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Stay Single During Summer ! ! !
Stay Single During Summer ! ! !
Today, most people in America -- both men and women -- spend the majority of their single lives studying or working, leaving very little time to find a potential lifetime spouse. However, just because they don't have the time needed to dedicate themselves to finding the ideal companion, that doesn't mean they don't have the time to find a temporary partner.
There are a lot of people who date without any intention of pursuing a serious relationship. In most cases, a lot of people date because they prefer the company of a companion -- even if it's not the ideal one -- rather than being alone.
the new trend
We usually observe such behavior in the northern parts of America where the weather can get quite cold over the course of a year, and most people hibernate for the winter. This syndrome is called "hiber-dating."
As long as both individuals are open and upfront about their intentions, hiber-dating is a great way to gratify your sexual desires, while pleasing your social needs.
However, there are some dangers associated with hiber-dating that few people know about. You see, the time a man spends with his temporary companion might keep him sexually and emotionally satisfied, but it can also diminish the hunger that is sometimes needed to seek out what might actually be a more fitting partner. In other words, they waste time.
Hiber-dating has its benefits in the short run, but it should not last more than several months. Otherwise both individuals risk mistaking their lust for love and end up dating seriously, or worse, married to someone that might gratify them sexually, but in no other way.
Sure, the relationship might last a few more months or years, but hiber-dating relationships that become serious ultimately come to a screeching halt. This could be another reason why there are so many divorces in America -- too many people in hiber-dating relationships stay together for the wrong reasons.
Here's the good and the ugly on hiber-dating.
set-up for disappointment
Relationships that develop from hiber-dating also tend to be the ones with the highest risk of infidelity because partners realize that they're with the wrong partner, when the "right" partner comes along and, coincidentally, at a time when the temptation is hardest to resist.
This is why, as a rule of thumb, you should end a hiber-relationship by summer, putting an end to such dangers.
the good, the bad & the ugly
But why would you want to end what a lot of men consider a comfortable relationship, or at least a sure thing? Well believe it or not, there are other benefits:
Scouting and annual drafts
Every year, there are more and more women who subscribe to the hiber-dating game. So why would you want to limit yourself to the same one all year long? Remember, the purpose of hiber-dating is temporary satisfaction; when spring arrives, you might consider scouting for new prospective rookies.
Summer is the time when many long-term couples break up and go their separate ways. This is the perfect opportunity to hook up with women who are looking for excitement without necessarily becoming seriously committed -- especially if they just came out of a long-term relationship.
Of course, everything in life has a price tag, including hiber-dating. So before you start jumping up and down with excitement, be aware of the following points:
Waste of money
Meeting and courting new women requires money. Whereas with your current lady, a movie or rental might be enough to keep her interested, a new hiber-woman requires more resources.
Inconsistent batting average
Be aware that until you find a full replacement, you will have many more lonely nights than you were used to. In addition, you might be exchanging a sexually charged vixen for a lifeless and boring pretty face.
With new sexual partners comes the new risk of contracting STDs. Remember that as you increase the number of sexual partners, you also increase your health risks. So no matter how thrilling the occasion or person might be, make sure to always protect yourself.
keep things light
I'm not trying to encourage you to break up your current relationship -- especially if you're happy in your current digs. One would be crazy to want to destroy a perfectly happy relationship. I'm simply warning you to be aware of the type of relationship you're in, and recognize the benefits as well as the dangers.
If you're in an exciting relationship, don't let it last too long, and if you happen to be single during the summer season, don't worry -- have fun and remember that too much eye candy can spoil a good thing.
6/3/2006 7:49 am
well portrayed per usual|