Hollywood Sisterhood Yeah Right  

ElizabethAgain 39F
128 posts
4/25/2006 12:09 am

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4/27/2006 8:32 pm

Hollywood Sisterhood Yeah Right

Female friendship is one of the most tricky and complicated types of relationships around. Like our ideals of romantic love, our notions of friendship would probably fare better if we stripped away and gave up for good the Hollywood-style fantasies we have about it.

The breakups can be just as painful, though in a different way, as those at the end of any love story.

No matter how sophisticated we are today, our society is still patriarchal enough that many, if not most, women walk around feeling the good things in life -- men, work success, good lives for their children -- are like pieces of pie. For us, for some reason, there is only so much to go around.

We compete over men, over work, over anything perceived as limited goods. We do it as little girls, we do it as adults, we even do it, from what I hear, through our children.

The worst part is, unlike men, we pretend we don't.

Rivalry is a theme in many women's lives, possibly even a theme in every woman's life. We dont admit it.

Women have historically competed only with each other. And we are almost always harder on each other than we are on men.

Like anything else, it has to do with how we feel inside. A survey of 5,000 British women revealed only one in 50 is happy with the shape of her body, and that most women fret about their figures every 15 minutes.

How could we not compete when we feel so terrible?

Complicating things, are Hollywood ideals of friendship. If we could just give up that notion that our friends should be similar to us, "the twinning" syndrome, we wouldn't feel so abandoned -- and jealous -- when one of us changes our path.

rm_lust2u2 51M

4/25/2006 1:30 am

Another difference, among others ...when "a matter" come between us men, I think we are much more frank with each other... e.g. in my inner circle of friends, we weed out/clear the air now and then (no hot potatoes allowed), just to keep our circle reliable/fit/etc and to develop/strengthen our friendship.
And of course we are the most competitive group of men...

curious082385 31F
4925 posts
4/25/2006 5:53 am

I agree. Competition between women is subverse and subtle. Think about it...yes, we may get our hair highlighted or our nails painted because it makes us feel pretty. But we know that the majority of men aren't going to look at us and say "wow...those warm highlights and lowlights really bring out her eyes and that nail polish matches the bag perfectly." But other women notice details like that and we all know it.

Wordsmith2004 36M
7233 posts
4/25/2006 4:45 pm

.....and then the manfleshies the piggies like yours truly "divide and conquer" lol

seriously....right on!

Tell you what, You pump up your fellow sisters my sweet, and then I'll work on the menfolks and then for the bombastic battle of the sexes we'll all come out "swinging"

Never said anything about it being clean though.....

Conserve Water and Prevent Global Warming: Shower With A MILF!

BlondieInOz 34F

4/25/2006 10:58 pm


rm_Colleridge 52M

4/27/2006 9:13 am

More abhorrent to me than those pernicious female interactions of subversive competition are the, admittedly rare, instances of subversive male competition. If only there were a truly billious smilie....

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