Winner of Today  

2208 posts
6/27/2005 3:47 pm

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Winner of Today

Greetings, friends!

This entry is an unusual one. It started out innocently enough, went to hell in a handbasket, then did a u-turn back to normalcy.

I know there are two sides to every person and today's winner is a great example of that.

Read on...

I am not sure where to start or even what to say, but know I want to write a letter that introduces myself to you, not just another letter asking you for sex. I figure if everything else falls into place the sex would also.

Hey! That's cool. So far so good.

I will add some of the sexual things to the bottom of this letter if that is what you want to see.

In the words of everybody's favorite stoned cartoon canine, ruh-roh.

(Now I know some people are going to say that I'm on a sex site blahdiblahdiblah, however, we don't all approach sex the same way. I don't like to get into sexual talk until I've gotten to know someone a little. If you dig raunchy talk right off the bat with someone, more power to you. I'm not criticizing. That's just not my particular scene, maaan. LO

Anyway, I continued to read and he went on to tell me about what his work was like and what his (vertical) interests were.

And now, the ruh-roh part:

I would love to taste you over and over again along with a few other things. Licking around your lips and inserting my tongue into you. Then I will slide my tongue up to your clit. I would now have you where I want you. I would suck your clit into my mouth and hold it with my lips so I could focus my tongue on it. I would bring you right to the point of orgasm then stop only to do it again and again until you are begging me to let you cum. Another fantasy I have is I would love to have you insert a remote controlled vibrating egg or some other remote controlled item into your pussy before we go out to a club or restaurant. I will give you one guess who would have the remote. That would be so much fun for me to watch you squirm fighting off an orgasm as we are eating dinner in a crowded restaurant. That is just one of my fantasies let me know if you would like to hear more of them.

In one of my earlier blogs, I told jayR (check out her amazing blog here--> [blog jayR63] that I had control issues, so there is no way I'm handing a remote to anyone. LOL

Anyhoo, he signed off this way:

I would very much like to hear more about you and start on our way to developing a true and lasting friendship.

I've got to give it to him. That was a nice closing.

For any guys that happen to be reading this (and use the above approach), could you do a public service and let me know whether it's been effective? (And if it is, with whom?)

If you're a lady and have two-cents to throw in, please do. The sex part in the middle of the email kind of threw me off, but that might not be the same for other women.

Take good care wherever you are.


keithcancook 60M
17718 posts
6/27/2005 4:31 pm

I have never nor would ever, write graphic sexual things like that in an opening email to someone.

IPman 60M
313 posts
6/27/2005 4:40 pm

First off, he was stoned? Ruh-Roh I never knew that! LOL


I love your blogs, I never write letters like the dudes who write you, However, no one writes me back, so maybe I should change my writing style to be more like your penpals! LOL

hhpradio 32M

6/27/2005 5:59 pm

He could have saved the sex part for a little later in the e-mail. I would have to agree that it would be a good idea to get to know someone first. When it comes down to it... .. THIS "IS" the internet. BUT this is the internet connected with real life. Could you imagine someone walking up to you on the street and saying the same thing? ahahah can you say bitch slap... From my experiences on the internet I've learned that *MOST* people have trouble being social, not realizing that the person on the other end is.. yes... a PERSON!!

haha oh well maybe the ol' chum was just having some fun..

hhpradio 32M

6/27/2005 6:00 pm

opps.. when I said save it for later in the email.. I meant to say... Save it for a 'later' e-mail.

passion8_lady 57F

6/27/2005 6:18 pm

OK, I won't say "duh, you're on a sex site" because you've already said it.

I would not be surprised to get an email like this. (How long have you been a member? I've been getting emails like this forever here.)

I would much rather get an email like the one you posted than get one that says, "Here's my phone number, let's get together tonight and have sex." THOSE are the ones that scare me.

Although, really, I do prefer not to get the erotica with the first email, but after that I enjoy it if it's well-written. In fact it is almost a requirement of mine that a man can write good sexual fantasies.

