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Us 40 year olds have to stick together
Us 40 year olds have to stick together
Getting older is not nearly as much fun as it sounded in the brochure; I'm thinking of asking for my money back.
OK, I'll be forty-one in another month or so which is old enough to realized that forty-one is not that old in the scheme of things but it's not nineteen either. My dreams of an NBA career or an Olympic gold medal in the high jump are pretty much shot to hell at this point.
Dating, relationships and sex all seem to change the older I get. When I was twenty and in college, getting a date was as simple as turning around in line at the bookstore and talking to the girl behind you. Not that I ever actually did that. I was even more of a nerd then than now but I got some dates.
After a few years people started getting married and dropping off the radar. But the then we start reemerging in our thirties and forties when the divorce statistics catch up to us. That's where I am now. I'm like a submarine that was on a fifteen year mission. I've just resurfaced and I don't recognize any landmarks.
By the time we reach forty we've all been burned so badly so many times that you can smell the brimstone on us. It's not that we know what we want any more than we did when we were younger, but we sure as hell know want we don't want.
Personally, I will take a forty year old woman over a twenty year old woman any day of the week. Hear me out; I'm not just selling an "it's what's on the inside that counts" bill of goods here. I even prefer the shape of a woman at forty than that of twenty. There was probably a time when the idea of a woman's skin being so tight you could bounce a quarter off it would appeal to me but these days I prefer the idea of a feather bed to a military cot.
I like a forty year old face better too. The lines are just starting to show; around the eyes maybe, or at the corners of the mouth. She has a face that knows you, even if she's just met you. It's a face that knows herself too. A twenty year old smile says "OK, I guess, whatever." But a forty year old smile says "Come home, I've been waiting for you."
Another thing. At the risk of sounding a little too touchy-feely, the inside does count. Come on people you remember being twenty. Well, at least some of it. You didn't know a damn thing about anything, but you thought you did. And that, my friends, made you both stupid and dangerous. I don't know anything now but at least I know it. I grew up in the 70's and 80's and it's nice to be able to share some of the same memories and experiences with another person. A forty year old woman has been through a lot of the same things that I've been through. It's like war veterans; there is a certain camaraderie that comes from having been in battle. What does a twenty year old know about failure or disappointment? "Hehehe, when I graduate I'm going to work for BigCo and get an apartment in NYC and travel the world and hehehe…" No your not! Your going to meet a guy in a bar your senior year, move in with him, have his baby, and he's going to leave you for another twenty year old. Come back in twenty years when you know who you are.
I don't mean to insult anyone. I'm sure you twenty year olds don't want to be with me either. I'm just saying that I'm forty and that's not the worst thing in the world.
3/4/2005 1:37 pm
interesting I understan your view.Im 43 yet I disagree.I find it just as easy to meet and date and get sex as when I was 20.I guess it has to do with staying in great shape all theses years.I only wish I was 20 so I could get the younger ones.I dont like the idea of getting older either.But given where I am in life I am having the best time of my life!Im not looking for miss right any more Im not interested in that at least not now.I do meet great women who are potential for "life time partners" I have realized all relationships no matter how great are temporary,So I enjoy it as long as it works, and is good.As I said Im enjoying my dating with the range from late 20 -50yr.olds Each has its own plus and minus but its all good!I just joined this site,not cause I cant get sex else where,Im just very curious at this stage of my life.and open to new things.I enjoyed your blog Thanks! Maximus4vr2.......|