Free to be to be u..let ur spirit soar  

CuriousOHVirgin 40F
134 posts
9/8/2005 2:30 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Free to be to be u..let ur spirit soar

I cant think of a better way to really put it. We are all free spirits and free to make whatever decisions that we choose to do. But when is it that we decide a decision or choice was made badly???

I have made bad decisions as I am sure all of u have as well. But was the decision 'bad' when u chose to go with it or was it 'bad' after it didn't turn out as planned??

When I made the decision to sign up on AdultFriendFinder it was a spur of the moment thing. I had my b-day..didn't get laid and decided not to have that problem anymore! But I also decided not to just meet with just anyone!!!
People I have chosen to meet was not for sex. I chose to meet them because I felt if nothing else I made a new friend. Someone that I can hang out with. Get to know better. Co-mingle my friends and their friends.

And I was offered that. I was given lively conversations. I laughed. I joked. I had fun. I never once thought, 'Where have u been all my life?', or 'Love me Love me'.

I actually thought out of all the assholes I found some fun ones that I have some stuff in common with! That I can see going to a stupid comedy with and talking about it later on. Or if I am in the mood or vice versa, having some bedroom fun with.

I am an honest person by default. I felt that since it was just a friendship we were "all" looking to fulfill that lies and games were then taken out of the equation. Would make it easier to relax, sit back and go with it.

And with me..if we are 'friends w/ benefits' there is no danger of feelings getting in the way..ever. But it is nice to be thought of even if u aren't coming over or wanting something to just call or email and say 'Hi, how was your day/weekend/week?' and that's it. That would make me happy and keep u in my thoughts as the person I want to see again or call when I am wanting my needs fulfilled.

Does that make u my man/woman? Not at all. Makes u a friend. Someone close to me that takes my feelings into consideration.

There is still just that one person that does that out of the 5 I have met. Could be worse I guess..could be none

freshmeet2 52M

9/9/2005 6:12 am

Curious, almost sounds like you're leaving. I hope that's not so. I enjoy our conversations on here and know that this is just 1 of those downs in your life. You can't be up all the time unfortunately. Don't hurt yourself in the long run because of something someone did. you need to keep trying, otherwise you'll never get what you want. I don't know why I'm telling you this, you always seem to keep your goals in mind and reaching for them. Hang in there, things will swing back up for you. Remember, if it doesn't work out it wasn't meant to be. Those are some words of advice I got from a friend once, hope they help you as much as they did me. Fresh

CuriousOHVirgin 40F

9/9/2005 3:11 pm

Fresh..u are always the sweetie
I am not sure if I am leaving or not but I know I am no longer looking. I want to just sit back and see what I am willing to take another chance with.

But thank u again for your words of the me something to think about

Talk to u soon..msg me on the hoo sometime ok


rm_DWM562 67M

9/9/2005 7:38 pm

Hi Danni:

I know how you are feeling. I have been here before, with not many good results, so I left, but back again for another try. Not into bars, and hate playing the dating game. I'm divorced 3-1/2 years, and not ready for a serious relationship. Have not been dating during that time.

Reading the profiles it always amazes me how many woman are here looking for Mr. Right or that special friend, even though this is "The Worlds Largest Sex and Swinger Personals Site". What really amazes me is how shocked many women are when you indicated you are interested in having sex with them. HELLO!!!

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