Openness and conversing are key...if you ever want to meet with me (yep, another rant *smirks*)  

Ember72 44F
93 posts
10/19/2005 7:56 am

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Openness and conversing are key...if you ever want to meet with me (yep, another rant *smirks*)

So, I thought maybe I had started chatting with someone that I could possibly meet in the very near future (not female, but yet another male *smirks*) but I'm not so sure now. It just seems like not much actual talking gets done but just flirting stuff...and I really don't see how any one can expect to meet another person if there is no conversing going on. I mean, if you're just going to meet to hang out, you kind of have to be able to talk about things. One would think anyway. I mean, what else are you going to do? Just sit there in uncomfortable silence and stare at the walls??

Of course, after you've met with a person several times and become friends, it's not always necessary to talk. As the line goes in one of my favorite movies... Mia: "Don't you hate that?" Vincent: "What?" Mia: "Uncomfortable silences. Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about b*llsh*t in order to be comfortable?" Vincent: "I don't know." Mia: "That's when you know you found somebody special. When you can just shut the f*ck up for a minute, and comfortably share silence." .. of course, Vincents answer is: "I don't think we're there yet. But don't feel bad, we just met each other."

Yeah, so... I have no problem sharing silence with someone .. but I'd kind of like to talk in the beginning and get to know one another. See if there is that "click" ya know? You guys know the click I'm talking about. That feeling that just overcomes both of you and you know..."there is something here...there is magic at work when I talk with this person" ... the kind of excitement that comes when as you're talking, you realize that you have a LOT in common. One thing after another...just ... BAM! Click, click, click...omg, and you like that too?? Yeah.
When you can just comfortably talk with one another...the conversation just flows sooo easily, and before you know it, 2 hours have passed and it only feels like 15 minutes. I want, crave, and need that type of connection with someone. When I can talk that easily with someone (and the conversation does NOT revolve around sex) THAT is when I get excited and start to flirt and toy with the idea of meeting them (and then of course if the person and I really click, it no longer becomes a question about meeting, but a need that must be met eventually)

This is why I prefer one on one chatting rather than the whole meet and greet idea. I want to talk with someone for a while and get to know them, let them get to know me and see if we have things in common before we even discuss meeting. Because ultimately, there is no reason to meet with another if that click is not there. I'm sorry, but I'm not going to go out and find some one just for sexual things. I HAVE to know that person and care for them before I will become intimate in person with them. And of course it has to go both ways.

So, this is why I shoot guys down that say hi and then right away ask to go to yahoo (because it's the same thing with going to yahoo...why even bother if we have NOTHING in common? Nothing is going to happen why even bother? I get vibes with people fairly quickly, as far as if I think we'll have things in common and be able to carry on a good conversation...some it takes a few times emailing/pming and chatting in a room before I feel like it's ok to go to yahoo) anyway...if I'm that careful about going to yahoo, why on earth would I want to meet someone I just started talking to right then and there? Maybe there are some horny ass girls out there that just want to get laid. Or they completely forgot about BTK and that there ARE big time freaks out there and you really HAVE to be more careful (yeah...I just started talking to you, and I'll meet you tonight...without my husband present....RIIIGGGHHHT! Please! Give me a bit more credit than that!)

Anyway...I think I've run out of steam.
Another rant from your lil Fire Sprite *smirks*

As for the one guy that I might possibly meet...I dunno. I guess I'll see if he still comes around and talks to me (I might have scared him off or pushed him away) ... and if he does still come to talk to me, I'll just see how it goes over the next week. Maybe the conversation will start to flow. If not...*sighs*...then I really don't see the point in meeting. If he can't open up to me (I am trying to be patient and give him time to open up...I know it's probably hard for him to do so) but if he can't, then what's the point?
Guess I'll know with a bit more time.

rm_shortstout 48M
24 posts
10/21/2005 11:02 am

who is this person you speak of? maybe they need a name for reassurance. you know ...sometimes we need a little priming as well.
(as in needing our egos stroked).
you have a very supple little body that i would love to cum all over. if you dont mind me saying so.

Ember72 44F

10/21/2005 1:29 pm


He knows who he is. I showed him the entry and let him know. I'm a very open and honest person. I don't beat around the bush. If I'm thinking or feeling something, I let it be known. I don't hold back. So, yes..he knows

And thank you!


rm_kissme126 56M
23 posts
10/23/2005 9:37 pm

a very good point, i have been through the same with women. why meet if we dont click...


11/11/2005 2:42 pm

I know what you mean Ember72. Life is more than just sex sex sex. There are things like friends friends friends. Reguardless of who you are, you are going to have feelings just like the next guy/gal. So I ask you all, if your that horny and don't score the first time, go elsewhere. With me? I enjoy meeting people and making friends, and then if sex does happen then all the more power to us.

rm_Al6man 52M
3 posts
11/27/2005 1:44 pm

You are well spoken, one person from here was not so stable. She said she was "attached" and it seems it was to me. So, yes I agree be careful and say what you mean even if you have to be blunt. As for your situation, if it is met to be it will happen.

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