Really looking or just checking things out?  

55 posts
5/31/2005 9:15 am

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11/8/2006 8:21 am

Really looking or just checking things out?

I am curious of the number of people here on AdultFriendFinder that are really into finding someone to get together with, virus those that are here just for the thrill of the thought of meeting someone. I know from experience that some people are all talk and when it comes to meeting then you never hear from them again. I believe some people respond and correspond and then when it is time to actually meet the remember the significant other they have and don't even show or cancel, just totally flake out.. Now I have no problem with talking with people and being friends and such, but I have a problem with someone telling me they want to meet and then drop out of site. Has anyone else experienced this??

rm_PhxGntlmn4U 49M

5/31/2005 3:35 pm

again...I feel exactly as you do Dawn Marie. I've experienced this a couple of times however I think if people try to be up front about what they are looking for and follow through with their intentions, this would be a more enjoyable place to potentially meet someone. That is why I like your post about pictures in general. The good thing is I've noticed more people indicating they don't want players or BS and they want to cut to the chase. If they are really following through with that, that is a good thing.

rm_indophilist 36M

6/1/2005 10:49 am

I'm all talk, though I'll think of an actual encounter as
a very remote possibility.
The great thing about this site is that you have the whole
world at your fingertips, and I do mean the whole world!

NightOfPassion2 58M

6/2/2005 9:48 am

A potential meeting has always provided excitement....Im so far away from those I have chatted with .

Priapeo 46M

6/3/2005 3:20 am

Yes, experienced, and it's overly frustrating, much more than a refusal. Actually a refusal is not a frustrating thing, though not surely a boost! LOL But since one is willing to contact someone, he/she should be aware that this action bears a little responsibility, which is not that much: just being able to meet someone and say "no, sorry" if the spark isn't in the air. I also was tempted once to "flake out", like you say... I will not enter in detail, but it was an experience of which I was not 100% convinced. At the moment of meeting I got frightened and was about to run away, yet I did not. It's not a nice thing have people drive hundreds of miles and then just not show up. Baci.


Never argue with an idiot. He brings you down to his level then beats you with experience

rm_munkywrench 44M

6/6/2005 12:29 pm

Just as frustrating is when some one IM's you, says she wants to meet, then is never heard from again. Why be the one to make contact, ask for a date and never follow up? Sent an email in case they forgot my id but still nothing. Only happened twice but it felt like sh!t trying to think what I may have done wrong. Now I like to think they were just flakes and it wasn't me, can't stress over the little things. Are some women just like that in any state of communication? Most people feel a little braver online. You don't have to do something just because you feel it is expected of you in any situation. Say what you mean and mean what you say.


1 post
7/5/2005 11:34 pm

That's the perfect question to ask on AdultFriendFinder, and if everyone had to awnser it with a minium of 500 words, I believe evryone would be more honest with each other, but more importantly more honest with their own desires. I live my life by a few basic theroies.

1)Blind Faith-I trust everyone UPFRONT and hide nothing, I'm an open book even if I know it will cause a ruckus. Our flaws and differences are what makes up our soul and character. Trust isn't something you earn it's somethinig you lose.

2) Speak your mind at all costs- I just got out of 5 year relationship because she was unable to speak her mind and when I questioned her she would agree with my thoeries so her true fellings could again be hidden. Just because she was afraid to voice her TRUE FEELINGS & INTENTIONS. I know she not afraid to tell them to me, but to voice them with confidence to HERSELF. She was afraid to come to terms with the notion that she may be a little freaky, way differnt than the ideals she was taught to strive for from her childhood.

3)Don't be afraid to give up control-I think that to be in control you must be able to give up control when necessary. If someone can't relax enuff to do something requested by someoone they supposed trust "IN THE MOMENT" then the moment's over. Which causes annamosity due to the fact that the person asking, commanding, requessting, the action be done now is second guessing them selves which takes the second person "OUT OF THE MONEMT" and kills the climax.

