Mail Call!  

DeepRiverDreamin 47F
88 posts
12/5/2005 3:06 pm

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8/19/2008 10:43 pm

Mail Call!

This is a step outside the usual dreamin' done here, but I have no other idea on what to do.

I have been a member of this site since December 1, 2005. Yes, a newbie. I had accessed and read the blogs from the internet for a while before actually joining. Changes in my personal situation made me decide to give this site a shot, to see what would happen. Never, in my wildest dreams did I expect the response I've gotten. Over 200 emails in less than 5 days. I try to read them and more come in. It's a neverending cycle, and forget trying to answer them all. Now, the mailbox is so full the first emails in are being deleted.

I've looked at the options on my profile in hopes of narrowing down who might contact me. Somewhere in there must be an option that says "no married men" but I can't seem to find it. Sorry guys, been there, done that and once again I'll be spending Christmas alone. I learned the hard way on that one and that is the personal change I mentioned earlier. I'm done being the "other" woman. It was fine for a while. I have my career and other activities to fill my time. What I didn't have was that special someone in my life on those special days. New Year's Eve, never got that kiss at midnight. I got plenty of flowers on Valentine's but never that personal touch on that day. Fourth of July, my birthday, the day of family barbeques. Just never was MY family. I can keep listing them, but I'm sure you get the picture. I don't want to hear how you are misunderstood, how there is no sex, how you are waiting until the kids are grown. I heard it for years. So, please, if you are married or attached or list yourself as "prefer not to say", please, PLEASE don't contact me.

My father is 57. If you are in that age range you can bet I'm not going to be interested in you. I just won't go there. It doesn't matter if you promise me the world, you are out of my age range.
As far as younger men, 30 is young enough for me. There was one 25 year old that wrote me a great email which I wanted to respond to, to at least let him know I appreciated his style, but that was one that was deleted today at some point as my mailbox filled up. I can't remember his handle, but his letter was about how he didn't have to send a dick picture...

Which brings me to another request. I'm a grown woman. I know what a penis looks like. If you think sending me three different photos of it is going to impress me, you are wrong. A shot of your member in the orafice of another woman? Once again, not impressive. Gentlemen, woo me with your words. Don't try to poke my eye out.

I am not the type of woman to meet someone on a whim. I'm sorry. I need to know something about you and feel comfortable putting myself out there.

I feel like I'm on a rant and I don't mean to sound bitchy about all of this but I really have been overwhelmed. In all those emails there were a few of you that shined and I will try to at least get back to you if I can, before your email gets deleted.

One more thing. Thank you all for the compliments on my looks, on my writing and for the attention.

freudianslips 36M
1 post
12/5/2005 5:14 pm

you can filter and only accept the messages that do not send a picture with the email, you can filter for your age preferance. You can also take a chance with a 25y/o; you never know what great times might come from it

DeepRiverDreamin 47F
46 posts
12/5/2005 5:24 pm

Thank you for your advice. I'll see if I can't figure out how to set those preferences.

Also, thanks for making me laugh. How'd I know you were 25.

Plano69 54M

12/5/2005 10:00 pm

Do these same restrictions apply to your blog, your great poetry, your amazing mind? If so, please let me know and I'll go...

DeepRiverDreamin 47F
46 posts
12/5/2005 10:22 pm

Not at all Plano. The whole email thing just blew me away. Some of the other men could take lessons on photos from yours..a hint of things to come is much more enticing than someone waving it around like aflag screaming "Look what I have!"

AlbertPrince 58M

12/6/2005 1:21 am

I don't get any e-mails. Can I have the ones you don't want?

MillsShipsGayly 51M

12/6/2005 5:56 am

It seems blogland is a good place to screen out people who can't write or organize a coherent thought.

As for me, I can;t typw worth a liq....

welcome, some great peeps here that might be right for you

good luck

rm_modified1964 52M
6 posts
12/6/2005 6:55 pm

your a very beautiful woman i look forward to reading your thoughts everday thanks Tim

bulging_boy 49M

12/7/2005 1:05 am

Hiya Dreamin,

Yup, at least you're honest with yourself. Doesn't mean that the emails you get are going to be from people that have read your posts... or for that matter can read.

Unfortunately it's the norm for women to get inundated with pictures of dicks. If you get a particularly impressive one... could you send it to me, so I could pretend it was mine?


SecretKeeperr 48F
56 posts
12/21/2005 2:10 am

Bravo... A brave to a brilliant woman. I respectfully applaud your candor and willingness to be so nakedly bold. I am, however, surprised by the "questionables" that responded. It just goes to show, what you've offered is seldom equally matched... Don't give up. You deserve better. And, better, if you are wise, will find his way to your door. I wish you the best of the passion you are searching for...


rm_mlind2005 56M

3/16/2006 7:08 pm

poor baby...such a rough life....try being an ugly woman and see what tough really is....NOBODY gives a damn.

elevenmeters 54M
65 posts
3/28/2008 3:38 pm

I never got to meet you, and never got to know you, but you seem like a wonderful woman. Good luck in Cali. I know Texas will miss you.

Much Love 11

rm_Pete6900 57M

4/24/2008 7:44 am

For a woman with your looks and obvious intelligence, to find yourself so alone and need AdultFriendFinder says there must be something unattractive about your personality.
Perhaps if you stopped feeling so sorry for yourself you might attract the kind of guy you're looking for

rm_urbex08 41M

4/27/2008 7:56 am

Excellently stated.

Basically... be real... be honest... and be realistic in your expectations.

Best of luck to everyone !!

CrewBody 48M

8/14/2008 3:00 pm

I disagree - I think the statement "there must be something unattractive about your personality" is really prejudicial. And just mean!

I think the statement itself is a reflection of the writer, but how can one judge - I don't know Pete6900. But I don't think I would go out of my way to do so.

DeepRiverDreamin 47F
46 posts
8/19/2008 10:43 pm

    Quoting CrewBody:
    I disagree - I think the statement "there must be something unattractive about your personality" is really prejudicial. And just mean!

    I think the statement itself is a reflection of the writer, but how can one judge - I don't know Pete6900. But I don't think I would go out of my way to do so.
Thank you. I really wasn't letting it bother me. I would guess that maybe Pete might fall into the married or too old for my tastes category. A bit of sour grapes perhaps?

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