Ladies, your emails please  

CuteAZguy27 39M
2154 posts
9/4/2005 6:50 am

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Ladies, your emails please

Now ive been reading SSSSSSOOOOOOooooooooOOOOOOOooooooOOOOOoooo many blogs of you ladies recieving emails from men that are beyond stupid and "What head were they thinking with", apparently not the ones with the ears attached.

Now there are many woman on this site that are here for completly diffrent reasons, some are just friendship, some want to move slow and become friends first, then the sex, then there are the ladies who know why the 2 of you met, and are in bed within the hour of meeting each other (and for some unlucky lady is already dressed and putting her shoes on within 20 minutes while the guy is smoking a cig in bed)

yet the question remains since there are diffrent answers and im am very curious where you all stand,....to get a PERFECT email from someone, what would you want them to say or to approach you with ? (Now, please-PLEASE restrain yourself from writing what not to say, even though its very tempting)

What would capture your heart or attention to respond ?

-CuteAZguy27


rm_1hotwahine 63F
21091 posts
9/4/2005 11:14 am

You're right in the statement that we're here for different reasons. Therefore, even though this is probably true for a number of other women, I'll own it and say, This is how it is for me. Of course since I'm old enough to be your mom, lol, take it with a grain of salt:

I am not on this site to find a boyfriend. My life is good and a little complicated and that's simply not what I'm looking for at this time. Yet I'm also not here to sleep my way through a 100 mile radius of AdultFriendFinder members. The profiles and emails that I respond to with the intention of follow through (and there are not too many) are ones that seem like the person(s) have at least an awareness of the fact that there's a human being attached to the sex organs. That's not the only factor, but the one that's relavent to this email.

So what should men write? Well, that's part of the problem. You (guys in general; not you personally) are looking for the right words and we are looking for a glimpse of who you actually are. I guess it's the Venus and Mars thing, yet again.

To further complicate issues, there's that 'woman's intuiton' thing that exists whether we acknowledge it or not. The one person from this site that I've followed through with (so far) - I knew it when I saw a pic of his torso. His torso, for crying out loud. Why? I have no idea. I just knew that I would be comfortable with this person.

So I guess the best advice is the boring one that you don't really want to hear - just be yourself. If 'yourself' is someone that doesn't turn the woman on, then so be it.

Oh yeah, and when you guys say HWP, women who are three lbs overweight get paranoid. So try to rely on pix first.

Sorry this got so long. I guess it's been building up, lol.

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]


rm_1hotwahine 63F
21091 posts
9/4/2005 11:18 am

One last thing - your profile and blogs are really good. You get a good grade

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
9/4/2005 11:41 am

I agree with xx_44DD_xx, short sweet to the point and tactful.

DustStormDiva


wantingabigcock 34F

9/4/2005 7:16 pm

I agree with all the girls that have posted. I really don't need to know in the first instance of communication that u want to fuck my tities. I know ur interested enough to send me an email!! Just be yourself but do get to the point. I mean we are on the internet here.


CuteAZguy27 39M
1545 posts
9/4/2005 11:27 pm

duststormdiva just throwing this question out, yet how would you describe tactful ?

-CuteAZguy27


CuteAZguy27 39M
1545 posts
9/4/2005 11:30 pm

sillysmartstylis Wow what a great story ! this will definetly be noted and taken to heart, thank you so much for sharing

-CuteAZguy27


CuteAZguy27 39M
1545 posts
9/4/2005 11:37 pm

wantingabigcockthanx for stopping by and leaving your comment, most appreciated....so gathering this all together.....knowing that the other is interested cause you yourself has recieved an email...being yourself, and talk with the head that the brain is in.

Thank you EVERYONE.

-CuteAzguy27


CuteAZguy27 39M
1545 posts
9/4/2005 11:55 pm

How fustrating, i just left a long message for you 1hotwahine and xx_44DD_xx its not here !

well to say it again, as long as your on this side of blogland 1hotwahine , never EVER worry about leaving a to long of a post, continue to pour your heart and thoughts out, dont try to restrain yourself, i encourage it that you lay out what you want to say, and thanx for the leaving a good grade on my profile, most appreciated, what you have spoken has been taken to heart.

and xx_44DD_xx why was the comment for you not posted, the ladies agreed what you had to say,maybe blogland techies didnt want to hear the facts....well most of you know i wouldnt start a conversation about drooling over a nice pair of breasts, thats just not in my personality to say that off bat lol, yet the ladies agreed for what you said and it is to keep it nice and to the point, very well said, and taken to heart.

Thank you everyone.


CuteAZguy27 39M
1545 posts
9/5/2005 12:02 am

For those who stop by afterwords, what do you say to this comment in a ladies profile such as this {true profile) :

I am easygoing, fun. Love to experiment. Have never been fully satisfied in bed. I've always wanted more and have never been to tired of having sex. I'm very busy in my life and I'm looking for someone to give me an hour here and there.

