My first date with a guy from AFF.  

DallasDelight76 40F
77 posts
12/11/2005 7:39 pm

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My first date with a guy from AFF.

I am a relatively new member to AdultFriendFinder. I was really excited about the prospects of meeting some really cool guys on here, and maybe learning more about my desire to possibly persue a bisexual meeting. I put a couple of pictures on and the EMAILs came FLOODING in! (They are STILL coming in!)

This past Wednesday, I had a date with a guy named Jeff. (Im not going to give his screen name. He does NOT even deserve that much recognition). He invited me to dinner. We met at Chili's in Cedar Hill. He was a nice guy, good looking, pretty tall, and cute. We sat down and ordered drinks and before they arrived, he was already making grand gestures about going back to his place for a few hours. He kept talking about how wonderful the two pictures I had on line were, and how he could "guarantee" me the best pussy licking I had ever had in my life. I didn't shoot that down, but I did tell him that we should at least finish dinner first, and get to know each other a little. His persistence went on and on and on, and some of his comments I am SURE could be overheard by other patrons...and then the food arrived. By the time it got there, I was so disgusted over the fact that he could not get his mind off of sex long enough to even learn about what I do at work, I just could not eat. Finally, he asked me point blank, if I was coming back to his place, so I told him no thanks. He didnt have much to say to me after that, except when the check came, he explained that he FORGOT to mention that we were going "dutch".

NOW it gets worse. Since I called him to arrange where to meet, my cell phone number showed up on his caller ID. He called twice Wednesday night after I got home, and three times on Thursday.
Enough to make me lose my inhibitions about bi sex!

Holepunture 50M
1 post
12/11/2005 9:12 pm

Poor Jeff. However, he should have communicated better. I can see that Dallas delight does have a very nice spread and I too would want to Shag every one of her holes. Therefore, I will make sure that if and when I meet a nice piece of ASS from the site that my intentions are perfectly clear. I am only on here to stick my cock in every hole that exists in the particular individual in which I show an interest..My idea of a meal is my dick in your mouth and my tongue all over your body. Delieght, feel free to contact me if you would like to have a MEAL with me.

Jeff, better luck next time.


magicstick77845 41M
2 posts
12/11/2005 9:16 pm

Sorry it went so terribly sweetie...he sounds like a real asshole...there are some guys are here that aren't though

MillsShipsGayly 51M

12/11/2005 9:25 pm

That is pretty awful ... sorry girl

Had you talked much before the date or just that once?

*67 before calling on regular phone provides privacy (not cell)
Good luck

MarathonanSex 49M
2 posts
12/11/2005 9:35 pm


Maybe you should join another dating site. You are on a sex and swingers dating site. You have nude pics of you on it and your profile talks sex too. What do you expect?

You sound like a victim of some sort. Are you serious? My suggestion is myspace or match where you can't deceive men with sex talk and nude photos. The out come my be better for you. Don't you communicate well enough to head off such situations?

Guys are sometimes nervous and act out of character when they with a very attrcative woman like your self. Let them know up front your intentions for the night before it starts and tell them to relax and enjoy your company. Try that next time instaed of playing victim

deesmith1234 37M
8 posts
12/11/2005 9:45 pm

Don't give up from just one bad date. I'm sure you'll find a good guy on here. That guy from your first date really did sound like a jerk. Too bad you live so far away from me otherwise I would definitely show u a good time, by treating a lady how she is supposed to be treated (flowers, some chocolates, and paying for the meal). But good luck in your future endeavors

DallasDelight76 40F

12/12/2005 5:34 am

Guys, don't get me wrong. I joined this site to find lots of great sex! The date with Jeff was kinda put together at the last minute, and we did not have too much time to chat prior to it. Again, dont get me wrong, I dont need a lot of "feely chat" to go to bed with someone, but when you invite someone out to dinner under the pretenses of "wanting to get to know you a little", you dont try to see how fast you can scarf it down and get in the sack! I DO like to be intellectually stimulated as well as physically.

