Posted these questions..any thoughts???  

CuriousOHVirgin 40F
134 posts
10/28/2005 4:44 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Posted these questions..any thoughts???


How is it that u like to be asked for a hook-up? Do u like the direct 'Let's fuck' approach or something more subtle like 'How about we get to know one another, go for a drink and see what happens?' approach?

Is being friends with someone u are sleeping with 'strings'? What makes it no strings fun? And how is it more involved than that?

What are the limits that u will do with a person that u are classifying as a 'friend with benefits'? Do u not spend the nite with that person? Do u not go out for dinner/movie/drinks/dancing with that person? And if u do none of those things are u truly 'friends'?

What do men fear the most of being friends with women? And why do women feel the need to be friends with a man before she can have sex with him?

Any thoughts? Anyone?

arcangel_7459 50M

10/28/2005 11:50 pm

Personally Curious, I feel the best way is the "let's get to know each other first" approach. If there is no chemistry between someone, how good can the sex be? Not very as I had that very thing happen.

I would define "strings" as having an "emotinal" attachment that goes beyond friendship, so to speak. The moment the relationship goes to that level, the dynamics of it change quite a bit.

A FWB should be someone you'd be willing to spend the day with, but not necessarily "sleep" with each time you got together. The dinner/movie/drinks deal can be done just as well with MOS as same-sex members, the only difference is with a MOS friend, it isn't considered a "date".

Having a FWB means that you have more of an "intimate" knowledge of that person than you would if you were "just" friends with a MOS - and that's where emotions can play havoc with the friendship.

Who says friends can't take a trip together? Camping? Bowling? The list could go on and on. Common interests are only one dynamic of a friendship.


bigbarks65 51M

11/2/2005 11:58 am

I'm huge on meeting for coffee / lunch whatever talk get to know ea. other.I have ladies that are friends w/ no sexual contact at all.Of course having sex w/ a friend is the best.My best friend (wife) no longer can give me what I need due to a complete loss of desire.The only time we have ever argued was about sex / or lack there of.So I dont bring up anymore.I say lots of approches work in differant cases.I know you've meet someone that just wanted to go up to and grab by the hand and lead to a dark corner.wanna have coffee an get to know each other,that would be wonderful.ive left you messages on your/our group


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