Ideal Person:
Looking for someone to help with a good workout. Need to expend some extra energy and have a good time. I like to try new things and I am open to almost anything. Would like to meet someone who can fulfill my sexual urges and who can exhaust me.

...this is a ladies profile, what and how would you respond to this, would you start off straight to the point "Hey if your not busy thursday ill give you an hour of my time."(very exagerated) or would you be light and say hey if your not busy next week give me a hollar and lets talk?

-CuteAZguy27


CuteAZguy27 39M
1545 posts
9/5/2005 4:18 pm

humboldthonni-Thank you very much, your awesome- i will definetly look into it

-CuteAZguy27


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
9/5/2005 9:10 pm

You can say the naughtiest things but in such a tactful way.

Example 1:

"What is it you are looking for?"

"Looking for a fuck."

Example 2:

"What is it you are looking for?"

"I am looking for a friendship with a gentleman. One that can develop into something intimate."

DustStormDiva


rm_Elysia2005 43F
412 posts
9/6/2005 12:44 am

I can usually tell when someone sends me a message, if they have bothered to read my profile and perhaps my blog (which, BTW, I actually recommend in my profile)... In some cases, though, it doesn't matter whether they have or not... I like guys who are somewhat confident, but not cocky... who acknowledge that I can be both a highly sexual being AND an intelligent one, at the same time... guys who can show a little maturity and respect (for some reason, the word "titties" really turns me off)... guys who have a sense of humor...

You, BTW, are doing quite well as far as I'm concerned...


SweetDarlinAngel 39F
2996 posts
9/6/2005 11:52 am

Hey there CuteAZ~ in response to your direct email to the profile question . . . I would say that the lighter approach would be more tactful but use whatever approach is more your style. I guess what I am saying is, if you are the type of guy who is going to be very upfront with someone on a regular bassis then be upfront from the beginning. Don't try to show yourself as something as something you are not. You are charming (obviously from your blogs), adorable (again noteable from your pics), and articulate (which is seen in your writting). All of these things should be valued just as much as your unique personality. If this girl doesn't like the way that you approach her, whether it be direct (if that is your style), or lighter then find someone else who can appreciate you for the things that make you the person you are.

I know that this entry probably sounds more like a cheering section than useful advice, but I think that if you try too hard to give a girl what she want rather than give her what you are, then the only thing you accomplish is making yourself unhappy. Men have a tendency to forget that women are not as complicated as they portray themselves to be. We are simple, when we seem to stump you, fall back on the golden rule and the things you learned in kindergarden. It works for me everytime. When it comes to sex, communication with a woman will get you great sex everytime. I probably totally lost your subject line there CuteAZ, but hopefully you'll remember to be you and approach this girl as just yourself. Direct, indirect, smooth or like a complete geek (I don't see that being a problem though). Take care. . .

~Angel


CuteAZguy27 39M
1545 posts
9/6/2005 12:39 pm

"Well Golly-Gee Elysia2005, thank you very much-that was very sweet of you !" *As i look down at my feet with a blushed face kicking tiny rocks that arn't really there*

-CuteAZguy27


rm_FreeLove999 46F
16127 posts
9/6/2005 2:30 pm

i'm really not looking for the perfect email -- can't imagine that there is such a thing -- just a modicum of respect and some sign that you actually read my profile! but i do agree with "keep it short" ... if you haven't got my attention after the second sentence, you're wasting your time...



[blog freelove999]


CuteAZguy27 39M
1545 posts
9/6/2005 8:45 pm

SweetDarlinAngel quoted "remember to be you and approach this girl as just yourself."

Thank you so much for pouring your heart out on this blog, it is definetly taken to heart and being settled on the front burner. everything from a womans thoughts to being yourself, very appreciated Thank you.

-CuteAZguy27


CuteAZguy27 39M
1545 posts
9/6/2005 8:50 pm

FreeLove999-totally understandable thank you, ive seen where men don't bother reading the profile and say the total opposite in what the woman is after.

Short, respectful, and the knowledgment that the profile has been screened thrue by the one contacting you.

thank you so much FreeLove999 !

-CuteAZguy27


justsayhi2005 51F

9/7/2005 9:23 am

I read FreeLove's blog first and posted this there as well... The perfect email to me is one that obviously was written in response to reading my ad. He introduces himself by name, tells me what prompted him to write, what he is looking for, and makes it personal.
If someone writes to me and it's a form letter, doesn't tell me his name, it's a list of numbers as to how to contact him, his ad is in total opposition to his email, and it's obvious he didn't even read my ad, there's not going to be a reply.

And in response to the woman's profile you posted, it actually sounds like a website ad to me


CuteAZguy27 39M
1545 posts
9/8/2005 8:25 am

justsayhi2005 thank you so much for commenting. This was truly helpful to more ways than one. and on another note thank you for answering my question about the the womans profile, most appreciated. thank you.

-CuteAZguy27


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