My Life as a Blonde  

DeepPinkk 62F
57 posts
4/9/2006 11:03 am

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My Life as a Blonde

It's amazing to me, the reaction that people have to the color of a person's hair. Some years ago, I decided to go blonde. This was back in the 70's, before it became popular for black women to wear their hair that way. The singer, Etta James, was my inspiration, she had been wearing her hair that color for years.

My main reason for going blonde, was the cosmetic effect. I liked the contrast of my brown skin with the light hair. I've gone back to wearing it black on occasion, but feel comfortable with the lighter colored hair. I guess, it's the cultural indoctrination that makes people, men anyway, give preferential treatment to blondes. At least in some ways.

It does have its draw backs. It seems that, at first anyway, people don't take you seriously. As though the color of your hair makes you less likely to be able to think intelligently, to have good ideas. Maybe they think the peroxide has somehow muddled your brain.

Men seem to feel freer to make passes at you. Does this mean they think because your hair is blonde, you have looser morals? I've always carried myself as a lady in public. I'm certainly not a "bimbo", never have thought of myself as such. But when I open my mouth and intelligent sounds come out, it seems to frighten some men away.

With women, there's another whole set of reactions. Some seem to look at me with suspicion, or don't speak to me at all. Others, if I speak first, seem to relax and will talk with me. Then there are some who seem to be downright hostile.

At the risk of opening a can of worms here, when I've discussed this on occasion with a couple of friends, at least one opinion was that white women felt I was "stealing some of their thunder" by wearing my hair blonde, or was "trying to be white". Nothing could be further from the truth. There are some black folks in this world who have blonde hair naturally. If you take a look at some of the aboriginals in Australia, you will find the light hair. Some places in Africa, you will find people with the light colored hair. The interaction of the sun and certain natural chemicals will sometimes do that. Besides, I could point out the same thing regarding whites, who tan. Does this mean they are trying to be black? I doubt it. They like the cosmetic effect of having the tanned brown skin, right?

I think there is a subtle difference to the energy that comes from persons, with different hair colors. Or maybe it's just the beliefs that have built up over decades of propaganda. Or, perhaps it's a combination of things. I haven't quite made up my mind, just what the driving force is.

I'm wondering,

Maybe your experiences as a blonde are different.

What's your reaction to a black woman with blonde hair, is it different? I'm NOT looking for validation. Just curious.

Maybe you find yourself behaving differently toward ANY woman with blonde hair.

runzwithknives 59F

4/10/2006 1:02 pm

Great post!!

My first thought was along the lines of, you gotta be kidding me right? I don't initially stereotype people based on hair color. Nope not me. Well, bunch of shit, LOL!! I do. Initial reaction: Blondes are flirts (sluts) and have nothing to say. Brunettes are warm and sexy, deep. Redheads are out of control, wild, fun and witty. Grey hair means wise and learned (oh yeah that's me). Well shit, where the hell did all that come from? Now, I generally don't stereotype (believe it or not) Or try very hard not to. Try to be aware of those thoughts when they do arise.

As far as behavior from men? I really try not to pay attention, but maybe it does run on parallel lines. Is this what's chronically pushed in the media and our society? Is it so ingrained that both men and woman have the same initial reaction as I do?

As far as black woman with lighter hair....Couldn't really give a shit. Although I will say that my assumption wil always be that a black woman with hair color other than brown/black dyes her hair. Same with a woman of obvious Asian descent. Lets face it. Here in the US the chances of running into a black woman with naturally lighter hair is pretty slim.

Millions of woman dye their hair (including me). Sorry girlfriend, you are scriped into a life of looking Black. And certainly no hair dye for you, right? Truth be told, sometimes I like the color, somtimes I don't. that goes for any women. I've seen hideous color on many a white woman, LOL!! Hmmm....I like being tan. So I shouldn't because it means I want to steal your thunder as a black woman? Now I've heard everything. LAMO here...not out of disrespect for your experience or questions. Just because people are so very strange in how they evaluate others.

BTW, I like your haircolor. Very becoming. Looks like you wear it well.


DeepPinkk 62F

4/10/2006 3:08 pm

Thanks for responding Rosa.

I have freckles to go along with the blonde hair, seems to make it more believable for some. Also, during the summer, the hair on my arms turns light from the sun. I do my eyebrows to match the hair. You'd be surprised at how many do think it's natural.

I'm very proud of my heritage, which includes not only the African, but also Native American and European.

Personally, I do think that all too often people are hung up on what they think people should look like according to their own comfort level.

I bring the topic up because of some of the reactions I do get from people sometimes. And believe it or not, I've even heard the "stealing thunder" accusation when it comes to not only my blonde hair, but also the tanning. I think all too often, we're more effected by the propaganda out there, than we'd like to believe.

And BTW, thanks for the compliment.

rm_MikMelb 54M
24 posts
4/11/2006 5:40 pm

Hi, I read your post about colouring your hair blonde. From my point of view, if you like it and you feel good about it then you should do it. I have a very conservative job and I deal with clients all the time, but a couple of years ago I dyed my hair orange for 3 months. It was interesting to gauge people's reactions. Most of the people who knew me got very confused and didn't know how to react. The smart ones just ignored it and carried on as normal - which is the right thing to do, because it was still the same "me" under that hair. Some people were shy and apprehensive about it (understandable) and others were downright rude.

I agree with Rosa - I think you wear it well and it suits you. And I agree with you too - how is that different to people going to tanning salons or buying spray or roll-on tan? How is it different to using nail polish? For that matter how is it different to putting on a nice dress, or a sexy one? It is all an expression of ourselves, what we feel comfortable with, and what makes us feel good and attractive.

Keep up the good work and have fun with it


imLadyBambi 58M/50F

4/13/2006 4:16 am

Mr. Bambi here...

Wow, good point! Unfairly, I really don't give any "blonde credits" to black women with blonde hair. I view them as stylish but not as blondes.

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