Anticipation...  

DefiniteTrouble 50F
2839 posts
8/14/2005 8:01 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Anticipation...

I believe it has the potential to kill or drive you deliriously mad at the very least.

When an IM pops up, and it's that special someone. Your blood pressure rises, your heart skips beats, your emotions flip-flop from elation to nervousness. And no matter what the conversation is in reference to, once it's ended, you find yourself so aroused you have to seek immediate relief. I know I've had to sign off and grab the nearest toy a time or two.

Or when your phone vibrates, the ringer off for various reasons, and you can sense it's the object of your desires without even looking. And once you confirm your intuition, you feel the heat between your legs escalate quickly, and you're in a manic rush to find a secluded spot for private conversation. Oh yes, I've had to excuse myself more than once, not only to accept the call, but to relieve myself after.

I often find myself debating the necessity of panties due to anticipation. It seems I spend an awful lot of time changing them...


vezhen 40M
17 posts
8/14/2005 12:07 pm

just keep your phone in your cunt. or better still I'll ram my dick in there and give you something to get really excited about.


DefiniteTrouble 50F

8/14/2005 1:23 pm

Uh...thanks for the advice and the offer, but I'll pass. I already have someone to take care of that for me.


DefiniteTrouble 50F

8/14/2005 6:09 pm

Uh...I appreciate the advice, and thanks for the offer, but I think I'll pass. I currently have someone to take care of that for me. (Really thinking I want to delete his comment, but I'll leave it...what the hell...)


dieharddrummerbo 54M

8/15/2005 12:45 am

for better or for worse, the public forum!


DefiniteTrouble 50F

8/15/2005 3:17 am

Just wish everyone would leave a polite comment, or elaborate on the topic...not just offer to stick it in me, lol...damn


rm_xiomatic 50M

8/15/2005 7:43 am

So question for you and other as well. When the situation arises to where one has this kind of anticipation waiting until that IM or phone call, then my question extends to if the one shows his/her anticipation through voice or words written? Or in the worst case, do we, by human nature from past experiences, keep our hearts, feeling and allures protective until we are ensured by this mysterious suitor, all things reciprocated??

Strange when one looks at a situation, there is usually a Bright and Dark side to just about any situation... The choices one makes during a situation will suggest potential outcome to one or the other... Hiding your excitment could leave to one thinking he/she has not captivated your interest... Being over zealous could also be construed as too anxious...

Which way would you choice?


DefiniteTrouble 50F

8/15/2005 9:31 am

Initially, I prefer to be cautious. If I give someone my phone number, I feel that to be a more than subtle hint that I'm interested, if nothing else, just to talk and get to know one another better. I often find myself following his lead as not to get too excited about something that he's not feeling. If an obvious mutual spark is there, I relax somewhat, and am more apt to express myself openly. I have had instances where I feel I may have come on too strong out of sheer excitement and may have scared an interest or two away possibly thinking I was seeking more than I truly am at this point in my life. So, I've tried to tone it down a bit, saving the cartwheels and backflips for times when I'm alone.


DefiniteTrouble 50F

8/15/2005 10:50 am

Ew...still thinking I need to delete that first comment...lol


rm_xiomatic 50M

8/15/2005 1:27 pm

I was a little shocked to read parts of your opinion. I assumed from a woman with your depicted drive and adventures in life you wouldn't have the apprehensiveness. I am somewhat astonished. Although I would have to agree as well being cautious in the internet age and certain individuals one can meet. I have had my fair share as well in people posing for someone or something they are not. It is a tough situation to be put forth and decisions I would hope are based on the individual and not as a gender as a whole (a.k.a. = Typical male comment as stated above. Don't all men know a woman can get laid whenever she wants???) But as well, when one gets the hint another is extremely interested, then I would hope the guards reduce more and more as the days go by...
P.S. Would really like to see the cartwheels and backflips...


