A Question For You  

2208 posts
6/23/2005 3:23 pm

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A Question For You

I mentioned in previous blogs that I got to hang out with a very nice gentleman that I met on this site. We discussed getting together again sometime next week - very cool.

He invited me to come over to his place. That would normally be okay if he wasn't married. If you're keeping score, put a mark in the "not cool" column. LOL

Believe it or not, I have one or two "morals" left (for lack of a better word) and I think it would be really disrespectful if I went strolling through another woman's house.

Here's my question. For those of you that have actually gone to a married person's place (in a case when the spouse didn't know), why did you do it? Excitement? Curiosity? Convenience? Overcome with lust? More importantly, did you get busted? LOL

I'm really curious because it seems like a huge risk to take if you're trying to be discreet! I live in a neighborhood full of "Mrs. Kravitzes" that would spot anyone that doesn't live on this street (or visit regularly) in a second.

Case in point, I went away for a trip a few months back and a neighbor that I didn't even know asked Mr. DCE where I was as she hadn't seen me in awhile! That weirded me out.

Anyway, if you've been in this particular situation, please share.

It won't change my mind about going to Cherry Slurpee's place, but I love a good story!

rm_jgbkab 42M

6/23/2005 7:05 pm

I actually did it on a regular basis when I was younger. He would go to work at 8:45 and 9:00 I'd be there. He found my number in her address book and called to ask me about it. I denied any and everything. Well, one night I was supposed to be there at 9 but I was busy so I talked to her on the cell. She was going on and on about what she was going to do to me when I got there. He never went to work like he pretended and let the bedroom window up so he could hear her. I know he beat her arse but it made no difference to me. That was almost the last time I dealt with a married woman. Sometimes I wonder what would have happened if I would have been there as usual....

mi_mwpm 51M

6/23/2005 7:40 pm

I spent a couple mornings at a lady's house in April... was solely for the convenience since the only time we could hook up was after her hubby left for work and before I had to go in. We didn't get caught, but then it ended before we took too many risks.

rm_jayR63 59F
1884 posts
6/23/2005 8:14 pm

You're going?!
I don't think I would.
I hope nobody gets busted.

PailsDiverHonks 55F

6/24/2005 6:09 am

DC, I have had men to my house. Nobody is home during the day. Husband always calls before he comes home and he works an hour away (the only reason I like Atlanta traffic). My neighbors all work, if they are home they never talk to husband about any activity around my house. I did it for convenience AFTER A LOT of TRUST in the person was established. I have never been busted

rm_jayR63 59F
1884 posts
6/24/2005 7:34 am

I think I would feel kind of ooogie about it
plus, you never know who's snooping out the window and will report back to Mrs.Slurpee
you need a pied-a-terre

1586 posts
6/24/2005 9:36 am

No, jayR -

I am not going to Mr. Slurpee's house. Not just no but HELL no!

It's not worth the risk. Due to the dearth of chocolately women such as myself in the part of the county I live in, you can bet I'd be noticed. LOL

hourglasses 47F

6/24/2005 1:15 pm

I went to someone's house a couple of times. It was a long long time ago. His wife would go visit her family in California once a year. It sort of became a "Same time next year" kind of affair. So no chance of getting busted. There were 2 disturbing things I discovered.
1) They were slobs. I mean I didn't want to sit on their furniture it was so dirty.
2) They had the same bedroom furniture I have (came from a big chain store). When I pointed that out, he said "No womder I was so comfortable at your place." But apparently he hadn't noticed we had the same bed and dressers before.

1586 posts
6/26/2005 8:47 am

Hourglasses -

I guess you can tell a lot about someone judging by his or her living conditions. Clearly housecleaning wasn't on his top ten list of priorities. Neither was home decor.

(How do you not notice the same bedroom furniture? That is too funny. LO

AmpleGirl 53F

6/29/2005 7:11 pm

I am not proud of it, but I admit that I did it twice.

1ST TIME, i was young, very naive and did not know until later when a relative ran into the guy and his wife at a function. I should have known that the nice lingerie hanging in his bathroom was not his mother's as he claimed. Needless to say that fling quickly ended.

2ND TIME, I ran into an former boyfriend whose claimed his marriage was on the rocks. Some years earlier he introduced the girl to me before they were married, but she barely acknowledged me. The former tempestuous relationship had long been over, and I could not understand why she was pissed with me. I just assumed that she was insecure. Later his brother admitted to me that the family would mention me occasionally during family conversations because they thought I would be “The ONE.” But her snub had stayed with me (more with my ego) and when I ran into him a few years later, the strong magnetic sexual chemistry rode over logic, and we had wild crazy sex one more time at his house.

The saying, “What goes around, comes back around,” revealed itself to me years later during my own divorce. I never knew if the ex was brave enough to bring his girl up in the house during the marriage, but he didn't waste time (next day) right after I moved out, according to my still friendly former neighbors. Despite the later pangs, I see things now as life's lessons learned and is definitely wiser from the experiences.

rm_Amial 54M
14 posts
7/3/2005 1:52 am

I've invited a couple over once while g/f out. It was a little nerve racking but also spiced things up, the heat of the moment was intencified and was a very stimulating evening in all our minds. I've also had sex with this couple in public since... really eye opening... lol.

rm_Amial 54M
14 posts
7/3/2005 1:55 am

Oh yeah, I live on a main street dwntn... less to explain... lol

1586 posts
7/5/2005 3:53 pm

AmpleGirl -

Thanks for sharing.

Although it was in the past, it's kind of nice that the ex's family felt that way about you. So it wasn't all bad...except for the part about new girlfriend. LOL

1586 posts
7/5/2005 3:55 pm

Amial -

Living on a main street downtown helps a LOT, I would imagine. You have an endless supply of plausible excuses.

As for inviting the couple over, well! I am scared of you, boy! You've got brass ones. LOL

(Thanks for sharing, btw.)

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