Getting Down To Business  

Dariana 52F
19 posts
10/16/2005 2:03 am

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6/4/2006 2:51 pm

Getting Down To Business


Well tonight I told "R" that he either has to spice it up a bit or the "getting it" is gonna start to bore me, like it hasn't already!!! I mean come on, does it always have to be soooooo basic? They say you CAN teach an old dog new tricks, but I think in "R"'s case, the man can't loose up enough to learn anything at all.

Funny, I remember his exact words when we first met.....he said...."I want to be the best lover you ever had, so show me the way." Well ummmm, he must be blind, lol.

Aw well, obviously my boredom has brought me back to AdultFriendFinder for some fun. Come on now, ya'll help me out here. I need an adventure!

rm_blueskies12 58M

10/16/2005 10:21 am

Well Dariana,
'if' he's worth the time at this juncture. Try to show him the way. Tell him 'exactly' what you are looking for, what you want and how much it means to you. After a specific time that you decide, make a decision whether or not he has improved or not. No real improvemnet, no more Dariana.
I have a similiar situation as well. At this point, she gets no more.

Good luck Dear,
Blueskies


rm_SwizelH 50M
1 post
10/17/2005 4:16 pm

If you do end up looking for more adventures, would be great to discuss the possibilities.


rm_bmarshall3 48M
2 posts
10/20/2005 8:43 pm

What if you did something to totally shake him up? Most guys will go as far as their girl will allow, we're all pigs. Tell him he's never allowed to do you in a position that has already been used and if he can't come up with one then it has to be in a place you've never done it. I have a similar problem and this has helped.


Dariana 52F
6 posts
10/28/2005 9:02 am

Thanks for all your input guys. Heres what happened. Now first of all you have to understand that I am NOT they shy type when it comes to stating my needs in the bedroom. However, afterall of "R"'s supposed eagerness to learn, he rejects ANY and ALL ideas. So now what? Am I being too blunt or not blunt enough?


Dariana 52F
6 posts
10/28/2005 9:04 am

    Quoting rm_bmarshall3:
    What if you did something to totally shake him up? Most guys will go as far as their girl will allow, we're all pigs. Tell him he's never allowed to do you in a position that has already been used and if he can't come up with one then it has to be in a place you've never done it. I have a similar problem and this has helped.
Okay, look for my next blog post to see what I did and HOW he reacted.


Dariana 52F
6 posts
10/28/2005 9:07 am

    Quoting rm_bmarshall3:
    What if you did something to totally shake him up? Most guys will go as far as their girl will allow, we're all pigs. Tell him he's never allowed to do you in a position that has already been used and if he can't come up with one then it has to be in a place you've never done it. I have a similar problem and this has helped.
So how do you deal with it? I mean the lack of? Its driving me crazy and causing lots of hard feelings and resentment on my part.

He finally admitted he was having some erection problems and it was making him uncomfortable. So, we went to the doctor the other day and got a script for Viagra and he now refuses to take it. I went to the mailbox yesterday and he had a package. So when he opened it, I was shocked to see he had spent 45.00 for about an ounce of something called VIADERM. Whats the point???? If he is not willing to try these things he buys, why waste the time or money.

I am beginning to think he just has no sexual desire. Hmmmm.


centralDaveIL 58M
18 posts
10/28/2005 9:28 am

Some people and things just never change. Look me up if you want a change....


rm_bmarshall3 48M
2 posts
10/29/2005 7:03 pm

starting to sound a little ridiculous.
My aunt had the exact same problem and recently found out husband was gay. She still loves him but had to satisfy her needs elsewhere. He's not taking what he's ordering because deep down he knows there's no point.


MP1950 66M
5 posts
10/30/2005 12:37 pm

How about if you shave your little treasure? I know it would do it for me! LOL
Honestly, though, you have one of the world's great asses, and that ought to be enough. (But if you do decide to shave yourself, Please, Please post a photo.


backdoortasther 57M
1 post
5/1/2006 6:01 pm

want to jump in the shower?


Dariana 52F
6 posts
6/4/2006 2:50 pm

bmarshall, how strange you mentioned that about your Aunts husband being Gay. Its not like it hasn't crossed my mind with "R". In fact, even though no one else seems to think so, I have picked up on several little things during the course of our indication that could be "indicators" I think. Maybe he isn't, but it certainly has entered my mind that he may be thinking along those lines at least.


Dariana 52F
6 posts
6/4/2006 2:51 pm

MP, I tried that and a million other things, he is just non-responsive. In fact, we have actually had huge fights about how little sex we are having around here. Its getting really OLD, lol.

I never met a man that couldn't be stimulated in one way or another, but I think "R" may be the first!


howaboutit43 58M  
10 posts
6/5/2006 5:35 pm

It sounds like you are hooked on him or you would not have lasted this long with him. I guess I have to commend you for that. Maybe you should try a different aproach. Maybe you should tell him you want to try to spice things up by inviting a man over for a threesome. If he is bisexual this may be the thing that really gets him going. I am sure he will probably at first say no but if you persist he will eventually say yes if he is trully bi. At least this way you will get allot of sexual satisfaction. It seems like you really don't have much to lose at this point. I have been with a couple before so I do know that this sometimes is what a relationship needs. I come to Peoria two or three times a week and I am very discreet if the two of you should decide to try this out. It would be "our" pleasure. Answer back here and I will tell you how to contact me. Bill.


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