When everything just "fits"...or not!  

CuteandSexyBBW4u 56F
20 posts
11/13/2005 9:17 am

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When everything just "fits"...or not!

The word "chemistry" is thrown around quite a bit by people on this site. And, in reality, either you have it with someone...or you don't.

After the first few weeks of receiving/reading emails on AdultFriendFinder (and other web sites) I found that it was very easy to identify someone I would have chemistry with. As a writer, a person's words (not their spelling or grammar...but the meaning of their words) speak volumes about who they are and how they might be as a lover.

These are just a few of my observations:

1. A man who goes on and on and on and on (zzzzzzzzzz!) about how he treats a woman, how different he is in bed, etc. is stroking his own ego. My response: "Look buddy: actions speak louder than words so I'll be judge of how 'great and different' you are!"

2. Men who say very little via email/IM will not become amazing communicators in the bedroom. I love dirty talk and if I cannot get a man to say, "I wanna feel your lips on mine, or nibble on your breasts" via email/IM, I'd be stupid to think I'll get this from him in person. Granted, there has been 1 exception to this rule: a man I was with who did open up once he knew he could trust me. (That's a whole other story for another blog.)

3. If the text, "can you send me a pic?" are the first words in his message, a polite "thank you but not interested" is required. I'm not that superficial, and don't want a lover who is either. (I recently had surgery and was mortified by the little incisions I had. I told my lover I was afraid of how I might look, yet I knew that it wouldn't matter to him...and it didn't. When he saw me, he told me how beautiful and sexy I was and then proceeded to love on me like there was no tomorrow! What a man!)

4. Age DOES make a difference!! If you're 24 and I'm 44, we DO NOT have a lot in common - other than we both want sex. And telling a woman how "mature you are for your age" is a sign of immaturity! (Oh brother!)

5. Size DOES NOT make a difference. Honestly, I thought it would...but when you experience foreplay on a level as you never have before, the "deed itself" is a very small (bad pun!) component of the entire experience. As a child of the 70s, I have slept with a good number of men - all shapes and sizes - and a bad kisser will get the ax before a man that has a small penis does!

6. What happened to "patience is a virtue"? I've had men send me an email at 5:00am (in the morning, yes!) who don't even know me and said, "wanna met me and f*ck"? WHAT? Are you nuts? Like I'm gonna just run right out, meet you, and hop in the sack! (This man gets my infamous, "no thanks and hire yourself a hooker" response!) And, even if a man isn't this impatient, a good number still believe it's acceptable to think that you can chat a bit and then be intimate. Granted: some woman might do that but my profile states quite clearly that I want to "be pursued" and except to be friends first. How much clearer can I make it?

Anyway, these are just a few of the things I've experienced. Feel free to fire away with your thoughts/comments and keep in mind that I'm a professional writer. So a "battle of words" is a battle you stand very little chance of winning (but let's have fun in the process anyway)!!

trustno01 55M  
2364 posts
11/13/2005 3:00 pm

There appear to be a lot of "players" men and women on this site. They have no regards to other people only themselves. That is to bad people cannot just be straight up on here.

hourglasses 47F

11/13/2005 9:54 am

Very well put. Although I've been lucky that I have met men who were like #1 - bragged about how good they were. Luckily they lived up to their claims. But it does seem the majority of men think they are good in bed, and they can't all be right otherwise more of their wives/lovers would be satisfied and they would not need to be here.

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