Invitations and more invitations  

Ember72 44F
93 posts
11/3/2005 8:49 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Invitations and more invitations

I’m so tired of receiving all these invites to join networks when the people have never even spoken to me before. To me, the network is reserved for those that have taken the time to talk to me a bit and we’ve established that we have some things in common, or at least can carry on a conversation. At the least, they are people that have at least emailed me or spoke to me in the chat rooms.

I know that the majority of people inviting that have not spoken to me are doing so mainly just so they can view the other pix I have on here, the ones in my album. And I know that some are only standard members and cannot email me, so it’s their way of communicating to me.

I feel really bad too, because there are some that are really nice and leave wonderful compliments and comments, but that is not enough for me to just go ahead and accept them (I do email them though and thank them). No, I have to at least have some form of communication first before I will accept the invites. It may seem rude. But that’s me, and that’s how it goes.

I think that once you’ve declined someone, you’re not allowed to invite again. And this goes back to the, I feel really bad. Because I’m sure some of them I WOULD eventually accept the invite. But instead of them trying to talk to me first, they go right for the invite, and….DECLINED. *sighs*

Ah well, just my rant for the day. If they think I’m a bitch for declining, so be it. I’m not going to accept every single invite I get. I’m here to make friends first and foremost. People that I can actually carry on conversations with that DON’T revolve around sex. The sexual stuff is ALWAYS an after thought with me. If a person can stimulate my mind with conversation, THAT is when I become turned on by them and will end up flirting with them.

*hint, hint, HINT, HINT peeps*
Heh

Don’t invite until you’ve talked to me some and make sure we have some things in common. If you’re looking for sexual stuff only, F’K off. I’m not interested.


Ember72 44F

11/3/2005 6:29 pm

no, once you've accepted or declined, you cannont send another invite
it tells you that you've already asked that person and therefore cannot ask them again
*shrugs*
ah well


mrgrimshade 44M

11/7/2005 7:48 am

Is the answer then just to leave them pending for awhile? more and more everyday I get closer to going silver just so I can start e-mails...not just winks and random shots...ohhh that reminds me



Grim


Ember72 44F

11/7/2005 12:00 pm

Well, when I end up with 20 invites, and there are a couple I want to accept...you can't just pick the ones you want to accept at that time and leave the others. You have to accept/decline all at once...if I just left the others I wasn't sure about, it would accept them when I hit the accept/decline button at the bottom. So I end up declining a whole bunch of people.

So...there ya go

I'm working on building my points back up again so I can get the silver membership free for another month. Every time I run my cam on here, I get more points. Only have about 500 more to go before I'll have enough again

And thank you


hansome617 41M
17 posts
11/8/2005 12:59 pm

Ember - you are a beatiful women.


smoovtlkr2u 49M
4 posts
11/12/2005 3:14 am

ember sure you are right about things but the question i have and sure others may have is how one contacts you in the room when you are swamped with statements, and not sound like they are desperate or stalking you...I realize this may sound weird but if i had the thought i am sure others have to


rm_Al6man 52M
3 posts
11/27/2005 1:26 pm

ember, non-paying emeber can't contact you unless they invie then it is limited. Besides you can always just not accept or decline until you get a couple emails. If they are just trying to hook up then you'll know by the email.


Ember72 44F

11/30/2005 8:39 am

One can find me in the chat room. I'm usually ALWAYS in the Girls Watching Guys On Cam Cum. Also, when I have my webcam going, one can page me and talk to me that way.

And as stated, when I end up with 70 invites waiting, and there are a couple I want to accept, I have to go through all of them. Won't let you pick and choose.

There have been some that I have declined when they first ask, and then after I've talked to them a couple of times in chat, I'll invite them to join.

If I had accepted every invite that I've got, I'd have like a thousand peeps in my network right now!


rm_Wyzdomm 58M
1 post
12/31/2005 9:55 am

I really don't blame you for not accepting all the invites, I'm sure you get bunches of them and it's nice to know that you have some regret about turning down some that may turn out to be a true friend. I'm sure you can understand that from a man's standpoint, a lot of our chances for success in meeting and getting to know a woman on this site is really a numbers game. That's just how life operates, I'm not complaining just being realistic. No, I haven't asked for an invitation (yet..lol) but I have sent an email. It's real, true and heartfelt. I don't believe in mass emails but wehn I do have something to say, I never know when they're actually read or not and this can get a little discouraging. I would much prefer a respectful, "No thank you" than just getting blown off. So again, thanks for the respect you have for the 'unknown' friends


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