Top 10 Reasons to Stay Single-Do men really need women to feel complete? n Vicer versa ..  

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4/24/2006 6:09 am
Top 10 Reasons to Stay Single-Do men really need women to feel complete? n Vicer versa ..

As men everywhere continue to dive furiously into the dating pool (through online services or the standard Friday night bar hopping), could one deduce that many of them still believe that society frowns upon a 40-year-old bachelor?

The blood-rushing, heart-pounding highs that come with schmoozing with the ladies notwithstanding, do men really need a monogamous relationship to feel complete?

Yes, women are a necessity, as most straight men can attest, and no one is suggesting you completely deprive yourself of the female flesh; let’s not get carried away here. But for those of you who are tired of all the trials and tribulations that come with finding Miss Right, here are 10 reasons why you may want to fly solo a little longer:

10 - Save Money

Any man even remotely involved with the dating scene will tell you that showing a lady a good time means eating at nice restaurants, going to the ballet and wowing her with an endless barrage of trinkets and teddy bears, all of which can render a guy’s bank account on life support.

Instead, why not put that Money to good use (e.g. taking a well-deserved vacation, addressing some outstanding debts or making a few wise investments)? Pamper yourself first, and let some other poor sap buy that 2-carat rock from Tiffany’s.

9 - Hang out with the Boys

As much as you’d like to think otherwise, settling down with a woman will inevitably chop your “boys’ night out” by about half (and that’s if you’re lucky). And while spending your Friday night sipping espresso in a quaint cafĂ© while the two of you “express yourselves” is great and all, wouldn’t you rather be cruising with your buddies, looking for some casual flirting and innocent hobnobbing? Remember: half the fun is in the meeting and greeting.

8 - No Need to Chaperone

As a single man, you may not realize that you have so much more free time than everyone else does. Yes, having a constant female companion has its definite share of perks, but that also means taking that excruciating trip to the mall with her, accompanying her to a wedding where you don’t know anyone, or taking some stomach-turning art class three times a week. Those Sunday afternoons don’t seem so boring now do they?

7 - Focus on other Hobbies

Being a free agent means getting to those activities that would have otherwise lingered on the back burner indefinitely. The life you lead before getting serious with someone -- including your own personal interests -- almost always gets siphoned by doing those activities you both enjoy (if the thought of baiting a hook gives her a gag reflex, you can kiss your fishing trips goodbye). Relish the fact that, as a bachelor, you can do whatever it is you like, when you like, without checking to see if it’s mutually acceptable.

6 - Have Time to Reflect

Men will very often spend obscene amounts of time catering to their woman’s every need, while compromising their own personalities in the process. So why not allot yourself a few extra hours to gather your thoughts, ponder over future career moves, and live your life in a way that benefits you and no one else? Relationships are filled with mind-numbing complexities and arguments, so bask in your calm surroundings and listen to yourself think while you still can.

5 - Speak Your Own Language

Women love to analyze the way men speak, from what is said to how it is said, and the gestures used to say it. As a single guy, you’re absolved from having to answer any of those “Am I fat?” questions (which is always followed by a wrong answer) and are free to speak your mind without fear of being “misunderstood” or kneed in the groin. In a singles world, everyone is from Mars!

4 - Forget about important dates

Give yourself a chance to go on about your business without having to worry about a girlfriend’s birthday, an anniversary, the first time you held hands on a one-way street, or any other special occasion that would leave you in the doghouse if forgotten. Eliminate all that and all you’ll have to worry about is which day Jenna Jameson is on Leno. Which reminds me: you may want to invest in a TV Guide subscription.

3 - Neglect Tidiness

Sure, maintaining good personal hygiene is something that men with even the slightest amount of class and self-worth should do. But once you’ve finished working the clubs or pulling your hair out at the office, wouldn’t you like to come home, loosen your belt, and fixate yourself to the TV without being admonished for all the beer cans and pretzel crumbs accumulating around you?

2 - Look Around

Summer is just around the corner, and that can only mean one thing: women start stripping down to near-nothings while showing off some serious skin. And since romances have been known to rise along with the temperature, why would you want to be tied down by one woman? Instead, shop around (so to speak), meet different ladies, and show some of the many tourists what your town has to offer.

And in case you haven’t figured it out yet, the singles scene opens the door to countless hours of guilt-free, unadulterated passion (read: you’re not cheating on anyone).

1 - You Call the Shots

The fact remains that a man must surrender a certain amount of himself when he gets serious with a woman. But as an unattached guy, you can come and go as you please, avoid getting clearance before going to some strip joint, and make any decisions that need to be made (e.g. what color to paint the kitchen, or whether to scoop up that new Benz or not) alone. You are in total control, the master of your domain, the king of the hill -- you get the picture.

Yes, a woman has a lot to offer, and it’s normal to want to take that all-important trip down the aisle…eventually. But if engaging in a relationship is the only way you can truly be happy, you may need a reality check. After all, if you can’t even enjoy your own company, what makes you think anyone else will?

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