DefiniteTrouble 50F

8/15/2005 7:41 pm

My depicted drive is genuine. However, I learned the hard way that it's best to keep your guard up initially in situations like this. I get numerous emails daily that state that person is searching for someone like me, looking for exactly the same type "friendship" I seek. I then read the profile provided. Most often than not I find several inconsistencies and know that person isn't what I'm seeking at all. If the profile seems genuine, I'll agree to further communication, and let my intuition take me from there. Like I said, I learned the hard way. It happened once, and I don't care to find myself in that position again. I encountered an old acquaintance on this site some time ago.

Without going into too much detail, he was someone I trusted initially and trusted moreso as we became reacquainted over a period of a few weeks. After two nights of mutually satisfying sex, and everything set for a promising long-term relationship, I received an email stating he needed a break, then he disappeared. I never contacted him further, and assumed he would eventually get back in touch with me. After a few days, humiliated and feeling used, I deleted my AdultFriendFinder account, deciding it wasn't the best option for me. It happens to most of us at some point in our lives. I got over it. It still doesn't make it any easier when I pass his house, as it's in my direct path each day, or when we bump into one another at the grocery, and both of us turn the other way. It was a stupid mistake on my part, and I learned from the experience.

Funny, when I decided to give AdultFriendFinder another try, one of the first emails I received was from him. I identified myself, and he never replied. My point being, this was someone I knew, and not only did it make me feel like a cheap piece of trash, it hurt. I was left to wonder how meeting with someone I didn't know would feel if the same thing happened. I know the hurt wouldn't be there because there would be no previous ties. But, I refuse to be left with the humiliation of being treated like just another piece of ass. I have too much pride and respect for myself. I know, it's not fair to those of you out there who are actually seeking what I seek. And I'm sure I've missed some great opportunities. But, as I've mentioned before, I'm not going to settle.

And yes, if my intuition proves to be correct, I drop my guard fairly quick. Hmmm...your desire to watch the gymnastics. Is that in hopes I might not be wearing panties under my skirt, or is that a subtle hint of interest?


rm_xiomatic 50M

8/16/2005 7:46 am

I'm going to make a gender statement here, which I don't agree to judge someone because of gender. Most men in a relationship of this aspect are somewhat different. True most men do not have the ability to process clear thoughts due to one head taking over ration thoughts of the other. So I understand why/how a guy can make one statement to a woman and in actuality only desire the sexual satisfaction of a one time event. From what I have learned, women are different in this area. In my experiences, I have found women in this type of a relationship are more controlled by their emotions. The thoughts of being used as you stated. Feeling cheap as well. Ask just about any man if he would let a woman use him this way, and I would guess about 80% of the men you asked, would say Yes... But ask the same question to women, and I would guess about 5% would say Yes... Being different genders we look at situations differently. Men in this case you referring, probably don't think it was a big deal. Women seem to focus on more details surround the situation. I'm not saying I agree with either, nor am I saying I'm an expert on gender behavior. I'm not trying to offend anyone here, so please don't think I am. My opinions are only from my own experiences as well...

The problems I seem to incur with AdultFriendFinder are most people say one thing, but mean another. Examples... How many Emails do we all receive from someone, whether an individual or a couple, and after the frist contact we don't hear from them again? Maybe with some people it is more the accopmlishment of knowing, they got your attention and they get the feeling they are still attractive or wanted... Whatever the case may be, I would assume this happens to a lot of us...

Your Gymnastic Skills??? To be perfectly honest... BOTH... I have a great interest in watching you do gymnastics without panties... Would you mind if I pick the venue for this event????


DefiniteTrouble 50F

8/16/2005 8:19 am

I agree with your views regarding gender differences. However, I'm not one to let such situations be ruled by emotions. This happened to be an isolated incident, I brushed it off, and climbed back up on the horse. There are certain encounters where there are no expectations, no conversations regarding any long-term benefits...these shouldn't leave anyone feeling cheap or used, man or woman. Simply needs to be fulfilled, accomplished, and they go their separate ways. But, when there are implied desires for a mutual LTR, one comes to expect just that, especially when the chemistry is right.

True, some visit these sites just for the knowing, the ego boost, that others find them interesting and intriguing, and have no intention of going any further. Some have viewed me as such. I was called an "elitist, snobby, spoiled bitch" by one kind gentleman, an "attention whore" who used this as a means of teasing men and having them "fawn" over me, lol. Those who have met me know that's not me at all. And yes, I have met people from this site...I'm not here to play the cock tease. But, I do have specific wants and needs, and choose to seek those out above all else.

