Divinitydesires 46F
4872 posts
1/23/2006 9:21 am

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Yesterday several people (okay a few men) told me that I am a 'flirt'. *giggles* Moi? No... not me! I NEVER flirt. Okay... maybe a little.

Anyhoo, I started thinking about that the comments yesterday wondering if there was something to it. Yeah, I love to flirt, I flirt like hell. And for those who get to know me, will see my serious side, often.

Here on AdultFriendFinder I flirt and I love to be flirted back. But I'm not really like that in real life. I shy away from things like that. But I want to be bold... I want a new me... well... I want to get laid that's the thing. So I figured if I flirted more in real life then I would get what I want. Right?

It's a theory anyways.

Because I'm a research queen, I decided to go on a hunt on the internet on how to flirt. I ran across this...

Flirting Tips

Women are so much more subtle about flirting clues that men need to really pay attention. (Men not pay attention? LOL... Don't make me laugh!) Ladies, men are not used to women flirting with them. (Really?) An overwhelming majority of men said they would just love it if a woman would talk to them first or at least express a larger clue that you were interested in checking them out. (Ooooo this could be interesting. Would a man think that a woman was being too forward and get turned off by such a bold woman?)

#1: Repeated least three separate verbal or non-verbal clues need to be given. Why? The first time he's going to look around and make sure it's really him that you are flirting with. (*giggles* Ah come on guys that isn't true is it?) The second, he knows it's him and he gets flushed and pleased. (At this point he'll probably walk by you and at least smile..he's checking you out a little more.) (Wooo Hoooo, Score!) The third time you can express interest-by introducing yourself, or commenting on his tie, or waving from across the room. Now he knows you are open to meeting and it will be a cinch. (This is what I want... but is it too forward? Shouldn't a man approach first?)

#2: always gets their attention. Ask them if you can tell them a secret...Then whisper in their ear: 'I just love your tie...can I buy it from you when you are done with it?' (OMG... Now that's bold. Fun! But bold! Guys, would you like this?)

#3: Don't sit with other don't want you to reject them in front of an audience. If you do go out with a friend...separate every so often or take a breather from do not want to risk your disapproval by interrupting you. (You have already missed out on a lot of quality polite men who didn't want to interrupt.) (Gosh darn it, I am not a loner. Men... talk to me. Please. )

#4: Treat men gently...If someone you are not interested in approaches you and flirts nice.... All the other men are watching to see what you do. If you laugh after he leaves or show visual disapproval, you are cutting your chances on anyone else approaching you. Try shaking his hand and saying something like: 'It was so nice of you to approach me...what's your name? Tom? Tom, I know how hard it is to meet people...I might have a girlfriend who would be interested in you.' (How dorky... I would never be that lame but I would be gentle. Never would he feel rejected unless he was an ass to me. That's when my clever sharp tongue would take over. Then the next man to approach me would have that angry sex! Hot, wild and hard core!)

#5: IF he acts like a JERK! Be polite but firm. Hand him a copy of the men's version of 'Flirting with Greatness' and ask him to go practice on someone else. Firmly say that 'lines' with sexual overtones are not only not attractive to you but to most other women in the world. (I love it!

#6: Use the Buddy system. Walk through a group of men and have someone watch to see who's checking you out. First it's go alone and seperate and now it's team up with someone? *shakes head* Caressmewell, Saddletrampsk, ShayeDK girls, would you like to help me out please? )

#7: Become More Irresistible! Show a little leg....wear higher heels...the redder the lipstick the more available and noticeable you will be. Arch your back a little as you sit up tall and cross your legs high. Wear earrings that are interesting enough to make someone comment on them. (I can do this... especially showing a little leg... and guys check to see if Im true to my word about wearing no panties.)

#8: Look over your shoulder...and smile at him. This asymmetrical position is always a signal you are interested. (No problem, I can smile well.)

#9: Give him a look all over from head to toe - nod with approval and then flash him your most winning smile. (*giggles* I need to practice then one... Any volunteers?)

