Email Irritation  

CuriousKitty675 41F
285 posts
9/7/2005 6:06 am

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Email Irritation

You know, I have gotten some very nice emails from people here. Well thought out, witty, charming, etc..etc..

But it never fails to amaze me the significant lack of effort and time that some folks put into them. What can you know about a person to set you a little more at ease by reading thier dimensions or "U R Hawt. Let's Fuck"? Honestly.

Now I am a bit more understanding if I can click thier profile and see that at least they put some thought into what they are looking for and what thier tastes are. But, when they don't even take the time to fill out the basics? It may sound snobbish but...not worth my time. Let me tell you why.

If a person doesn't even bother to fill out the info on thier own profile it shows me a sense of impatience in that person. In other words it looks like they are in it just to get themselves off and then out the door. I'm not saying I'm looking for a long meaningful relationship here but you better believe that if he's gettin his then I damn well better be gettin mine.

It really isn't that hard or time consuming. Just fill out the damned profile. Add your categories and be honest. let other people know what you might have in common with them. if you're not going to post a photo then at least do the profile. If you aren't going to write a decent email then AT LEAST fill out the profile.

If I can't tell anything about you that gives me a fill of who you are you will not be hearing a response from me. If you can't take the time then why should I? It's selfish to think that your time is more important than everyone else's.

Done ranting....feel better now. Thanks.

your_gypsy 51F

9/7/2005 7:01 am

i get those, and i get beautifully written letters with correct spelling and the whole bit. i delete the one-liners without a second thought, and the ones who put forth more effort and obviously have read my profile, i spend more time on.

you know, you could set your preferences to filter out the lazy ones, ones who don't fit the details you have set for your cupid preferences (such as age and location) and they will just go to a filtered folder for you if you want. i have a theory that a better picture gets better feedback with most men. it cuts to the chase, and once they see a picture of maybe your face or something more definitive, rather than your chest or other body part only, then they can decide whether they want to read your profile and get to know you, but there are a LOT of men who just put out a bunch of fishing lines with little or no specifications necessary (as long as it is a hole, they will take it -- yes, it's true -- they are that barbaric) and see which ones "bite." those are just like junk mail to me. do with those messages what you do with real junk male (spelling intended) and put them in their place.

later if they happen to write to you and call you a bitch because you didn't write back to them, simply tell them you are looking for someone who makes more of an effort, good luck and bye-bye... it's such a kick... especially the guys who think they're hot shit and don't *have* to make any effort.

wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
9/7/2005 7:23 am

agree entirely


firstcontactnow 39M  
47 posts
9/7/2005 8:46 am

it's funny because I just got a one-liner from a local female who basically said "let's fuck - what's your phone # so we can hookup."

I've never had a girl be so blunt before. I've put a lot of effort into some e-mail contacts I send out and there are times when I simply put "I'd love to get to know you better, let's chat sometime" and I'll attach my profile and a few pictures. I realize that the ratio of men to women online is probably like 25:3 or something like that, so sometimes - it can kick you in the gut when you send out like 20 well thought responses and get no responses back. Makes you wonder what the girls are looking for.

- fc21

ByteChaser2 53M

9/7/2005 8:54 am

Can I be the exception please? I had one that I'd spent inordinate amounts of time creating and updating... and it netted me nothing but frustration and grief. Impatient? mmm I suppose one could say that but considering I'd never (before blogging) had a single unsolicited email (from a woman. Got dozens from gay guys...) and only 3 responses in several months (and only one of them even remotely positive), hell, anyone would grow impatient...

Funny thing is though, since I took all that "this is me, this is what you should be" crap off my profile, I'm getting at least one email a week - sometimes 3 or 4 - not counting all the wonderful emails from all my blogger posse!

Funny how that works...

(Juan S)
2642 posts
9/7/2005 11:54 am

I welcome the hey you're hawt, let's fuck ones...LOL...just kidding...
No really just kidding... Curious...wait!!! ... I was only kidding...
( running after curious as she walks out the door)...LOL

CuriousKitty675 41F
365 posts
9/7/2005 1:15 pm

your gypsy - Absolutely! Though I have heard of some women getting the 'hater' mail back I guess I've been fortunate not to receive any. Not like it would ruffle my fir if I did though. LOL. BTW, I love your pic. Has anyone ever told you you look like Selma Blair?

wyvernrose - Amen sistah!

fc21 - I hear ya. I tried to be non-gender specific in this post for that reason. I know it can't just be a male thing though that is basically what I get and hence relate to but yes, I can see the women folk doing the same. It's a turn off. I wonder if these people realize that?

ByteChaser2 - Of course you are the exception darling. You and the rest of the men in lovely blogville cause you have a window into your mind and soul with a blog that you share with others. Kiss kiss doll.

Jez! - Nice to see you over here sweetie! I shall visit the blog and leave a message.

Sizz - <quirks an eyebrow and taps her foot expectantly as she stares at Sizz> You'll have to make it up to me now. You can start with the hot tub and bubbly followed by the full body massage. Then we'll see how thing go from there. LOL

ProtonicMan 48M

9/8/2005 8:39 pm

I haven't sent out very many e-mails (I dislike rejection. ), but I do spend some time on the ones I do send. It doesn't seem to matter. Nobody ever writes back.


(Juan S)
2642 posts
9/16/2005 10:53 am

Curious...I've been waiting in the hot tub for you...Now look,I'm all wrinkly...
Am I on punishment? Bad Sizzle {spank}

CuriousKitty675 41F
365 posts
9/21/2005 2:34 pm

Protonic - Well kudos to you anyway. It's good when a fella (or a gal for that matter) shows some effort.

Sizz - Hey hey now! I'll be the one doing the spanking here! LOL

rm_muggzee71 45M

1/14/2006 2:50 pm a couple of other people pointed out. The ratio on here is way off balance and it it easy to get REAL frusterated. Often I put alot of effort into an email and I always send a picture and I am never crude...sometimes I get a response but more often than not I don't. I have heard the stories though.."Hi..your hot..let's fuck!"...That is pretty pitiful.
This is the first blog I have read on here...pretty good stuff!

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