Anal Sex....Whats the deal?  

Djeeper1987 47M
3388 posts
5/9/2006 4:32 pm

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Anal Sex....Whats the deal?

Ok time and time again I try to understand what is the big deal with anal sex. I have never done it and not sure if I want too. Have you ever engaged in anal sex? Tell me why I should? Tell me why you like doing it or why you don't like it?
Yes, I do it all the time
Yes, I do it frequently
Yes, I do it sometimes
Yes, but I do it very rarely
No, but I would not mind trying

Carpe Diem

LilSquirt_4mfm 67M/67F
3394 posts
5/9/2006 4:47 pm

HI Djeeper

as u likely assumed, this MFM'er is into a lot of things .... but, for me ...

Anal is just that ..."Anal", ...if u get my drift.

(wonder if the brave guys who want to do it to a lil lady would want it done to them??) Guys who are into it really "turn me off them as a person", whether they try it to get me to do it or not.


Djeeper1987 replies on 5/9/2006 9:03 pm:
Hi LilSquirt, Glad you stopped by. I though this would be an interesting poll to do considering I hear so much about it.

cuteNEway 41F

5/9/2006 4:56 pm

OK here's the deal...its not something I enjoy BUT (no pun seriously) I will on that rare occasion when I have a lover that has taken me to the height of sexual pleasure I will let him at least try. I have discovered recently that what they say about the right person doing it. The lover I speak of was very patient and very careful and it was actually very good once he was in...and the look of pleasure on his face was worth the pain of the failed attempts

Djeeper1987 replies on 5/9/2006 9:04 pm:
I would imagine patience would be a factor. And of course with the right person.

rm_saintlianna 45F
15466 posts
5/9/2006 4:57 pm

You are taking an "anal pole" oops, I mean poll? Where is the "Holy fuck, that fucking hurts!!!!" button?

Djeeper1987 replies on 5/9/2006 9:04 pm:
Should have done a post rather than a pole....I mean poll. oops

rm_Dangermonk 41M

5/9/2006 5:02 pm

I voted rarely because I don't get little sex as it is. Anal sex is tight. Literally (from a male perspective). It is different. I think there is also a mental element involved too.

Anal sex was the wife's weapon. If she was really happy, I got it.

The key: Let her start off on top. Let her control the feel. She can take it as fast or slow as she would like. Once she gets into the groove, it is open season (kind of).

I had one girlfriend that liked doggie style.

My wife preferred missionary.

I liked it when she was on top and using a vibrator. I tried that missionary once, but it didn't work. I kept thrusting myself into the base of the vibrator. It hurt.

Not much, but I hope it helps.

Djeeper1987 replies on 5/9/2006 9:06 pm:
Hey Danger, thanks for stopping by. Interesting thing with the vibrator.

up4itnow 43M

5/9/2006 5:04 pm

hey dude, i have tried both ways, absolutely love giving it, i have done it with guys girls and trannies. i think it may be because it has always been said to be taboo or the general public perception of it is naughty. i don't mind having a nice vibrator or something inserted in me as i get a blowie, or as i slip my cock into someone. it is a truly intense feeling, especially when i cum. give it a go, maybe with a finger first or a small vibe bullet if you are interested. also giving it to another person, a small can never use too much lube!!!!! ha ha ha
good luck and i hope to read some experiences soon.

Djeeper1987 replies on 5/9/2006 9:07 pm:
Juust doing a poll, or should have done a post and seeing the reactions. Thanks for stopping by.

sexyariesgirl 57F

5/9/2006 6:17 pm

This is actually something I thought I would NEVER try...but I have learned to never say never! lol As cuteNEway says...the enjoyment has tons to do with your partner! My first anal experience was with a man who was very patient and apparently very experienced in this particular activity. He made it an awesome experience for me.

Power To FOK

Djeeper1987 replies on 5/9/2006 9:08 pm:
Hi Sexy,
I myself have said I would not try, and ended up trying anyway with enough convincing from my lover. I have never done anal, not sure I will. Just curious to see what others would say about the topic.

Please do come back and comment, I am going to check out your blogs too.

clitalicious67 49F

5/9/2006 7:18 pm

Ok (blushing) I have done it...but usually I have to be waaaayyyy over the edge in Otopia to allow it to happen...the orgasms are very doubt but you have to be relaxed enough to give into it...and that isn't always ease...considering it is supposed to be "exit only" (still blushing) hugs C~

Djeeper1987 replies on 5/9/2006 9:10 pm:
Love it when you blush, makes you looks great with that new tie your wearing.
I would think most women would not like anal unless they were convinced it would do both lovers the greatest pleasure. Now I will exit myself from this topic. No pun intended.

rm_mbwiz 45M
1 post
5/9/2006 8:32 pm

I have had one woman want anal over vaginal. It's ok if you lover likes it. Before you ask, yes she gave me anal. There are some days that I cant cum without the stimulation.

Djeeper1987 replies on 5/9/2006 9:11 pm:
I mentioned on one of the comments that I think most women would rather not do anal sex. Then again some women love it. I guess it all depends on the right momemt.


