Peculiar Backlash  

Darke_Stranger 45M
7 posts
12/4/2005 9:23 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Peculiar Backlash

I'm surprised at the number of judgmental people on AdultFriendFinder.com.

I suppose the first mistake I made was out of the 7 Erotica Stories I posted thusfar, one was on a topic that is socially taboo and controversial (although some of the largest groups on AdultFriendFinder.com.are dedicated to that taboo!). So, I guess that got me off on the wrong foot with some.

The funny thing is that it doesn't even represent my own feelings or fantasies even though there are some who have made that (false) assumption from the story itself. It was actually written for the benefit of a 29 year old woman I had been monogomous with, who had always had a fantasy of herself playing the role of a 16 years old girl and being with an older man, a "daddy" figure. She wanted to role-play it out...so to break the ice for that sexual role-playing encounter I wrote that story for her. It was never literal but apparently there are many here who have taken it that way. *SIGH* And the funny part is that it is not a fantasy I have ever had myself!

But to complicate matters, because of that story, I ended up attracting the attention of some rather young girls on AdultFriendFinder.com.who apparently have the same fantasy as the 29 year old woman I had once been involved with. I was polite and cordial but I had no intentions of ever getting involved, especially in real life with someone as young as 18-21 (no offense to those of you that are...its nothing personal, its just that I have a "Over 25 Rule" although those between 21-24 can feel free to argue their case). One of them disclosed to me that she lied about her age and had been lying about her age on AdultFriendFinder.com.for over 3 years and during that time has met several OLDER members in real life while she has been and still is in actuality a minor. At that point I chose to ignore her. Although I never had the intention of having anything to do with her other than polite platonic conversations about the nature of writing before I gained that knowledge, I certainly had no intention after!!!

However, I felt a social obligation to do something, like report her or contact her parents. For her safety, as well as for those who might be less scrupulous or gullible. But I didn't feel comfortable rocking the boat either, so I posted an Article asking for people's opinions. I got two or three very constructive suggestions...the rest took it *COMPLETELY* the wrong way and started throwing the most outrageous of accussations and judgments. Now, I *REALLY don't feel comfortable even being here on AdultFriendFinder.com.

If I hadn't rocked the boat a.) by posting a story on an emotionally charged topic and b.) by feeling morally inclined to do the right thing by reporting a minor on AdultFriendFinder.com.and asking for advice on how to handle it (report it to a Moderator...to the police...to their parents...etc.), then I wouldn't be in this position. Teaches me for trying to be socially responsible and caring for the well-being of others!

I'm seriously thinking of just going back to trying to find potential partners the old-fashioned way...at an over-21 bar or night-club. Trying to hook up with people online is too dangerous and the people aren't much better quality...you are going to find the same intellectually dull, judgmental, close-minded cretins that you are going to find any where else.


rm_FreeLove999 46F
16127 posts
12/4/2005 10:13 am

first time i've looked into your blog and must admit i'm surprised at this backlash -- i have posted several "daddy" stories and poems etc (related to cybersex and other sex fantasies with men from here), and no one has questioned them AT ALL!! i suspect rather a lot of women have these fantasies, which for me in no way represent any wish or desire to have sex with my RL father, who is a total asshole.

IMO, keep on blogging and ignore the stupidity!



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ladycyn1000 44F

12/4/2005 10:19 am

I do not think that you have done anything wrong and would not let the opinion of some ruin what fun you might otherwise have on this sight. I think that no matter what you do or say there will always be those that disagree and view things totally different. Do not let that discourage you and give it some time and patience there are some really great people here too. Good luck with your future and hope you find everything you are looking for. Cyn


candygirl10001 37F
1 post
12/13/2005 6:07 pm

I'm not sure if you've decided to remain on this site or not, but if you are still around, I would like to speak with you. If you are still using AdultFriendFinder, send me an e-mail and let me know. I promise you that not everyone who uses this site horrendously judgmental.


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