The ex-Girlfriend Saga: The Return of the Shit (Sith, get it?)  

DakR1972 44M   
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6/5/2006 10:04 am

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The ex-Girlfriend Saga: The Return of the Shit (Sith, get it?)

Oh, how the fun never ends. As some readers will recall, my ex-GF and I are better now as friends than we ever were as lovers. I've been extremely lucky to find the woman of my dreams since we split, but she has had admittedly made some really poor choices with some recent boy friends.

One of the most recent ones was a real 'winner'. You can learn all about him in my older posts, just browse back and check em out. I'll be here when you get back.

Finished? Caught up? Good, now here's the latest...

After Dumby left, she met RC. RC seemed to be a nice guy. Willing to spend money on her hand over fist, and meet her every need. (And what woman doesn't like that?) She of course, didn't feel right about it, so she insisted he not spend all his money on her and instead concentrate on his debts and bills. (And what guys wouldn't appreciate that?) Unfortunately, he had some issues that became really weird, insurmountable problems and things between them fell apart. (What issues you say? Weird connections with other women who were insanely jealous of the ex, and then there was the time he wanted her to sleep with the son of his boss....)

On the day she called it quits with RC, Dumby reared his ugle ass again, and came back into her life. He called at the lowest point for her, strength wise, and she let him back in. Well, things seemed to be good for a couple months. He had a job, was working hard, not taking from her but helping her. Things seemed to be good. But then suddenly, just a couple days ago, he changed back into his old habits. Lied to her about his ex-wife (Yes, he finally divorced her, but holdon, there's a doozy whopper of twist...) lied to her about his intentions, and yesterday acceeded to his ex-wife's wishes, and left to move back in with her. Then she calls to gloat about them getting remarried as soon as he gets back there.

She's devastated, hurt, and humiliated. Not to mention, embarassed that she let him back in, despite what he did to her and her boys last time. Last night we talked for a long time about it. She's not showing it yet, but I know she's going to be going through a very rough period again shortly. I told her I would try to help her learn how to get through it, and maybe stand up taller next time. She's going to change her phone numbers so he can't call her anymore. I have a few more suggestions that I hope she'll take to heart.

It's hard as hell to see a friend in so much pain as she is. I'm glad I could be here for her in a time of need. I just hope she is more careful, and picky as time goes on. She is getting too old to have to go through this Every Time she meets a new guy.

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6/6/2006 3:44 pm

I have a good friend with dubious taste in men.

She somehow has a knack for picking Jeckyll/Hyde types and I'm always there to lend her a shoulder to cry on (and not an "I told you so" although it's hard not to go there).

If it's any consolation, I think my friend has finally realized that slamming your finger in the same door repeatedly not only hurts but you run the risk of losing a part of yourself that you can't get stitched back on.

Let's hope that after this last heartbreak, your ex will come to the same realization herself.

She's lucky to have you as a friend.

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