Is This For Real?  

Discreteone8 51M
11 posts
4/14/2005 10:45 pm

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Is This For Real?

I'm beginning to wonder about this site. I have been here for awhile now and have yet to meet anyone. It seems that any time I try to initiate contact with someone it goes no further. Is anyone here really looking to hook up or is this site more fantasy based? I'm told that I am not bad looking and I have a great personality so that can't be it. I guess there are just alot of game players here. If anyone has any thoughts on this I'd be glad to hear. It would be great if I could be proven wrong.

ready4sum1fun 40M
1 post
4/14/2005 11:42 pm

I am beginning to feel the same as you Discrete. It seems that there are a lot of "nasty, willing" women looking for no strings attached fun but when you try to contact any of them they never come through. I keep my account active in order to get some action from this site but I still have had no luck. I am starting to feel like it is all for fantasy purposes.

Crimson959 57F

4/15/2005 1:00 am

Well...I am no where near you and every place is different...I'll use my city as an example...over 80,000 in population...chatted and had coffee with many men from AdultFriendFinder in and around my area...I usually get the same stories...some women are here just to tease the men cuz they can...some are players...they'll agree to meet and greet but they don't show up...that's just darn rude...or they're looking for the tall dark and handsome's a common one, women are looking for women (still trying to figure that one out). I think one the biggest problems with AdultFriendFinder is "trust" and "honesty"...myself I have a bit of a trust issue with men on AdultFriendFinder for I have been played a few times...only takes a few bad apples to ruin it for the honest ones. Now I'm not sure what age group of women are worse...I believe that women in my age group know what they want. I would be curious to know more about that myself now that I think of it. I've learned that men have it tough on this sight...I hate to admit it and not proud of's a womens world on this sight...also the men to women ratio is anormous on here. All I can say is hang in there...I know...easy for me to only takes that one special lady and she's out there somewhere. Hope this helps...good luck.

EMSqueen 40F

4/15/2005 1:28 am

I guess there are probably a lot of chickenshits here. I almost chickened out when I met my first person from this site (and only person, so far) but I didn't. Maybe people pump themselves up to go through w/ it and, in the end, chicken out. I'm actually surprised that I didn't chicken out...but I'm glad I didn't. ; )

ladyg0215 46F

4/15/2005 6:29 am

I just think you are hot as hell...I've met people from here..(have Seriously, sounds like you've had a run of bad luck.

Crimson959 57F

4/15/2005 1:29 pm

I forgot to definitely are good looking so that's not the problem.

rm_me_again419 50M

4/16/2005 12:22 pm

I've been a member of AdultFriendFinder for a little less than a month now and I thought the same thing. However keep in mind that the competition for men is, well, overwhelming. For a woman, this competition is great. Some women get 20 Emails a day and in the few weeks I've been here I got non.

To be very honest with you I had more success in meeting women doing my laundry at the laundromat (can tell you a great story about that). The truth is that as great of a personality you might have, it won't show in your profile. If your single you can go onto trips specially for singles, single meeting etc. etc. Though I never been on any singles event, my guess is that you will find a friend a lot faster than being just one ad among thousands.

On a more philosophical note, site like AdultFriendFinder are of course selling a dream. That's what the whole industry is about as soon as you realize that you lower your expectation a little and you won't be disappointed by sites like this.

Some women are here to really meet men, some to tease, others just love the attention. But the few women that are really willing to meet are IMHO far and few in between. So what it all comes down to is supply and demand and we both know the demand far exceeds the supply.

Discreteone8 51M
5 posts
5/6/2005 9:36 pm

Looks like alot of people share my views of this site. I turned off my auto renew and my account expires in June. I bet between now and then I don't get any further than I am now in meeting someone. I have met many women at the clubs around here since I joined this site and not one woman from here, so I guess paying a small cover at the club is definately a better investment than what they charge to belong here. Oh well, I guess you live, you learn.

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