Cunningless Taboo?  

DefiniteTrouble 50F
2839 posts
8/14/2005 7:11 am

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Cunningless Taboo?

Perhaps "anxiety" would be a more appropriate. After all, "taboo" often means a forbidden or prohibited act, and I damn sure don't want to imply that I don't permit a man to spread my legs and dive in. Eventually.

I understand that some men find cunningless as highly arousing as I do performing fellatio. But, it takes me some time after being with a partner to reach a comfort level where I allow him to devour me with his mouth and tongue.

No, it's not a control or dominance issue. It's the utter fear, no matter how freshly clean and smoothly waxed I may be, that he'll pull away in repulsion. And reaching orgasm the first time is out of the question. I'm too tense.

Yes, I learn to relax as I become more comfortable with him, assured he wouldn't be going back for a second helping if he didn't find it deliciously enjoyable.

I know there are other women out there with the same anxieties. Even some who absolutely refuse to let a man taste their sweetness ever...period. Be patient with those of us who are hesitant. It all comes back to the pleasure we want to bring you...touch, taste, and smell.

dieharddrummerbo 54M

8/14/2005 10:49 am

def, i've always enjoyed giving cunnilingus, tho i spent 12 years with a woman who would rarely allow me to go there. not sure why. maybe i wasn't very good at it, but hell, i was damn sure eager to practice if she'd have let me. i think she was also insecure about how she smelled and tasted. i think the last time she let me i actually got her off. it's all about giving pleasure for me, but it probably takes some direction from the recipient to communicate exactly how she likes it. just like with fellatio, how each individual wants it can vary with every person. i'm sure there's a big psychological hurdle you have to overcome first before allowing someone to go there, then it's just finding the right technique that works for you. still waiting for someone to practice on......good luck, girl

DefiniteTrouble 50F

8/14/2005 6:04 pm

I doubt if her unwillingness to let you perform had anything to do with your skills. It sounds like she had the same hang-up as I, or perhaps oral didn't excite her. There are some women who actually don't enjoy it. I can't imagine...that would be like a man saying "oh no, I don't want you to suck my cock, I don't like it," lol...have never heard of that happening. I'm a fanatic about cleanliness, so I know my taste and smell might never actually be an's just something I've always been concerned about. But trust me, after awhile, the insecurities go flying out the window and I'm as eager as the next to take that mustache ride. I agree, communication is the have to discuss and explore with your partner...makes for fabulous sex.

dabritbikerw3 64M
29 posts
8/16/2005 6:26 pm

Hmm, that is a shame. I would have to find another means to allow you to have the first orgasm during our encounters. I always like to, for selfish reasons of my own, bring my partner to fruition before my culmination.

DefiniteTrouble 50F

8/16/2005 8:44 pm

Oh...there are other means )

dabritbikerw3 64M
29 posts
8/17/2005 6:14 am

If that is a question, Yes, there are.

If that is a comment, Oh hell yes there are.

DefiniteTrouble 50F

8/17/2005 11:58 am

It was a statement....tried and true.

wayne340 69M

8/25/2005 1:12 pm

Well, 'def', Since you told me you already read my story about my TABOO cunnilingus episode with a "Club Girl" while I was stationed in South Korea back in 1967-68, it does not need repeating. (Glad you liked it)
With my ex-wife there were two reasons why she could/would not enjoy it. First, naturally, was that even after she would douche she still had that lingering doubt about the smell and would keep saying "Are you sure" to me.
Second, and almost always recurring no matter how much we discussed it, was the fact that her mother had DRUMMED into her all her life that sex was just not good, and anything besides missionary was some kind of terrible sin to be avoided at all costs. Her mother had been abandoned by her father when she was about 9 or 10, and there were five children in the family, so that made her mother really bitter toward her father, and all men in general. To this day 40+ years later her mother has never dated a man. So that's just a couple of reasons I know that would make a woman hesitant about cunnilingus.
********No, Honey, It Smells Fine*********

DefiniteTrouble 50F

8/26/2005 5:16 am

I never realized it was such an issue for so many women until I started researching the topic. Funny, men have no problem flopping it out for us to regard to size, smell, or anything. I'm beginning to take on that attitude as well. "Here it is...make it happy."

dieharddrummerbo 54M

8/27/2005 5:51 pm

hey, what's good for the gander..... it's all good! and from what i've read on here, the men don't have a chance to "flop it out". you always beat them to it, lol! but, hey, i love that!lol.

DefiniteTrouble 50F

8/27/2005 7:05 pm

ROFLMAO!!! Is my fondness for fellatio an unattractive characteristic? Oh're too funny.

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