#10: Remember that flirting is a way of connecting from the heart and acknowledging someone. Be generous! Have Fun! Okay... now all I need to do is go out to find someone to flirt with. I'll start here in blogville. )

Anyone want to flirt with me?

digdug41 49M

1/23/2006 11:17 am

I dont want to flirt with you I want to fuck you!lets make it happen if ya want

roaming the cyber streets of blogland

Georgie007777 67M
419 posts
1/23/2006 11:35 am

Dear DD,

Your style of writing postively oozes sex appeal - that is why we, especially the men.

*georgie speaks to the assembled masses "I'm speaking for all of us, men"

"We Love Ya!"

We all have a "Blog-persona" that is more extrovert than we probably are in "Real-land". An d we all have a shy side ............

But - I can imagine catching sight of your eyes across a crowded room and falling head over heels into their limpid pools to be happy forever..........................

As the Irish would say "Ahhhhh - T'would be happiness to be sure - fecking would!"

Before someone says - I know "fecking" isn't rude. (There are so many educationalists on grammar on these kinds of site )

Sir Georgie - swooning for the "Flirty-Princess"


PS - come on folks - visit my site and tell me my stories are crap - only DD and about four other people are my contributors....

*smile* - beg over.......................

rm_clitoral_man 51M
605 posts
1/23/2006 12:00 pm

*looks around...hmm, does she mean me?! *

*flushed* *checks out her eyes and luscious breasts*

*hmm, why is she waving her arms and screaming that I have a nice tie?! *

Anyone want to flirt with me?...Only if you whisper, smile, show a little leg, wear high heels, arch your back just right, and don't wear panties...well, you won't need high heels and panties in the shower

Does this flirting stuff have anything to do with bananas, a hard back chair, office visits, a purple vib and showers?

fantasylover_05 62M

1/23/2006 12:50 pm


Right now I am HOPING the last man was just an ass and pissed you off!! So that would make me "the next man"??? LOL

I do so love to flirt with you Divinity!! Though I also must be honest... I as well am not much of a flirt in real life! At least until I know you pretty well.... yes I too suffer form severe shyness in person.... I know that may be hard to believe for you all here.. but I promise you it is absolutely TRUE....


I have EVERY INTENTION of checking to see if you are true to your word about the panties!! *blushes* *devious smile* *desperately trying to hide the growing tent effect* LOL

Love ya DD!!!!!

rm_csd80 36M
582 posts
1/23/2006 2:17 pm

No it’s not too forward. In fact it’s often a relief. It takes a lot of work to get up the nerve to go up to a woman. Your always asking yourself, “did I get the signals right? What do I say that is interesting but not corny?” when she walks up to you there’s no question. Unfortunately you then end up on the other end trying to figure out how to tell her that you’re really happy that she’s interested in you but you don’t find her attractive without stepping on her self-esteem and making it so she doesn’t go up to another guy.

#1 Rejection hurts every time it happens. Being absolutely sure she’s interested in you is very important.

#2 The tie thing is great. One of the hardest things to do is finding a good conversation starter. Asking about the tie gives him something to talk about. “I got it for my birthday. My friend really knows my taste. Now I like it even more because you like it.”

#3 read it again. There’s no problem if you go out with your friends. Just separate from them once in a wile. Go stand in line at the bar for a few minutes. Go outside and get some fresh air. Tell your friend when they try to go to the bathroom that you will save the seats.

#6 see #3

Did you see a guy’s version of this?

Take a look at my [blog csd80]

Sac's Hot Spot has regular meet and greets that are allways fun. It can use some more active members, especially women.

expatbrit49 62M

1/23/2006 2:21 pm

Nice tie........... Oh you dont want to sell that nice tie when you are finished with it......... Hmm how about your thong

Thank You for Your Time and Attention

keithcancook 60M
17718 posts
1/23/2006 2:53 pm

You have become an expert flirt. I pronounce you the official Flirtress of BlogLand! Long may you reign!

Blog On!