The first guy I ever met face to face on here DID write me a story with his first contact to me, but it was not as explicit, more of a teaser. Then when I read his profile I knew he was someone I wanted to get to know.

I mean, this IS a sex site... so you shouldn't be too surprised.

rm_jayR63 59F
1884 posts
6/27/2005 6:24 pm

I just hope one of the remote controlled devices he had in mind wasn't a TV

rm_jayR63 59F
1884 posts
6/27/2005 6:26 pm

Just think-
you could actually channel Oprah!

dancewithme29 46F

6/27/2005 9:05 pm

I get emails like that daily and just delete them. I agree with you that because we are here doesn't mean men have the okay to go ahead with explicit emails...Ya know that was actually fairly well writte, most are like "i so wanna git wit u" annoying. Don't men realize we still want to be romanced?

rm_the_taker 44M
60 posts
6/28/2005 9:18 am

more good stuff ... (taker gives DCE a two 'ruby-rack's ...)

1586 posts
6/28/2005 3:08 pm

LOL - Please note. This blog entry doesn't say that I'm surprised.

I'm just not a fan of squirm-inducing erotic writing. (And I'm not talking good squirming either.)

1586 posts
6/28/2005 3:11 pm


So you're saying "i so wanna git wit u" doesn't work?

I don't know about you, but that turns me on oh so much.

1586 posts
6/28/2005 3:13 pm

hhpradio -

I dare you to read the text of this blog to the first woman you see in the streets and report your findings. LOL

You're right, though. I'm sure it was meant in good fun.

1586 posts
6/28/2005 3:16 pm

jayR -

My remote definitely wouldn't turn to Oprah. I work with a bunch of women that consider her their god so I pretty much work with her every blessed day. I admire what she's done, but I'm Oprahed out. (And Tom Cruised out, but that is another blog.)

Maybe I'd watch "Maximum Exposure" or "America's Funniest Home Videos". Childish, mindless and right up my alley after a long day at work. Who wants to think?

1586 posts
6/28/2005 3:17 pm

Taker -

Ranks for the ruby-racks! LOL

1586 posts
6/28/2005 3:18 pm

IPman -

Umm...I have read your blogs and you seem to be doing just fine.

So what are you using other than email? Hmmmm...?

funsailor84 32M

6/29/2005 2:02 am

Maybe it's on account of my youth, but I'd just feel like a jerk if my opening line to anyone was "I wanna do you". I just don't understand why anyone would think that it'd work. I'm pretty sure that most people on here live in reality at some point in their day, and I just really doubt that they'd try a line like that in "real life". So, why do they use those lines here?

1586 posts
6/29/2005 2:53 pm

Funsaailor -

I'm not sure why someone would adopt a crude online persona because it doesn't seem to get results. LOL

You come across as being the exception to the rule because 99% of the emails I get from young guys are along the lines of "I wanna do you" (or worse).

Oh well. C'est la vie...

(Juan S)
2642 posts
6/29/2005 11:35 pm

I ran across a post from a woman that was so extremely explicit in every thing that she wrote that it actually was liike a challenge to any man that could handle her. Of course that kind of challenge is up my alley, whether I'm into her or not (okay, maybe into her a little), but word to the wise for all the fellas...would you believe she actually still wants to be romanced, even though she says point blank. I want someone tonight to come and F*#k me, where are the real men at, blah, blah,blah. Men can't win, LOL!!! I think I like Talldarkavg's approach by letting every one know that we're men and we don't know why wee do certain things. LOL. More power to the no talking, just sex, hand me a beer movement...(OK, I'm really just kidding...or not...yes I, I'm not...Arrgh, I have a headache)

1586 posts
6/30/2005 6:12 pm

Sizzle -

Great example of women being as equally confusing as men. Talk about a bait and switch!

Whenever someone oversells his or her "product" (e.g. sexual performance), I always wonder about the quality. LOL

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