Divinitydesires 46F
4872 posts
1/4/2006 5:41 pm

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*mumbles foul words underbreath*
I really dislike that man.

*takes a deep*
I feel a little better now.

Does your ex ever make you so angry it's everything in your power not to scream and yell at them?

I hate yelling more, so I try to reframe. I did yell once and that was the day he left. I've been very happy since, but not so much when I have to see him again. Like today when he came over unexpected to pick up some of his belongs. He had to start stuff with me. I won't go into what happen... but he's gone and I'm happy again.

I would really enjoy this seperation so much better if he never came around. Wishful thinking huh?

im_curious_4u 50M

1/4/2006 6:07 pm

Hey sweetie not to throw fuel on the fire but did he ever move that crappy old truck?

caressmewell 53F

1/4/2006 7:01 pm

I feel your pain..been there!

frangipanigal 44F
10406 posts
1/4/2006 7:34 pm

Yep I have an Evil Ex that I could just strangle most of the time. He HATES that his power and control over me is next to zero since I left him. The worst part is that he is my daughters father so he will be in my life forever..just hope it is less painfully than he is currently is!!

Frangi xx

MyRealLoverOne 46M

1/4/2006 7:43 pm cakes..want me to get my friends..Viney and take care of dis for ya?

curious082385 31F
4925 posts
1/4/2006 11:39 pm

Oh yes, I know that feeling. Like you said, just take a deep breath and let him go. Your anger is what he wants. Glad to know that you are happy again.

Green_Tea_Boy 50M
1064 posts
1/5/2006 1:57 am

yep...though I don't recommend it can always resort to third person violence... it doesn't really help the situation or change anything but it does give momentary pleasure...lmao

dasher121 36M

1/5/2006 3:39 am

unfortunately out of sight out of mind is the best way to handle those things. Stay strong, keep your wits about you, and youll walk a higher path than he does.

rm_ohsolustful 58M
859 posts
1/5/2006 6:50 am

Dasher has it right...I have been divorced 13 years now and have learned it's better not to let her bait me and get under my skin, We had 3 great kids together, From the start I tried to never bad mouth her around them and tried to cooperate in most things, I learned to get along and walk away when I couldnt. During my Son's wedding he told me how much he respected me for the things I had put up with with his Mom thru the years, and how he had come to realize how lucky he was to have me as a dad...It's not often that I cry, but it all got to me that day..made me realize that taking the high road, although much tougher going at times was the best road to take.......She lost out just as your ex did, let him stew in anger and self doubt, keep your chin up, a smile on your face and a laugh on your lips...and keep that wonderful sparkle in your eyes too..whew, what eyes you have , have a great day and hang tough

mygmyg 59M

1/5/2006 10:26 am

Divine One, that you are, You have admirable strength and control !! Quite a Remarkable Lady!!

RockPebble 69M
2484 posts
1/5/2006 12:24 pm

Everyone has the ability to make us happy! Some when they come into a room and some when they leave. Also, familiarity means he knows where all of your buttons are.

Fallic40 53M
1858 posts
1/5/2006 11:36 pm

I have one of those evil exes too. And she was four people in front of me in the line at the DMV yesterday. Have you ever stood in line for forty five minutes just thinking "don't turn around, don't turn around, pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeze, do NOT turn the fuck around" as you try and hide behind a 4'11" guatamalan lady?

But I triumphed and she did not notice me.

And for Shaye - your m-i-l sounds like Serial Mom.

hugs_4_u2 39F

1/6/2006 2:23 am

hey i`ve been there 2 my ex makes me so angry we split 8mths ago and he still gets me cross with sarcastic comments etc when he lifts my kids. roll on when there 18 and i can have nothing more to do with him lol
hugs xxx

Valdrane78 38M

1/6/2006 8:06 am

Actually it takes every ounce of patience I possess not to strangle my ex.

I hate that bitch!

BANG! POW! BOOM! a study in useless knowledge and sick humor!
I want a damn soundtrack to my blog!

rm_Friendly_dot 48M
20 posts
1/6/2006 8:14 am

you know what, no matter how bad your ex is, once he was the luv of your life - sharing so much delightful moment and dreams together.

I bet he was kind to you too.

Thus, let it be - focus on the good memories and forget the not so great ones. But beware, don't get suck back into his life - that is just plain stupid.

Try that, you shall find peace and move on. Ok, honey?

Now that you already calm down, show me some tits!

deliciousngood 64F
1666 posts
1/6/2006 9:31 am

Here is the ONLY way to deal with controlling asshole ex's....


If you must due to children..then try going through attorney's, neutral third parties or objective friends. If you have to talk to him...make him state his purpose adn if he doesnt in one or two sentences of if he gets abusive in the least way...say" gotta go" and
HANG UP. Then screen calls and do not answer. Do this ,ong enough and he will stop.

deliciousngood 64F
1666 posts
1/6/2006 9:34 am

PS...if you want good reference material in dealing with this I have some EXCELLENT places to go read about it...just let me know!


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