ErosHunger 47M

1/23/2006 4:13 pm

The women at work flirt with me but I think they do it because it makes me nervous and it amuses them to see me all hot and bothered. I THRIVE on the attention though. When they call me cute, or I get a kiss on the cheek it sets my soul affire. My boss, who is very attractive often rubs my I know that goes beyond flirting, but I'm also pretty sure she's not interested in me beyond teasing me...I'm pretty naive and also tend to blush and that's why she does it I think. I'm clueless I guess, but I love to soak up the attention. I guess what I'm saying is be a flirt! The world needs more flirts.

Of course if I just went up to women and started kissing them or rubbing their butts I'd probbaly be in jail, so I guess that's a double standard.

Such times we live in!

toothysmile 50M
16515 posts
1/23/2006 4:30 pm

look closely
I 'm batting my eyelashes...

im_curious_4u 50M

1/23/2006 4:37 pm

Hey div do you still have that frying pan? I need you to knock a little sense into me. I wish you would have posted this last Thursday so it was fresh in my beer logged brain. I'm a day late and a dollar short again.

goinhotlevmwet 43M
1 post
1/23/2006 4:43 pm

i would just like to add all people need to do is be them selves so many times we try to be something were not just be yourselves and things will work out. not only will you find a good freind but maybe a good lover.

bigredeatsbush 50M/50F

1/23/2006 5:21 pm

Oh, sweetie, you make me laugh! You have very little to fear with flirting, you are a master at it, at least in cyberspace! Just take a little of that confidence and know this - every man likes to be flirted with. I'm availble for practice, you just say the word!

mm6342 53M
199 posts
1/23/2006 5:42 pm

I would like it if we flirted

rm_jynxgurl 29F
209 posts
1/23/2006 5:58 pm

lol omg!! I actually did ask to buy a tie from a guy, but I wanted to buy it for my halloween costume, I was dressing up Emo/Goth chic and that tie would work soo perfectly with it!! lol I paid $10 for it, but it was sooo worth it!! it was bright neon purple and it matched my hair!! lol I still have that tie, I love it!! hope the poor guy didn't think I was flirting with him though ~_~ that would not be good, I do not like to flirt if I don't mean it. I don't even know the guy either, so I can't straighten it out. Oh well, if I ever see him again this will be a good conversation starter, but I think he already thinks Im nuts!! lol and he would be 110% correct!! Thanks for posting this, I am half laughing my ass off, half mortified!! lol ok ok gotta stop laughing now... hehe... hehehehe...LMOA!!!

handsomesmartshy 41M
2 posts
1/23/2006 7:48 pm

Now, may be I can help with that. Let us set up the scene. I hate bars. So, may be you are in a bookstore? In the library looking for a book? In the coffee shop, waiting for your order... OK, I get close to you and say, in a tone barely audible, "I was wondering who is the one illuminating this shop so well, it was you!". Of course, this is the real reason for noticing you among all the others! Then how do you reply?

elysianpleasure 47M

1/23/2006 8:22 pm

Well... more than just flirt

ooohProfessor 44M

1/23/2006 8:26 pm

Divinity, I just came across your blogs and could not stop until I had read them all. You are as smart and funny and interesting as you are adorable.

Keep on flirting baby!

shyknight2005 42M
163 posts
1/23/2006 9:35 pm worry way too much about being too forward...for someome like me who is terribly shy, we live for the day that a woman like you is willing to make the first step and be that you are attracted to us. I am a social dunce, so hints just go right over my head unfortunatly...I hate to think about the missed opportunities I have had in life because I didnt recognize a certain "signal"...Please be more forward...You wont be disappointed

RockPebble 69M
2476 posts
1/24/2006 9:14 am

Think of it like blogland, you put out a post and we flock to comment. Then we come back to see if you commented on our comment and you can try to sort us out any way you want.

A lot of the time we are so preoccupied trying to come up with an opening line that doesn't sound stupid that if you approach us our first response is huh and a blank stare. It is much easier if you just give us an opening. We are usually bright enough to hold up our end of a conversation once it gets started, it's the starting the's intimidating.

saddletrampsk 54F

1/24/2006 11:35 am flirty?hehe
Love to help you out with #6..

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