The Perfect Man  

ElizabethAgain 39F
128 posts
4/18/2006 10:56 pm

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4/27/2006 6:42 pm

The Perfect Man

I dont expect to find my perfect match on here. If Im lucky I meet people who are enjoyable to be with, sometimes only briefly and sometimes longer.

My mother thinks that Im not going to get married.

She believes that I'm already past my best. Im 28, an old maid in my family, and worse, I dont feel any urgency to change.

She used to mention guys who I grew up with and the sons and nephews of her friends " Mrs Myer's nephew is at St Vincents now; he's a nice boy a brain surgeon you should meet him" or "Have you seen Daniel H-----z lately? You were so happy when you were dating him".

Nowdays she only asks what I have been doing and then sighs when I tell her about my work and my cases and my motorbike and my friends.

Poor mumma

More than half of the girls I went to school with are married with kids or divorced with kids and I still havent found that one guy who can press all of my buttons and who still wants to hang around long enough to love me forever.

Unlike my mother, I know he is still out there.

I know he's perfect.

I hope he doesnt know that he is.

8328 posts
4/18/2006 11:49 pm

I don't think you envy your friends who are divorced with kids.

That's not the position you ever want to be in.

It would severely limit the number of guys who would ever take you seriously for a relationship.

Don't worry about external pressure, if it happens, it happens.

Not sure if he'll be perfect though.....

Is anyone?


"My every move is a calculated step, to bring me closer to embrace an early death." -Tupac Shakur

rm_Colleridge 53M

4/19/2006 12:51 am

Reminds me of Billy Bragg:

"people always asking me when I'm going to be a man, but all the girls I knew at school are already pushing prams...."

bedroomice2003 44M

4/19/2006 1:13 am

Reminds me of that turkey curry buffet of Bridget Jones, where mum rounds up the list of usual suspects because her daughter is so frustratingly single.

I don't believe in perfect people, but there are perfect moments in time. Like a first kiss, you remember every detail of the encounter no matter how trivial. Or laying with your sweetie and laughing all night about the noises you make in bed.

These are the moments we share with a select few people that makes all the fear and anxiety and medocrity of life a little more bearable. Happiness is realising that, while none of us is perfect, our lives are a little brighter whenever we see that special someone.

There's no such thing as the perfect man (or woman), but with the right person, it won't really matter.


rm_lust2u2 51M

4/19/2006 3:49 am

I think it would be better for himself, "the perfect man", if you first have finished what ever you have to - all your "musts" - and in the long run, better for both of you
Just enjoy, la dolce vita, "be living" as a single woman... mmm, must be fun and great, or?

jd29992z 54M
3888 posts
4/20/2006 8:57 am

You are doing the right thing don't get married just to be married. There is an old saying "It is better to be lonely then miserable!" not saying you are lonley just it is just an example. If you have kids then get divorced it is a bad thing for everyone. Relax don't worry sometimes when you stop looking that is when you find what you are looking for.

rm_Snoopy29m 40M
172 posts
4/21/2006 6:14 pm

I don't think their is EVER a perfect match or perfect parnter in life.
The best we can do is have a parnter that understands you , loves you and accepts you , doesnt try to change you and be happy together.

LustyTaurus 48M  
21253 posts
4/23/2006 9:41 am

    Quoting rm_mzhunyhole:
    Awww sweetie enjoy life..ya got plenty of the way..I love your pic..its gorgeous!
MzHuny is right....just be patient and most of all be honest with yourself about what is or isn' holding you back...there is no law that says you have to get married at all, although it's a good life if you can get it right.

I too love your pic...


Curiouscheeky 70M

4/23/2006 8:56 pm

Dear ElizabethAgain
As a recent and curious observer of the phenomena of communicating via the internet it is refreshing to come across a blog which actually contains true feelings, one that confronts real issues, but at the same time shows your cheeky and humourous side. 28 in my book is only young and means you still have plenty of time to find that perfect guy (whatever perfect means?) - of course at 36 I am always going to think that 28 is young as I too am still looking for that Perfect partner. Deep down I am sure your mother is happy just to know that you are successful in your work and have a lot of friends who care about you. Just think how happy you will make her when that day finally on that note keep looking. Oh and if you like dark curly hair, green eyes, and a cheeky sense of humour I'm still looking (if only)..........

Island_Dave_ 55M
8 posts
4/24/2006 10:04 am

No ones ever perfect, I was always told theres someone out there for everyone. In time they will show themselves to you. You never know it could be the the guy next door, a lost contact, a new friend,an old friend. But I beleive theres someone meant for everyone.And when it happens you'll know, All your buttons will be going off like fireworks. You look like your in your prime and by no means an old maid. Your not divorced with kids, Try letting mumma know that it could be like that divorced with kids.I think when trying to be with someone there the wrong one to be with. Also trying to rush into a relationship does'nt often work. If you beleive in a higher power ask. Have a little faith,[/B]

youngNuntamed 32M
1 post
4/25/2006 7:03 pm

Perfect is such a heavy word, something not of this world..... Instead, try and look at it as balance. I know Im young in age but I've learned some of lifes lesson. You're awesome and things WILL fall in place, they always do.

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