5/9/2006 8:40 pm

Been there, done it...variety! {=}

just a squirrel trying to get a nut

Djeeper1987 replies on 5/9/2006 9:11 pm:
Variety is good. Glad you came by.

clitalicious67 49F

5/9/2006 9:56 pm

Love it when you blush, makes you looks great with that new tie your wearing.
I would think most women would not like anal unless they were convinced it would do both lovers the greatest pleasure. Now I will exit myself from this topic. No pun intended.

Hmmm you sure exited quickly...

rm_goddess1946 105F
13518 posts
5/10/2006 5:45 am

I think it is a dom/sub thing on some level..
one needs to be fully surrendered over and above
the average day of the week for one reason or another to be able
to fully relax in every way to be able to enjoy it...the physical
makeup of the body is another story altogether...can be an in the
moment thing for many people, I think...

....I don't have time now to write much more right now...need to
go to the gym {=}

Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...

Djeeper1987 replies on 5/16/2006 4:24 pm:
I would imagine relaxation is a big part of it.

papyrina 50F
21133 posts
5/10/2006 2:04 pm

i can live without it i do enjoy butt play but penetration i just cannot relax enough for it not to be painful

I'm a

i'm here to stay

Djeeper1987 replies on 5/16/2006 4:23 pm:
I think thats how most women feel.

waerlookin4fun 50M/46F

5/10/2006 3:04 pm

I must be an anomaly because I truly enjoy it.......if it's done right

Djeeper1987 replies on 5/10/2006 8:43 pm:
Enjoying something and doing it right is pretty darn good!!!!

rm_AnOddGirl 57F
3469 posts
5/12/2006 12:18 am

When a man takes his time, it is very enjoyable!


Djeeper1987 replies on 5/16/2006 4:24 pm:
Patience with pleasure can be very enjoyable.

sugarbabyhhh 43F

5/13/2006 10:30 am

i just love it, especially dp.

Djeeper1987 replies on 5/16/2006 4:26 pm:
What do you not like? Thanks for coming by, I always like having you around.

rm_h_couple 53M/45F
1 post
5/14/2006 1:22 am

We do it on and off. She likes it and askfor it when she is really at her peaks.

Djeeper1987 replies on 5/16/2006 4:25 pm:
Guess you got to be in the right mood for it.

anal_seeking_man 43

5/20/2006 1:01 am

This question is asked alot.

I consider myself extremely experianced in anal sex. I have had over 20 partners that would do this. The frequency varied with each.
I had one who decided, after we worked up to a point where she could handle it, that she wanted me to only do anal and leave the front for just my tounge and fingers.
I had one who tried it just to please me, even though I told her many many times that I would only do it if it was what 'SHE' wanted. She was on the fence about it after that. She loved the oral anal play and even a finger or 2 but penetration was never on her top 10 list!

I saw the same basic question posted in the magazine a while back and this was my reply.

You asked 3 questions... here are the answers!

1) can a girl orgasam from it?

Yes. Both men and women can have both rectal and normal orgasms
from anal sex. Everyone is different in their level of reaction.
One of my former lovers got a more intense orgasm from anal
than vaginal. Many others had orgasms but not as intense
as vaginal.

2) Does it hurt?

Yes and no.
It depends on the indiviuals. Somebody that has had lots
of anal sex can still get hurt if the person giving is rough
or careless. Somebody that has never had it before can have
it not hurt if the person giving is very gentile and understanding.

Pain is also a relative term. Some people enjoy a certian
level of pain. Some can't tolerate any kind of pain.

The best thing to do here is talk to your partner about his
or her concerns. Learn the do's and don'ts that
he or she can tell you about. Learn to read facial expressions
or hear the sounds your partner is making. No matter who
you are if something hurts your going to make a face or sound
of discomfort. If you see or hear this, stop right then and
there. Don't just keep going or jerk it out. Rather
stop then slowly and gently pull out.

It may take time, depending on the individual, to get to
the point where you can bang the back like the front. This
time also varies with the induvidual and could be as little
as the second or third time or years!! Respect your partners

3) How does it feel?

This is the most difficult question. Some describe it as
a full sensation. Some say it literaly feels like they have
to go sh*t. Usually they can't even describe the sensations
they feel. Everybody's different. You won't
know how it truely feels untill you experiance it.

The one main truth is that once someone has had it. They either
will or will not try it again. If they liked it or had no real
opinion they will most likely try again.
BUT if they don't like it, no matter what you do they
will probably not ever let you or anybody else try again!

Some women (and men) are simply dead set against it.
Some feel it is degrading and will lower them is some way
shape or form. Usually men will not try for fear of being
considered gay. Guys A woman using a vibe or dong or even
her fingers on you dosen't mean your gay!!! Kinky mabey
but not gay.

So I guess the answer to the 3rd question of how it feel I'll
leave up to you to find out for yourself!!

Djeeper1987 replies on 5/20/2006 6:02 am:

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