Q about face pics?  

EroticallyRapt 55M
286 posts
6/17/2005 4:35 am

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Q about face pics?

I've put quite a few pics on my profile because I believe in being upfront about my appearance. Most of them are nude because this is a sex site, after all I assume that most people are interested in seeing what the body of the person they are considering looks like. However, I drew a line at including a picture of my full face. Sure, I put the one with my eyes up. But, not enough of my face to identify me easily. So, here's my question:

Does someone that includes a picture of their face in a message get more consideration than someone that doesn't?

Also, would you meet someone without ever seeing a picture of them (face or otherwise)?


rm_qcao1 48F
197 posts
6/17/2005 5:55 am

The answer to the first question is, yes.

I give more consideration to e-mails with photo, as I appreciate making an effort to send a photo, and little consideration to e-mails without photo, unless e-mail is very impressive.

The answer to the second question is, no.

I never meet anybody off the internet without seeing their photo first, that is one rule I never break. I have heard so far all the excuses in the world you can come up with, from being a famous person, to strict company policies not sending photos over internet...nothing works with me, no photo, no meeting, period.

rm_cele2flowers 42F
75 posts
6/17/2005 6:35 am

For me, the picture tends to be irrelevant. Though I'm a bit ashamed to admit that some pics have actually kept me from wanting to get to know some people. The physical attraction just wasn't there. I might give more consideration to someone without the picture, just because of the mystery, but even the guys that put just a pic of their cock is about as good as no pic at all.

I have met people with and without a picture. I'll admit that having their pic has helped to pick them out where we meet because I always choose a public place to meet people.

GleesFlakyShawl 50M
1620 posts
6/17/2005 6:56 am

i assume ur asking the question to the ladies

anyways, i reply, in my case i pay more consideration to people who can be articulate, for me brain is the most exciting organ...

candietweet23 30F

6/17/2005 7:54 am

I never see the pix of people i meet. Likewise, they dont expect to see mine. I love to imagine and modify my images with the more infor i get from the person. I love surprises too. So meeting "mysterious" people is something i love.

Barbiebunny69 43F

6/17/2005 8:57 am

i like face pics gets a general idea and demeanor of the person to a certain extent

rm_affbreak 46M
287 posts
6/17/2005 9:03 am

I'm going to 'stay anonymous'. It happened to me that girls aborted chat contact for not showing my face to them... I pity them, not me.

1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
6/17/2005 9:08 am

I love to see pics...although i do not expect a face pic right away...i do espect to get one before meeting...does this sound shallow ER? There has to be some sort of physical attraction for me to want to meet...

I have only ever met one person without seeing him first and i was quick to find out why he refused to send me a photo...

GoddessOfTheDawn 105F
11240 posts
6/17/2005 9:15 am

There's a difference in profile picz and picz in messages ~ at least in my opinion.

but ey, that's just me....

007sexy40plus 51F  
7603 posts
6/17/2005 9:43 am

I would never meet a man without seeing what he looks like first. The way pics are stolen from others on here makes me question if it is really the person in the first place. I have been here a while now and never got foolish enough to do that. Besides, seeing a photo of the person first and you don't see an attraction, you wont have to waste precious time meeting them. That is how I see it. And yes sending photos in an email get's first priority.

*side note to candietweet23, please be careful when you do what you do. I like mystery only in movies. These people could be anybody. Dont put yourself in a postion to become a statistic. I am not telling you this to be mean but if you are truly 19, you need to be extra careful. I am almost 40 and have run into a lot of undesirables that frightened me with the words they say to me. Thats one thing about the internet, people can become everything and everyone but not who they actually are. Treat them as poison until you learn more. "never trust a big cock and a smile" (or a little one for that matter)


I am the real deal! "Come Get Me!!!"

rm_Teaontheside 50F

6/17/2005 9:58 am

I like to have a face to go with the message. I only meet with men after we have corresponded a bit, including a face pic at some point.

pussinboots4u 50M/47F

6/17/2005 11:02 am

For us, yes, I open the messages with pictures first - I've also added on our profile that a picture should be included (I have to go back and check to see that it says face pic - because that is what I meant).

Still we answer all messages and request face pics, it is an added step then. The reason we want a picture is because we want to make sure this isn't a family member - a business associate - so on and so forth. And to be honest, yes, I'd like to know that their is some sort of physical attraction there.

I have myself met someone off the internet without seeing a picture - met him on a message board, developed a friendship with him first and then we met - he was from out of town, I had information on his background, so I knew he was not related - lol.

With that being said, no, physical attraction is not the only important factor, if their is a mental attraction, it is even better. It can be really hard to develop that sort of relationship through AdultFriendFinder email though. I do see that happening in bloggland though.

young_ass_freak 31F

6/17/2005 11:42 am

I like mystery men, and mystery women for that matter!


6/17/2005 11:51 am

Well since my first attraction to a man has always been the eyes, I like to see a pic. Would I meet with out a pic ,hmmmmmmm perhaps , adds a bit of mystery to it.


bella_ 47F
4030 posts
6/17/2005 7:03 pm

I don't think its abnormal if someone doesn't post a face photo...discretion is needed most times. Before meeting I would require a photo though as I would provide one also.

EroticallyRapt 55M
336 posts
6/18/2005 3:41 am

Wow, thanks for all of the input!

I encourage both men and women to answer, [blog dz2502].

I try to be as firm about seeing a pic before meeting as [blog qcao1], [blog i_heart_cock2], [blog straightten2002], & bella_ say they are. I had a few severely dissapointing experiences many years ago with women I had met in chat rooms.

candietweet23, I've got to agree with [blog straightten2002]'s advice about who you meet IRL.

Good point, Barbiebunny69. I think so, too.

I've found that the ones that refuse to share a pic usually have a reason, 1playfulgal. And, no, you're not shallow. You just know what turns you on

I think I see what you're getting at, GoddessOfTheDawn. That's a good way to keep some "mystery" in things. It's certainly working with me as far as you're concerned

You're a daring woman, BLONDENEEDSSEX! I guess I've been on too many "blind" dates...

Those are some of the reasons that I chose not to use a face pic in my profile, pussinboots4u. I agree that a mental attraction makes it even better. But, there's got to be a physical attraction on some level, too, for me. It just doesn't work without it, if ya know what I mean...


papyrina 51F
21133 posts
6/18/2005 2:38 pm

a face pic on a profile if i like it,will make me write to them,a face pic in a mail i will generally answer,dick pics in mail i don't bother answering

I'm a

i'm here to stay

EroticallyRapt 55M
336 posts
6/19/2005 2:48 am

papyrina, I'll never understand why a man would send a lady a picture of his dick, only. Is that all he has to offer? As I say in my profile, "chemistry is about more than just body parts".


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