My dear friend and her parisite removal.  

CuteKittyGirl 28F
10 posts
5/3/2006 10:45 am

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My dear friend and her parisite removal.

Welcome and thanks for reading. Today I am worried. My good friend went up to Portland to get an abortion. Yeah, I know. Some people don't agree, they don't understand, and then there is the people who try to satisfy everyone, but only make themselves look like asses in the end. But today, I pray. I am not the religous type or anything, and I honestly don't believe that anyone is listening (let alone would do anthing to help) but I pray anyways. I want her to be ok. To be alive, and safe. This is the first time that I have known someone persoanly who had to get this kind of medical attention. Would you belive that it cost a little more than 300 bucks? I suppose she was lucky, someone gave her (and him) the money, and I think that she won't really learn (and especialy not him) and I worrie even more. She started to do meth, hoping it would force a misscarage, but as some of you may already know, it doen't work like that. I wanna help her through this, and be the best friend that I can, but I also think it is important for her to realize what exactly she had to do.

This is not a place to debate weither abortion is OK or not, but a place to discuss how to help a woman who had to have one. How can I help her, and also have her learn for the experiance?

elysianpleasure 47M

5/3/2006 4:59 pm

I hope your friend is ok... and I will pray along with you if you like. I am also not certain of God... although I believe there is a force beyond us... not clear it listens or understands prayers. But prayers are still good for the soul... the act of letting ourselves pray is theraputic and helps me. I also find blogging has a similar benefit.

I have been there... and watched friends throw lives away before they caught themselves (if they ever did). I know from that experience there is little you can do with pressure, or logic, or arguments.

I wish I could give advice on something that worked... what I can tell you, is she is lucky to have friends who care. Standing by her and being there when the crashes come, and they will, that is an amazing gift you will give her.

Good luck... welcome to the blogs. Drop by and say hi sometime.


Hvytoyz 47M

5/4/2006 2:35 am


It is a individuals personal choice what goes on with in or on their body and noone has the right to make that decision for you because no matter what you decide, you are the one who has to live with it. I have personally helped three different girls who I knew for different reasons, make that same trip to portland. One was a child which would have been mine, and I do have two beautiful daughters still. If you feel you are not ready for children, or do not want the child, it is your body.
You only live once, live your life as you choose, and live with the way you live it.


Your friend could use support much more than recriminations now. Be a friend and help if asked or needed, but don't butt in.

Willysjeepcj2a 60M
109 posts
5/16/2006 8:29 pm

Just be a friend.

SirMounts 102M

5/27/2006 8:43 pm

Welcome to blogging, CuteKittyGirl. *smiling*

rm_GreatListner 48M

6/13/2006 1:19 am

You can't control some things that affect your friends. Being there for her, listening as a friend, is the stongest aid you can provide. It sounds like there may be more bumps ahead on the road for her, just stay in her life.

needsome97465 49M
1 post
6/24/2006 8:03 am

& right now she NEEDS YOU more then she knows
hope all is allright

AllForSheila 49F

6/30/2006 11:15 am

Ya, I too would say just be a friend to her and support is the key to any relationship....
My best to the both of you hun....
Miss Sheila

rm_dementional 42M
13 posts
7/4/2006 2:26 pm

I know what you mean about wanting her to learn a lesson. Her drug use and your insight that she will not learn from this only make you more sad and angry, I bet. Maybe when she's recovered from the ordeal, you can talk to her about it. It's usually unpleasant enough to convince most women (and men sometimes) to be better with birth control.

I have known many people (smart and dumb alike) that really don't like condoms. Surprisingly, I (a str8 man) have never complained about or refused condoms. I have tried as many different kinds as I possible. I stock up on the ones I like, when I have a little extra money. I give a couple to any friend who I think might need them.
And after much testing, I found the best so far, just recently. (I swear.) The newer Trojans, that are "for women" (to buy... right?) They are called ELEXA. I prefer the smooth kind without ribs, etc...

Basically, people who aren't interested or conscious enough to use safe birth control, well, should not be having sex. Masturbate eachother, stick with oral or whatever. Planned Parenthood provides various kinds of birth control on a sliding scale, and it's much less than any abortion. And less painful! And less demoralizing!

PS: Methods other than condoms don't stop STDs. And plenty of infections are not obvious or even visible, even when you're up close to the penis or vulva itself, much less when you get to know someone and they seem like a "clean person..."

rm_justme6575 41M

12/18/2006 12:31 pm

I really hope she is ok.

rm_Chance4play 49M
17 posts
1/1/2007 2:28 pm

First I hope and pray that she is ok! God is out there and does listen he just lets us make our own mistakes.
As everyone else has said be there for her, be her friend. keep an eye on her emotinaly though what she is/ has gone threw can be tramatic. She may need or want to talk to a couseler of some sort about how/ why this came about so she can deal with any possible phycological aspects!!!
I would also suggest that she stop doing drugs for several reasons mainly her health. NA can help with that, granted you can't force her to go if she doesn't want to!
I don't mean to sound like I'm judgeing her but if she not ready due to being to young or what ever, I'm sorry but HELLO! that's what the pill and condoms are for!! Protect yourself before you wreck yourself!!

Pease Love and Happyness for you both!!

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