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What Makes Women Cringe?
What Makes Women Cringe?
You casually walk into a bar looking stylish, sexy and sleek... or so you think. You believe you have what it takes to get a woman's phone number, but for some reason it's just not working. The reality is that you may be doing things that make women cringe without even realizing it.
Even if you are following all the right dating suggestions, there are a couple of additional things you must remember. First, women can be, well, weird. Just when you think you have them figured out, they do the complete opposite of what you were expecting.
Second, women have the luxury of being picky. If you do something that they dislike, they'll move on to the next guy waiting in line to pick them up.
From the time you get her number to the end of the first date and beyond, your behavior determines whether you'll still be dating in a week, a month, or a year.
Below are some cringe-inducing habits to avoid, along with some pertinent tips to assist you through the pick-up stage and into the first date.
The first few minutes of the initial meeting are crucial. Performing any one of the actions below may hinder your chances of moving on to the first date.
Staring at her breasts
You are more interested in her breasts than in her face, and you can't seem to take your eyes away from them. The worst thing is that you even think she likes having her chest ogled, which I can guarantee she doesn't.
What to do instead: Making consistent eye contact will make her feel like she's the only woman in the room. You may even want to compliment her eyes.
Checking out other women
You're talking to her, but your eyes are roaming around so you don't miss out on any other hotties. You always keep an eye on other options in the room.
What to do instead: Keep your attention on her the whole time in order to make her feel like she's the hottest thing you've ever encountered.
Having weird habits
Avoid picking scabs, constantly licking your lips or displaying any other little tics that make you look nervous.
What to do instead: If you're nervous, take a deep breath and slow down your breathing; this will also help you focus.
Being badly groomed
Inadequate grooming includes smelling bad, having bad breath, botching your shave job, and wearing wrinkled clothing.
What to do instead: Get into the habit of doing a once-over in the mirror for some last minute touchups before approaching her.
Assuming that buying her a drink will get you some action
You believe that spending money on her will provide you with a ticket into her panties.
What to do instead: Approach her with no expectations; she'll sense your casual and easygoing personality, which in turn will help her relax.
How to make it through the crucial first phone call and beyond
the first phone call
You have her number, now it's time to give her a call. To ensure a positive outcome, here are few things you shouldn't be doing.
Waiting the "obligatory" three days
Even though you want to phone her the next day, you don't want to seem desperate, so you follow the golden rule of waiting three days to call her. This is predictable; she'll see right through it.
What to do instead: Surprise her by calling her the next evening. Believe me, if she's into you, she'll be happy you did.
Calling too often
You call her more than once a day and leave a slew of messages, hoping that maybe she'll answer one of your calls.
What to do instead: Call only once a day and a maximum of two times before she calls you back. If she hasn't returned your call after you've called her twice, move on to other prospects.
If you're hungry, eat before or after you speak to her on the phone for the first time. Whether it's an apple or a pop tart, she won't enjoy hearing crunching and slurping sounds during your conversation.
What to do instead: Setting aside some time to call her when you aren't rushed will give her the impression that the moment is specifically for her.
You must give her your undivided attention. Therefore, avoid surfing the Net, watching TV or reading the newspaper while you're chatting.
What to do instead: If you are the type of person who gets easily distracted, allot a time limit for the phone call. Tell yourself (and only yourself) that you'll talk only for 10 minutes so that you will be able to give her your full attention.
Forgetting details about your first encounter
Noise, alcoholic beverages and other distractions could all be a hindrance when it's time to recall her name and the details of her childhood.
What to do instead: When you first meet her, repeat her name after she introduces herself; this will help you remember it. Make a mental note of some of the information she tells you, like what she does for a living or things you have in common. Write it down when you get home if you need to. Remembering some of the major elements of her life will impress her and help you to secure that first date.
Being a conversation hog
Talking too much about yourself without asking about her could make you look self-centered, even if you're only nervous.
What to do instead: To keep the conversation balanced, ask her the same questions she is asking you. Topics of discussion can include career, likes, dislikes, and family. Avoid touchy subjects like politics and religion until you know her better.
what women want
Women always notice the little details, so a good first impression is paramount to getting her phone number. Being considerate, taking the time to look and smell your best, and maintaining your positive behavior will lead you on the path to relationship success.