Unfortunately, the cartwheels and backflips are a bit rusty...have been for many years. I can, however, offer to demonstrate a few yoga techniques if you find that of any interest. I'm curious as to the venue you'd choose.

As always, you're a delightful conversationalist...


rm_xiomatic 50M

8/16/2005 2:35 pm

Curiosity is what killed the cat is what I have been told... lol... My venue would probably start with what I like to call an "FF" weekend. For those of you that are not aware of this terminology, then sorry... Basically it would start out on a Saturday morning by ways of you being awaken from your sleep with tingling sensations admix your inner thighs... After an hour of passion filled satisfaction, then we once again would rest in the arms of each other. Within a considerable short length of time, you rest period is interrupted again, with the sensation of pressure surrounding your nipples. Light, soft touches arise you to discover my tongue circling each nipple. Once again, we commence to pleasure of each other bodies until around noon. Afterwards I leave you in bed with thoughts of my naked body walking towards the kitchen. Soon I return to deliver your breakfast in bed... Once consumed, I clear everything and settle back in bed. You lie on my chest drifting back off to sleep. Near 30 minutes after your food settling, you are brought out of your sleep with the incredible feelings of my hard tool already sliding between your thighs... Continuing on, I pull you out of bed and direct you to the shower. The feeling of the hot water begins to diminish when our clean session of each other bodies ends. Getting ready for the events to come for the night, as you walk in front of me towards the door, I notice you are not wearing panties under your sundress. I lead you into the kitchen and the counter height is finally used from it's intention... Moving to car, headed out for the evening, I have to pull over on the interstate to inspect your attire... By the time we arrive at dinner, we are an hour late for our reservations. The hostess looks appalled at our request to still be seated. I look at you and you glance back with that same look of desire. We acknowledge the hostess, turn for the door with only one goal in mind. How fast can we get to the car to where we can rip each other clothes off... After this session, we decided to return home and order in. As the door bell rings with our delivery, we are interrupted on the living room floor having to answer the door. Dinner is served... Looking at the events of the day, we proceed toward the bed once again to end the night as it started...
Dreams on the "FF" Weekend...

I don't have the flair with words as you. In these situation, the body speaks the language, not the lips...

Until later,


DefiniteTrouble 50F

8/16/2005 3:14 pm

WOW. I'm in the middle of a conference, just breaking for a few. Please excuse me, I'll have to get back to this later...and yes, you do have a flair for words, as well as an excellent ability to capture someone's attention. Ciao...until later...


rm_xiomatic 50M

8/16/2005 5:24 pm

Glad you approve... And thank you as well for the compliment... Hope you went back into your conference with somewhat of a misguided thought...


dabritbikerw3 64M
29 posts
8/16/2005 6:21 pm

Hate to interrupt such a wonderful couple, but reading your angst about the ex,ex-friend, Def, I certainly hope that you have left that behind you. I doubt that you have, because of the "Lie" he acted out upon you and the quick turn around at the public meeting places, grocery store, etc.

I have a similar experience at the moment (I believe) with an ex, and itt has been hard to not look at the house as I drive by.


DefiniteTrouble 50F

8/16/2005 8:41 pm

LMAO...we're not a couple. However, we do enjoy one another's conversation a great deal.

As far as my negative experience, it has been left far behind. I should've kept my eyes wide open, and not been so hard on myself in the end. It happens. Just don't care to have it happen to me again. It was a learning experience for sure.


DefiniteTrouble 50F

8/17/2005 5:07 am

Whew...just read your post again from yesterday Xio. My conference ran late last night, and after bathing and doing miscellaneous chores around the house, I was just too tired to comment. Again...WOW. I never expected you'd open up as much as you did here in the forum. When I caught your response yesterday while breaking from my conference, I was floored, to say the least.

