However, we know you'd rather do this to your lover than be tied up yourself, so feel free, or take turns! Enjoy some light flogging with a soft whip, just to see if you like being spanked, or use your hand. Nothing too heavy, but a little bit kinky.
NOTE: Yes, it's true. Considering my disappointment with both my first marriage, and my first affair, I will admit that I tend to take control of things in the bedroom because otherwise there's just no satisfaction. Communication is a big key, but it's hard to communicate when one is in heat, and the partner is fumbling about. I am a pain in the ass realist: There is no knight in shining armor, no pirate in whatever cloths they bother wearing, and certainly no romantic man who will come to sweap me off my feet, pay half my bills and put up with my occasional snoring, and blue attitude when I'm feeling down in the dumps. Romance is a flash in the pan, heat of the moment sort of thing. I'm the kind of person who, although I like that sort of stuff (okay, I'm admitting it!), knows that the best way is to have the fire not smothered, but under a healthy pile of wood so that it slowly burns within.
You scored 50% Experience, 71% Adventurousness, 74% Kinkyness, and 50% Corrupt!
You have definitly found your way to pleasure. You know what you like and continue to do it. Do not hesitate to continue to push your limits. Do not get stuck only doing what is comfortable. Sometimes we learn the most about ourselves when we push ourselves harder and further on the journey to self discovery.
If wishes were fishes, I would not be living with my future mother-in-law, nor would I live in an apartment. Either she would be away for a week, or I would want to have my own small home (which I can't get anywhere near to affording right now). Privacy is a wonderful thing, especially when one (ME) tends to get rather vocal during a good bout. Yes, there was even one time when I woke the neighbors in the next house over, didn't realize that the house I was in was a duplex and the upstairs neighbor heard too (until months later), but the police cruiser did indeed drive by.
Yes, I vent all this, and then in public no one knows a thing, and that's how I like it. Nice thing is about this place, I can air things out, and I don't have to worry about facing people the next morning in the office with them in the know.
As they say, it's the quiet ones you have to look out for.