I can tell you this, had he been a little more patient at dinner, and a little more of a conversationalist, and at least halfway interested in any non-sexual things I tried to discuss with him, he would have gotten what he wanted, plus a lot more.

Bottom line: If I meet you and the chemestry seems to be right the instant we meet, then by all means, screw dinner and lets go. But if the chemestry is not immediate, then by God, give me (and us) a chance to get it there. Im not saying it will take all night, but the ability to at least hold an intelligent conversation for ten minutes is to me a form of foreplay.

And by the way, Marathon, I dont see myself as a victim. Rather, I think maybe HE was the victim of letting his little head think for his big head just a little too much.

Oh well. Live and learn.

benshaw 53M

12/12/2005 5:37 am

Don't let a few ass holes get you discourged. (It looks like even one commented here.) I don't care what you have on your profile you should still be treated with some respect. Doesn't everyone want and expect it after all this is an ADULT site which means more than sex. I have a feeling that some guy's and girls just don't understand that. It isn't that much easier for guy's on here. You still have to weed through some children to find an adult.

rm_sandman4642 55M
4 posts
12/12/2005 9:13 am

Hello DD, Guys like Jeff gives guys like me and some others a bad name. This site is a sex site and for swingers but a lady should be treated with respect, so please don't rule out the few of us good guys for the actions of those like Jeff. I think you have a couple of guys on here that is the real deal and will show you a great time, either in or out of the bedroom. I'm interested if you are.

Pussyeater10667 49M  
24 posts
12/12/2005 2:10 pm

DD76, I am truly sorry you had to experience such a one minded fool. You should be a little upset with outcome of your date. I wouldn't and don't expect every women on here to want to jump right in the sack. Some however, that is all they are looking for. I agree to some point that this site is for people looking to get laid and have some good sexual experiences but it isn't always about licking, fucking and sucking. With that said, I would be honored to make up for any misconceptions you might have about the men on this site. Dinner, a movie, some drinks, and then whatever the rest of the night has to offer. Look me up and let's chat.

Plano69 54M

12/14/2005 2:40 pm

Hope Drool-Boy at least wore a bib...LOL!

ShockOccy 49M

12/14/2005 8:13 pm

Well its seems he has missed the opoint, sex is not just a physical thing it is a connectionbetween two people, I know everyone wants to bag him, but the fact is there are guys and girls like that all over the world. If the connection is not there then it is just not the same. I have made many mistakes in my time too. It is about learning from these mistakes and knowing when you see them again....

Still.... love life, it is a journey for all of us....Peace!

rm_wydypecker 56M
2 posts
12/14/2005 8:21 pm

I`m not angel, but all men are a dogs and women area bitches

DallasDelight76 40F

12/19/2005 3:13 pm

Well, Wydpecker, you just scored ZERO points in my book.

See ya.

rm_woodstr64 52M
13 posts
12/20/2005 5:30 pm


It's really sad that there are men out there that simply do not know how to communicate with a woman. I'm truly sorry your first date from AdultFriendFinder had to end up a total mess. Yes, this is an adult website focused on sex & adult activities. Let's call it for what it is. Although, not everyone is here for just sex. There are people who want to build a relationship first. Make sure the chemistry is there before heading off to do the nasty. It's going to be just like going to the're going to have to weed out some strange fellas. All of us agree that you are a very beautiful woman. Very sexy. A very sensual woman. A woman who knows exactly what she wants and how to get it. Many would love the opportunity to get to the point of being in Jeff's shoes. Me for one!

I look forward to that day.

Yours when you're ready,

TanMeBrown442 61M

12/27/2005 1:10 pm

sad thing is most and women don't seem to understand the need for a mental connection prior to physical sex.
gotta like and enjoy being with the other person, before it can be quality recreational sex.

Carol...there are men who do understand this...just gotta weed out the body before mind crowd.

btw, many sincere expressions of sympathy in your fathers passing, the first holiday is the worst. i am sure he would want you to smile and laugh.

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