BDSM?  

DefiniteTrouble 50F
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8/23/2005 12:19 pm

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BDSM?

Do I like being tied up?

This question was posed to me in relation to my "Completely Cunning" blog. No, I'm not into bondage. Binding my feet and hands isn't a prerequisite for me to orgasm. No, you may not drip that hot candle wax on my nipples. I deal with hot wax enough at the salon. Sure, I love leather. But when it comes to sex, I prefer totally nude. A ball gag? No thanks. Your cock in my mouth will be more than sufficient.

However, there are times when a man may feel the need to restrain me, and I don't mind. A few examples:

- I've been sucking, licking and delighting him for over an hour, paying special attention to every inch. He decides it's time for me to be pleased. Force may be necessary to remove my lips from around his cock. After dominant coaxing, I retreat, letting him explore whatever areas he desires. But, give me half a chance, and he'll find my mouth sliding up and down his gorgeous cock once again. Time to restrain me.

- His lips and tongue are trailing from my breasts and down my tummy, invoking excitement and high arousal. Just as his mouth reaches my pussy, I might reposition myself or move his head away, hindering him from diving in. Sure, I enjoy the touch and feel of a mouth between my legs...love it. Just makes me somewhat uptight. Time to restrain me.

- He's pounding inside me from behind, or I'm riding on top, either facing him or not...doesn't matter. I'm about to reach a powerful orgasm, and he knows it, but don't want to just yet. So I pull away, offering another position of his choice. Time to restrain me.

- It's not an unknown fact, if you've read any of my previous blogs, that I enjoy anal sex on occasion. Depends on my comfort level with my partner. After stimulating my ass for some time with fngers, toys, etc., he decides he's ready to thrust his hard cock deep inside that tight hole. Yes, it can be a bit painful at first, but after a few minutes, I find the sensation very erotic and satisfying. He may find the need to keep me still long enough to enter successfully. Time to restrain me.

My definition of restraint?

- Usually holding my hands and arms down will work effectively, but this means my partner won't have 2 hands free to roam and explore.
- Scarves, ties...anything I can free myself from with somewhat ease, not that I'll try...are acceptable.
- I do own a set of cuffs...the real deal...won them in a heated billiards battle with a police officer...but they've never been used. These are an option, as long as I have the key within reaching distance.

No, you may not tie my feet together, to a footboard, or anything of that nature. I won't kick. Or at least I haven't yet.

A smack across the ass now and then is ok. I'm sure I've been bad enough to deserve it. Using your bare hand only. Leave the whips and paddles behind. I'm not into pain.

Can you pull my hair? At my age and with my hectic schedule, my near-waist-length hair isn't practical. It's there for a reason. Some men find this act arousing. If he's aroused, I'm aroused.

Sub or Dom?

Neither, really, although I do enjoy the man taking control of the bedroom. Perhaps it's the dominant career role I'm forced to play on a daily basis. After hours, I don't want to be in charge of anything...period.

Do these scenarios and preferences qualify me as being "into" BDSM? I don't think so, but then again I'm not really sure. It's not a subject I've researched extensively.

Questions? Comments?


Life7772 57M

8/23/2005 6:55 pm

I find that you are a bedroom sub, with a touch of brat. Which really makes you interesting.


DefiniteTrouble 50F

8/23/2005 8:41 pm

A touch of brat? Oh please, do go on...


dieharddrummerbo 54M

8/23/2005 9:24 pm

i'm trying to restrain myself but i can't seem to tie with my toes! AH-HA! i crack myself up-snort!


DefiniteTrouble 50F

8/24/2005 2:46 am

Oh good Lord, lol...you crack me up too.


DefiniteTrouble 50F

9/6/2005 2:10 am

I was recently asked if I'd ever been blindfolded and my views on such.

No, I've never been blindfolded, but am not opposed to such, as I imagine the heightened awareness of your remaining senses would be unbelieveable.


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