LlamaChickMuted 50M
2 posts
7/11/2005 5:11 pm

you are right dawn,,,most won't even talk to a single black man,,,,but you....are as real as they cum i would do anything to get back in your good graces,,,you are truly one of a kind,,,Nate

AZSexCouple 61M/39F
10 posts
7/25/2005 9:50 pm

Take a look at my thinking on my blog about AdultFriendFinder members attitudes toward this site and its members, sex and how often people are not serious about their intentions.

In general, AdultFriendFinder elicits alot of sexual arousal for alot of people, who are in the safety of their home and who vicariously enjoy looking, taunting, exploring, fantasizing their sexual desires.
For those of us who are at a place in our sexual development to express and share our sexual desires, the notion another person is playing games becomes annoying and irritating.

AdultFriendFinder is a wonderful potential to connect serious peopl who seriously have fun with sex.
Like everything else in life, there are people who are serious, mature and ready to connect with you.

rm_izitpsbl 52M
1 post
8/13/2005 8:29 am

dawn,let me ask you the same.Are you serious or all talk? Do you follow thru or Have you ever flaked out on someone? I sent you a wink based on your pic,now I read that's not your real pic, so now I'm more curious than ever!!I f you contact me I wont flake out, I am serious AND you would be my first.Really looking or just checking things out?

mrclean_az 56M
1 post
9/2/2005 3:55 am

The worse thing that can happen is not getting any return email. I don't know how many times I send out email and get no responce. A simple yes, no, or maybe would be fine also.
I just spend time talikng to people in the chat rooms now, met a few of them 1on1, but most just like to talk and tease.

lovehandjobs123 35M
3 posts
1/18/2006 11:32 pm

yes and they sound so convincing right before they flake, very annoying

sexpleasureyou 41M

3/23/2006 1:02 pm

I agree flakes are not fun. But either are people that wont respond back So, write back to me sexy!

rm_avsswolf 51M
2 posts
5/12/2006 1:13 am

I could not agree more about what ALL of you are saying. You email people and there is not even the curtesy of a reply; or you get one or two responses and then nothing. All I ask for are some REAL women out there. If there are, especially in NV/CA/UT/ARZ on this site please let's chat. I wish this site had a way of filtering out the flakes. Ah well, I can dream, can't I? Take care people. Ladies if you read this and have had this problem let's talk.

rm_gigillos 57M
3 posts
5/24/2006 3:42 pm

I've been tryin to get with you for 2 months now. No flake here. Are you? Let's get together REAL woman

iluvslutts 63M

4/14/2007 10:44 pm

well i'm really looking. why not, where else can you find a better sexual match. when you consider the divorse rate & know that most divorses are caused by something sexual, then it might be the way to go. just be honest, no more hiding & sneeking around. however like most i've discovered that most are just playing games. by the way dawn you're a hotty

rm_gigillos 57M
3 posts
10/2/2007 11:07 am

I want to meet you.
4806261682 call me

rm_ricko20073 56M
9 posts
6/3/2008 12:23 pm

I am looking does get frustrating when you think you have everything set up and they flake off.. if you arent real say so up front... tell us you are playing around in your fantasy world

lomileage5 61M  
10256 posts
12/19/2008 7:19 pm

I am put off by the women I email who don't take a moment for common courtesy to respond politely. the realhangup I have seen is with the married women who chat,seem really interested,we meet with really positive vibes,then they freeze up;seems many married women like to reassure themselves of their desireability,but when faced with the ACTUAL possibility of making love,getting naked with another man freak out and run,without even saying have feelings too!

desertrat548 68M
26 posts
5/7/2009 12:46 am

What you speak about is an example of our culture in the US now; all show and no stay. If I say I'm going to meet, I meet. Sincerely, Desertrat548

rm_yohimbebig 51M
217 posts
5/14/2009 3:18 pm

I would never want to get together with someone with a virus.

Check your spelling, I think you meant "versus".

As for me, I say that people should be forthright about what they seek on here, but, knowing human nature, they are probably not, for the most part.

Jolllygreenaz 30M
1 post
3/10/2011 1:40 am

Sometimes people suck, all you can is brush 'em off and keep on truckin'. It's a bummer at first but eh, but fuck 'em. If there's one thing that I learned from my time in the Corps, "lead me, follow me, or get out of my way." So I just got back into town after being gone for 5 years, what's there to do round these parts nowadays?

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