Why do I attract Men?  

DrBuckWild 47M
19 posts
10/26/2005 10:08 am

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Why do I attract Men?


This is something that just boggles my mind. I am straight as an arrow, a strict Vagitarian. Yes, I was the one who even penned the term Vagitarian. So, why is it that more men seem to hit on me than women? I know that I am a nice guy. I know that being a male nurse in the 21st Century doesn't seem like the most masculine thing to be. Am I questioning my sexuality? Not at 36. What I am questioning though is, am I sending out the wrong message? I am pretty sure that I mentioned I am straight Heterosexual. What I am seeing a lot more of lately is... people seem to ignore labels. For some, marriage doesn't seem to make you "off limits", dating doesn't stop people from "Cock Blocking", and saying you are straight doesn't seem to stop people from trying to convert you. I have only been back in the dating game for a few months, but Holy Cow!!! What a crazy world we live in! If there is something I could do to make it clear I am Hetero... I am all ears. What is that one thing that let's people know "who you are" without a doubt.

DCEbony
1586 posts
10/28/2005 3:22 pm

No such thing as letting people know "who you are", my friend.

You can say it all you want, but there will always be the element that won't hear what you're saying.

Oddly enough, I've gotten far more attention as a married woman as I ever did when I was single. If I'd known, I'd have put a wedding band on years ago.

Not every gay or lesbian person is going to be obvious (for lack of a better word), so there's only one way for a homosexual to know where you stand and that's to ask.

I consider it a compliment when a woman hits on me, but it doesn't change who I am. I'm pretty sure I'm not sending out any signals, either.

If I stopped being hit on altogether, my fragile little ego would start to get worried. LOL

Anyway, just enjoy the fact that people find you attractive and "thanks but no thanks" should suffice if guys aren't your thing.


DrBuckWild 47M

11/4/2005 2:58 pm

See, now, that is good intel right there. You definitely can't reach everyone. We do speak English in this country, but, some of us get lost in the translation of our own region. Getting hit on by someone of the same sex doesn't change who you are.

I guess being hit on by other guys is not such a bad thing then... wait a minute... scratch that. Rephrase. I should take it as a compliment to actually be found attractive by the same sex... sounds better, but, still doesn't feel right.

Am I a homophobe... not anymore. I dated a theatre professor about 14 years ago. Hanging out with her friends cured me of that quick. We are all just people... with varying tastes.

Since there really isn't anything I can do to stop the onslaught, the simple, "thanks, but no thanks" will just have to suffice. Thanks Ebony... you are doll.


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