Alcoholism SUCKS!!!  

Djeeper1987 47M
3388 posts
6/13/2006 6:52 pm

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Alcoholism SUCKS!!!

This weekend will be the hardest of my life.
I am sure many of you know or have seen people in your lives that are Alcoholics. They won't admit it. (no no, I am fine. nothing to worry about. I'm good.)
Of all the people I know in my life. My Mom, the one who has raised me is the stupid alcoholic. I have been dreading the day that will come. I have been putting it off far too long. I have put up with her BULLSHIT far too long. I have endured her wrath for a long time. Her grip on me. Her controlling ways.
Don't get me wrong. I love my Mom very much. But when you have tried to talk some sense into her, or get the help she needs so desperately and all she can do is drink and drink and lie about. (Mom are you drinking still? no no, I'm not drinking. how dare you ask me such a thing. ask me that again and i'll take you out of the will.) sigh
My sister moved to Texas cause of her. My cousin and his wife won't let her around there son by herself anymore. I could go on, but not going too.

Enough is enough. The pain she has cause to herself and this family is all I can take. It is time me for me to worry about my own health and piece of mind. I need to get on with my life according to Jeepers.
This weekend, I am going over to my Aunts place to stay overnight and have a one on one intervention with my Mom. And just tell her all that has come to pass.
I am scared, yet nervous. But I have to tell her.
I have to do it. I have to have the courage to do it or else I will never forgive myself.

::clears throat::
"Mom, after everything I have said to you. I love you with all my heart. But I have to give you an ultimatum. Either you fix your problems or I will never speak to you again."

Carpe Diem

Whispersoftly5 52F
15176 posts
6/13/2006 7:19 pm

Yikes sweetie, I was just coming by here to remind and tease you over the fact I won the orgasm denial wager and you owe me dinner. But, I see a very serious post from you. I hope you will not mind my making a suggestion. You can take it or leave it - just please know it is given with heartfelt intentions.

If you've not already done so, talk personally with somebody at a group that supports those who live with alcoholics in their lives. There are many out there - the most noted associated with AA.

These folks should be able to lay out the steps and expectations of an intervention to ensure that it's as constructive as possible.

From your post, it sounds as though you may have already done some research on the subject - so I threw that out just in case.

I grew up with alcoholism in my family - my biological dad and my oldest brother - so can imagine what you're up against. It's hard, but you have to do what is best in order to ensure you're happy and healthy. My heart goes out to you and you will be in my thoughts.

Kisses and hugs! Whisper...

Djeeper1987 replies on 6/13/2006 7:22 pm:
Sorry I didn't mean to spoil your victory. I just had to vent this out of my system some how. Yes I do owe you dinner. Soon.

Whispersoftly5 52F
15176 posts
6/13/2006 7:36 pm

Nothing to apologize for at all. I don't blame you and venting is good.



countryheart_71 45F
8082 posts
6/13/2006 7:54 pm

It's hard to help someone that doesn't want to help themself. I applaud for your courage to do this. I think that you are doing the right thing. "hugs"


freetime648 52F

6/14/2006 1:33 am

INTERVENTION......the only word I can say. Because to be honest, if you take YOU away from her it will get worse. No matter how badly she behaves with you there. I just feel for you is one of the hardest things to have an alcoholic hurts...but you are strong enough to know not to take the "wrath" anymore......My best goes with you.....and sorry, that is more than one word...

xx FREETIME648 xx

clitalicious67 49F

6/14/2006 4:19 am

Wishing you all the courage, strength and inner peace you will need to get through heart goes out to you....and know I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers...

hugs and love...


rm_PeanutJackie 35F
1286 posts
6/14/2006 4:27 am

Best of luck to you hun. Alcoholism runs in my family. My mom married an alcoholic who ended up sexually abusing me. When she started talking about divorcing him a couple years ago, he tried killing himself with pills (10,000mg) and alcohol (blood alcohol level of .10 when they pumped his stomach). The damn bastard lived with absolutely no side effects from what he did, other than losing me and my mom.

I think you're doing the right thing. Just know that there is the chance your mom might not see things your way. But here's to hoping she sees the light and wants to change. My fingers are crossed for you and your family.


"I am beautiful no matter what you say, words can't bring me down. So don't you bring me down today."


6/14/2006 2:26 pm

Hey King! Your words to me meant alot and now mean even more. Thanks so much for taking the time to show support especially while you are going through this struggle of your own. Truly you are a royal fella. I know the anxiety you are feeling. I am finding my insides resembling mush but I am gathering the stregth I have from you all and wanted to thank you personally although I posted a public post. You are very appreciated and know you will be in my thoughts and prayers as will be your mother. Have courage and stay strong! Kisses and huge hugs, Jacqueline

just a squirrel trying to get a nut

CastsAetasPoets 51F

6/15/2006 10:55 pm

I don't know you but have to say that I am proud you are taking your life back. I am a dry alcoholic and come from a long line of functioning ones. It's never easy to tell somebody something that hurts. Be strong and I'm holding you in my thoughts.

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