smacked and bruised-why ?  

CuteAZguy27 39M
2154 posts
11/5/2005 8:31 am

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smacked and bruised-why ?

for some of the faithful bloggers who remember this story A beautiful woman at my work on my evening shift or this story here An update from last Monday

This is another reason why the blogging wasnt happening, let me share this disturbing story of this innocent woman......

about 2 weeks ago I was at work and "sally" walks in the store with a black eye, bruises and cuts on her face and body and crying smearing her make-up. She then tells me of the story of her coming home from work and her boyfriend was drinking and on meth and he thought she was somebody else and beat the crap out of her and her trying to defend herself made it worse, to the point where he had her in a head lock and a knife to her throat, well she escaped and was driving away trying to figure out what to do and where to go at 3 in the morning, and she passed by my work and saw me thrue the window, and pulled in.....

Well her and i knowing each other, not very well, but just enough for trust on both ends, i offered her my home to stay in since i worked i worked graveyards, she had a roof over her head and she can have my bed during the nights and as i sleep during the day she would be at work-she agreed. She went in the restroom and cleaned herself up and waited around until 6a.m. when i got off work, as it was 6 a.m. she unloaded her car and we drank coffee and had waffles and we chatted as she unloaded her story, she had to open at 9 and was off by 5pm, so i stayed up until she left...

I slept until 10:30 when i got a knock on the door, it was some friends who asked if i wanted to come over for some breakfast, i agreed- i ended up falling asleep on their couch until 2, they took me home at 3, and to find sallys car parked in my driveway, as i enter my home she is asleep in my bed, i go back into the livingroom and get a blanket and crash on the floor, i wake upto sally saying "Cute" your beds big enough for 3 of us, you could have slept on the other end, I trust you wouldnt have done anything i said your right, i would have done nothing, but i was just being respectful....

Well the week rolled on and we continued our friendship as it grew leaps and bounds, well my nights off were aproaching, we ended up sleeping under the covers in the same bed together (both of us fully clothed of being pajamatized )we chatted and laughed in bed, yet as both of us were fadeing away she said "Cute, would you hold me" I said "sure", so as im facing her back i wrap my around her and snuggle my face to her back and fade away....

Ive been told time and time again that im a light sleeper, well, i wake up in the middle of the night to be laying on my back and her on my chest, eyes open as she is stareing at me-she said "Cute, thank you for being a friend to me, most guys would have taken an advantage of me, but you didn't-thank you" I said "Your welcome, a close friend is what you need, nothing more" she leans over, kisses my cheak and i fade away again....

This sleeping pattern happens thrue the week, even when i get home in the mornings, i slip into bed for a few hours as the same proceedure happens, totally plutonic except for maybe a few flirts here and there, but nothing to get her uncomfortable.

As 2 weeks begin to progress, she is stronger now and on her feet once again-yet sally is instant messenging her boyfriend and he begs her back, destrubingly she agrees of days to meet in person and talk at his home, i tell her over and over this is a bad idea, please meet in public, she makes excuses and she leaves...

she comes back 3 hours later, i asked how it went as she enters the door, she said not to well, and pulls her hair back, revealing a large bruise around her neck.....bloggers i reach over to examin moving her hair, placeing my hand her shoulder and i started heart ached for her, and she started making excuses that it was an accident, he was just trying to get her attention....I said B.S. ! No MAN does this to a woman, HES a coward Sally ! A true gentleman does not treat a woman like this at all ! She starts crying, and i hold her in my arms and cry as well.

She wanted to go back to him, i explained to her, she didnt have to , but she wanted to make it work out....I said its not going to work if only one side is willing to do the effort, it takes two people....she kissed my cheak, said thank you for the stay, and grabs her bags and walks to her car.....

I follow her outside, and i explain to her that my door is always open if you need to return at anytime, 3 days, or even 2 weeks, this door will remain open for you-She said "One thing i know for a fact, most guys that consider themselves my friend will want someting in return, but you didn't and i know you won't i appreciate your true friendship" she starts up her car and drives away.

My heart truly aches for those who are in relationships such as these,and don't leave, trapped in the thinking that all men are like these so why leave to be in another, when this is so false, so other than the previous blog, this the very reason why i have not posted in the past few weeks.


caressmewell 53F

11/5/2005 10:21 am

Cute, you have a heart of gold.

Theflinkychick 105F

11/5/2005 11:55 am

Cute, you are a very good friend and a true gentleman. I wish your friend well. If she comes back again, try to talk her into seeking counseling through an agency that specializes in domestic battery. These relationships seldom get better and the end result is often tragic beyond words. It's hard to see and hard to understand, but there really is nothing you can do but what you have already done unless and until she herself decides that she must break free. Once in a great while the man will seek counseling in order to keep his relationship, but sadly, that is rare. Just keep your door open and your phone ready to dial 911 if he follows her.

Not all who wander are lost.

demonicsexkitten 41F
10671 posts
11/5/2005 4:51 pm

My former roommate used to work in domestic violence. She put many a man into prison for abuse... and for murder. Some of the stories i've heard... And of women who take it and take it and take it until they snap, and commit murder themselves.

i also have a male friend that's in an abusive relationship (though nothing as severe as that. his is just mental and emotional... which some would say is worst). Until the other person is ready to take a stand on his/her own, nothing you can say or do will ever help them fix the problem/get out of the situation.

yagottalikit 49F
583 posts
11/5/2005 9:11 pm

Cutie.....I hope that she will be fine.....but, she chose to go back.....(unless he knew how to find her or had "I'll kill so and so" leverage...) you cannot help someone who does not want to be helped! She had a friend in you and recognized such....yet, STILL...went back. It's sad. I hope all is well.

Yagotta get it soft and wet so we can kick/stick it

rm_DaphneR 58F
7938 posts
11/5/2005 9:52 pm

Time and time again I wonder why someone hasn't grabbed hold of you and not let you go. You are a true sweetheart Cutie.

Have tongue, will use it. Repeatedly.

duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
11/6/2005 12:01 am

demonicsexkitten my ex was mentally abusive to me and I used to tell the man I counseled with that I wished my ex would just double up his fist and hit me because it would heal quicker. I won't ever let a man do that to me. And God forbid one ever abused me physically, because I would telll someone. Now depending on how severe the abuse would depend on who I tell.

CuteAZguy27, I always knew you were a very kind hearted man. You have proved that to me over and over and over. You are indeed a gentleman. A man that I will always trust and treasure to have as a friend.


rm_jayR63 59F
1884 posts
11/8/2005 7:08 pm

Cute, this may come back to bite you in the ass.

Instead of your house, she needs to get to a womens shelter where she
can get some counseling.

luv2suck665 51F

11/30/2005 8:53 am

its nice to know there are men like u still out there .

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