The weekend you mentioned is one dreams are made of...24 hours of pure passion and sex, interrupted briefly for nutrition and rest periods only. I enjoy being wakened arousingly by my partner. There's a certain seductiveness that can't be refused when you feel his mouth and hands delighting your body while being in a dream-like state. You open your eyes groggily, seeing his erection is building, or perhaps he's already fully erect, knowing he's enjoying himself as much as he's pleasing you. To wake with him thrusting inside you is even more amazing. Often, you'll remain in a dream-like state for a longer period of time, no inhibitions able to escape, allowing him to fully explore as he wishes, bringing you both to highly intense orgasms.

I would, perhaps, not reveal my lack of undergarments, until we reached our chosen venue for the evening. When I felt the time was right, I'd kiss your neck softly, stroking your thigh, take your hand and discretely slip it under my skirt, revealing my exposed wetness. After a morning and afternoon of seeing to my every need, I'd want to return the favor. Graciously, and seductively. As your fingers teased under my skirt, both of us glancing periodically to make sure no one was paying attention to our antics, I'd rub your cock through your pants, exchanging brief kisses to justify the extreme closeness of our bodies. The waitress approaches, and we disengage long enough to place an order to go, both of us knowing the need to get out of the public eye is somewhat overdue.

Once in the car and on our way, you have trouble concentrating on the road, my skirt raised just enough for you to watch my own fingers seductively exploring myself. I'd move closer and pull your cock out of your pants...maybe we'd make it back to your place, maybe not, depending on your ability to drive with my lips and tongue teasing your swollen cock....and I'll let your imagination run wild at this point.

Dreams of a "FF" weekend...very enticing.


rm_xiomatic 50M

8/17/2005 10:10 am

The outside cover of a book should not aura to explore the inside pages. The inside pages destine the outside cover so intriguing. For one judging from the outside cover, one will either be excited to proceed or disenchanted after the first chapter...
I was amused when I read your comment directed towards me being somewhat tentative regarding provoking thoughts. From conversations past without obtrusive sexual schema wouldn’t imply my erotic thoughts are not present. Simply stated in more of an obtuse manner instead of directed loudly with obscene gestures of colorful four letter words. Cautious I’m not, therefore I live life with no fear. The mysterious hidden fantasies and desires are only for the one to distinguish. Venues come and venues go, some fantasies are fulfilled and some are left in a void. The “FF” weekend has yet to be experienced by this individual. Not adventuring to explore this fantasy with just any, so I as well continue a search aimlessly for one with same thoughts of erotic pleasures. Although I don’t seek perfection in another, I seek one which is perfect for me.

You have a keen sense in which I haven’t encountered until now. You alluring thoughts for dinner activities are very seductive... My career is centered around the automotive industry, so you have touched on a subject we design the car interior to accommodate… “Cruise Control” …

Until later…


DefiniteTrouble 50F

8/17/2005 11:43 am

True. As mentioned before, I have been judged by many unjustly, as well as incorrectly, based on my erotic expresions. I just never imagined you'd be so open publicly. It was a pleasant shock. Until now, I have opted to save such colorful expressions for private encounters, behind closed doors. My blog has been a great release. I'm throwing caution to the wind, so to speak, letting go of any fears and inhibitions that recently surfaced, and for which I'm quite unaccustomed to experiencing.

Another assumption? The "FF" weekend. Just by our conversations I would have imagined you'd journeyed down many paths giving your adventurous side, this being one of them. However, I understand the need to find just the right person for such an experience, as settling for anything less would most certainly not fulfill the fantasy.

As for my thoughts regarding dinner seduction...a fantasy I'd love to play out. Two people so engaged that they forget their hunger, except for one another, and find themselves discretely kissing and touching sensually until the eroticism leads them to a location, whever that might be, for private satisfaction.

Cruise control? Insightful. That would allow for repositioning of the wheel, contolled speed, and the ability to focus on your cock being devoured delightfully. There's nothing as sexually stimulating as a man with the ability to think with both heads and using them in unison to their maximum capacity. There's no doubt someone of your nature could handle such a scenario with great ease.

