The Nerve of Some People...  

Dom4U76 40M
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6/14/2006 10:54 pm

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The Nerve of Some People...


Why is it that when someone is engaged in infidelity, secretly, and trying to hide the fact that they are cheating on their partner, the cheating partner gets angry at the cheated partner when they find out? Is it really wrong of the cheated partner to use whatever means necessary to uncover the truth?
I recently helped a man uncover his partner of 8 years infidelity to him, at his request, because she was not being honest with him. Seriously, if your lover and partner hides what they are doing on a site like this wouldn't that raise your suspicions? I had messaged her (Lasher19777), added her to my friends network (which she accepted), and basically proceeded as normal with contact, all of which she was responsive to before he had contacted me.
He had contacted a few of us from her hotlist, and I don't know if any of the other men helped him out as well. But I felt obliged to at least share the messages, winks, and information I found out with him. I truthfully told him that I had intentions of meeting up with her for reasons I'm sure he didn't want details for, and had no intention not to follow through if the situation arose to do so. All he wanted to know was what was going on, not to attempt to stop me or try and convince me or any of the others not to do what we are all here on this site to do.
Apparently after recieving notifications from myself, and talking with other men on her hotlist, the poor guy was losing his mind. So much so, that the woman's own friend apparently couldn't stand to watch him suffer anymore and told him the truth about his partners cheating actions.
Now that she's been found out, she's angry at him for catching her, and me for "helping my X to stalk and spy on me". Which is funny, because he wasn't her ex until AFTER she got caught cheating on him, which of course I'm assuming brought out all the other lies and deceit that she had in thier relationship.
This I truly don't understand.
I empathized, and still empathize with the man whole-heartedly in this situation which stemmed from him finding her page opened on his computer after she "forgot and left it on" one day.
Reading how your partner is looking for men, and groups for 1-on-1 encounters, group sex, so on and so forth for "discreet relationships" is pretty damning isn't it?
Apparently she told him it was just so guys would invite her to watch them jerk off on webcams because they wouldn't if she didn't say that stuff. Should he have believed her, ESPECIALLY when it turns out that she did cheat on him and was seeing other men without telling him?
I have still talked to this man, and professed my sympathy for him though I did not intend to stop trying to connect with this woman, she is on this site for the same reason we all are after all. But her angry reaction has kind of bewildered me.
Really, the nerve of some people.

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