And perhaps I should end here, before I say things that might appear somewhat presumptuous...


rm_xiomatic 50M

8/17/2005 4:09 pm

Throwing Caution to the Wind??? Being judged and implicated by individuals is a natural aspect in life we all deal with on a day to day basis. Whether one realizes or refuses to accept logic, each of us is being probed in the eyes of others at every junction in life. How one perceives their own worth to society is only for the one to decide or sit in judgment. For we all know, there is no such scale to measure perfection and perfection obtained in the eyes of one, usually don’t hold for the eyes of many. Insinuations and proclamations from ones with no accountable information for judgment will only allude to the lack of knowledge one possesses. To make a simple point of statement “if someone referred to another as a bitch/bastard” then if the one knows she/he isn’t, why concerns oneself with false accusations? “He who angers you, conquers you…”

I continue to be overwhelmed and amazed for your ability to appropriately reflect thoughts and your ease of narrating in words for all to enjoy. Our continued bantering seems to capture attention from others as well. Our conversations are meant to be enlightening and focus on fantasies of two people conversing without recourse or insinuations.
Your seduction fantasy is very well described and leaves the imagination to the end reader. I as well, would be delighted to adventure this scenario with an individual whom understands and interrupts a mere facial expression to have hidden agendas. Rendezvous’ of adventurous nature excite the lustful admirations of an equivalent counterpart. Although knowing your attire is a skirt, the events to prelude in the vehicle would have to consist of your knees positioned on the seat, legs spread accessible, and the soft touch of my hand caressing your flesh while you are enjoying the inconceivable state of pleasure you have driven my body. The touch of my fingers exploring every sensitive area associated with your wetness bringing your own orgasmic sensations rushing to vivid expression of vocal proportions…

Question or Proverb ??? Water is fluid, soft, and yielding. But water will wear away rock, which is rigid and cannot yield. As a rule, whatever is fluid, soft, and yielding will overcome whatever is rigid and hard. This is another paradox: what is soft is strong???


DefiniteTrouble 50F

8/20/2005 7:55 am

Yes, I am just as guilty of making hasty judgements about those I encounter on this site simply based on the words they choose to describe themselves and for what they are seeking. But, I am not doing so to out of contempt for their wants, needs, desires, or preferences..."to each his own." I do so as a way to filter out those who don't have the qualities for which I am seeking myself. I am always as polite in my response as possible, as I respect the situations and preferences of each individual I've encountered, and expect them to do the same in reference to me. I have learned to drop my guard somewhat, and take the chance to get to know someone a little better before I make any judgement as to whether I might find them equally satisfying. After all, if I've been judged based on my writings to be extremely sexually experienced in various adventurous areas, then perhaps I should take the time to delve deeper inside the mind of others to find what actually exists beyond their simple words, if anything.



And yes, I have been angered to the point of rebuttle, once, for someone judging me in the same manner. I am usually quite passive with such behavior. I choose not to let the way people view me get under my skin, because I am me, and what anyone thinks doesn't matter in the end. However, he was quite rude, blunt, and demeaning...and I didn't appreciate such. I posted a blog in reference to this, and removed it after a few days, realizing all I was achieving was his glory by my ommission that he infuriated me so.

Your banter is as insightful as it is delightful. You have, more than once, posed questions in my mind that have made me sit back and take a hard look at what I have to offer and what I desire at this point in my life. (I'm still bouncing "what is soft is strong" around in my head). We tend to have the same thoughts in reference to what we are seeking at this point in our lives. I find that we share many likenesses, as I'm sure you agree. However, the one difference we share in our current situations seems to continually spark heated arguements for which there seems no happy medium, although, as I mentioned, it has made me take a hard look at myself, and I realize there are adjustments that need to be made to insure I'm fully satisfied in what I desire, as well as providing those of interest an equally fair option for satisfaction. You constantly stimulate my mind, challenging every aspect of my written expressions. To what end? Is it merely an exchange of words to continually keep me on my toes? To enlighten other readers with our in-depth conversations? Or, perhaps, a means of discrete foreplay? You know as well as I that stimulation of the mind is often a precursor to stimulation of inner desires.

As always, I try to leave the reader with the ability to take my fantasies wherever they'd like. Your addition to my narrative was quite arousing...another example of mind stimulation provoking my inner desires. You do that with such ease...


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