How have you used this site?  

CrashnBern 58F
194 posts
5/12/2006 8:16 am

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5/19/2006 5:53 pm

How have you used this site?


When I first joined AdultFriendFinder A friend told me about it and I joined as a standard member.... within 2 weeks I went Gold.......

2 years ago I didn't date at all and had not dated in about 3 years.. sometimes breakups hit me real hard. AS a bartender in a small town you know way too much about the people and don't EVEN want to go there!
All i neede at the time was the attention of the men taht were on here..I thought I wasn't attractive....you know the same old insecurity B.S. the ran thru my head as a kid. the whats wrong with me syndrome..

Well, I started slow, met a few guys.. tried out a few but still mostly talked..I'm sure that they thought I was the biggest tease..

so Now Here I am...I finally have a real life man and I introduced my guy to AdultFriendFinder and he has totally RAN with it!! We are members of a group that has monthly meet and greets. We play a little and have a great time.

and now I blog....

Where will it end up? Who knows?

I have met some very nice people on here and some "not so nice". (politically correct term)
the thing is this site is only what you make it and you have to be aware of what you want and need before you willingly enter into any situation..

And LOOK AT ME NOW!!!!

redmustang91 57M  
8572 posts
5/12/2006 9:16 am

Great story. using AdultFriendFinder to overcome shyness and date, meet people and increase self esteem is as good as it gets. Enjoy! I enjoy blogging and hope to find a lover... Still hoping, despite the difficulties.


Jigen87 29M

5/12/2006 11:17 am

You used to be shy?
This site seems to have done alot for you! I've been here for a few weeks so far, and I've already picked up a few handy things. Who knows where I might be in a year or even two.


CrashnBern 58F

5/12/2006 2:18 pm

OH my GOD!!!!!! NO I AM NOT SHY!!!!!! way back when I was in grade school yeah...... insecurity does not mean shy!!!!!!!! and I am sure that if I was at the age of 47 then AdultFriendFinder would not be able to fix it....... LMAO and shaking my head..I had to read my post twice to make sure that I didn't say I was.. just because a woman doesn't date for a while ..... gee how about taking time out to get your shit together... how about living in a small town and not much available to date except druggies and alcoholics and husbands.. and I'm not going there. Have you ever met a shy bartender?! AAAGGGHHHH!

sorry.. I fell better now!!!


valer4all 61M

5/12/2006 4:52 pm

Hey CrashnBern, what is your opinion on folks that will not answer very polite emails asking them if they might be interested in the sender? A majority of the "couples" and "singles" on AdultFriendFinder list themselves as "professionals", "honest", "sincere", "discreet", "caring", "sexy", "respectful", etc. I assume people listing those qualities could surely send a quick reply back, yea! or nae! or even a smiling "go to hell!" As a professional myself I respect people's feelings and "time", and answer both my business AND my personal emails. Since joining 6 weeks ago, I have sent 410 emails! 208 initial contacts. 123 second attempts. 56 third attempts. 0 fourth attempts! Of those 410 ATTEMPTS.....5 established correspondence. 18 politely turned me down (most of those outside MT) That's a 1% success rate! And a 5.6% acknowledgment rate! Soooooo does that mean 93.4% of the folks on AdultFriendFinder "Don't really exist?", "Are not who they say they are?", or so "self-centered and lazy" it's all about THEM!
For years I've tried to convince my wife "swingers" are not bad people they are "honest", "sincere", "discreet", "caring", "sexy", "respectful".......WRONG!!!It looks like she was right again(...darn!) and I'm the one needing a "reality" check! I see "Who's Online Now", "Who's Viewing Me", "Last Time Online", etc........it takes 30 seconds to hit reply, "No Thanks" and move on! IF....I was the vindictive type... I'd start a new profile..."GOLD".....and really screw with some folks on this web site....fake pics.....an unbelievable profile....set up no show meetings.....crash the "Meet and Greets" with a bunch of my old "redneck friends and cowboys". Trust me I've got the talent, time and resources to ADD to the "lack of credibility" of the folks in this "lifestyle" and on this web site. Hope I get a bunch of "Hate Mail".....from your blog readers..at least it will be something to read! I believe you are a respected "particpant and leader" within the swinger group in this area and I'm comfortable believing your heart is in the right place. I wish I could say. "AND LOOK AT ME NOW"! Replys welcome!!!


CrashnBern replies on 5/13/2006 1:49 pm:
I am not a "repected participant and Leader within the swinger group in this area!!! Christ, I hadn't even done anything like that until 4 mos ago. Had my first threesome not even a month ago. get a grip, Bud. I'm sorry for all the misinterpretation that goes on but I thought I wrote clearly.

Good luck with your search. I know I don't always get to my emails as soon as I should and I apologize if I have overlooked yours.

cun69fel 61M

5/12/2006 6:16 pm

Came here looking to date, joined a couple other sites to date, now I just blog. Oh well.


KandyCoated4U 52F
755 posts
5/12/2006 8:21 pm

    Quoting Jigen87:
    You used to be shy?
    This site seems to have done alot for you! I've been here for a few weeks so far, and I've already picked up a few handy things. Who knows where I might be in a year or even two.
C&B is far from shy, ya shoulda saw her at the M&G. LMAO I still laugh to myself about the pirate thing LMAO

! If I were a crayon, I'd most likely be jammed up some kids nose.


CrashnBern replies on 5/13/2006 1:54 pm:
where the hell did they come up with "me being shy" part? men need to read the whole thing before they hit the interpretation button!!
I don't know kandy....I coulda sworn they said there was intelligent life on this planet... (and I know I'm gonna take some flak from that one!!!) CnB

Jigen87 29M

5/13/2006 4:33 pm

Perhaps I'm the one that needs glasses... maybe someone else's blog??? Who knows where my ideas float in from...


KandyCoated4U 52F
755 posts
5/15/2006 6:19 am

I have met some great people here. Some we turned out to be great friends , some we have not. Some we hang out , some we just chat by phone. So I have used it for many aspects in the day to day thing.

! If I were a crayon, I'd most likely be jammed up some kids nose.


KandyCoated4U 52F
755 posts
5/15/2006 6:19 am

OOO and I found my pinch hitter on this site

! If I were a crayon, I'd most likely be jammed up some kids nose.


JaysonBlaque 39M

5/18/2006 10:11 pm

I initially joined AdultFriendFinder 6 yrs ago after my divorce. My use for the site was & is to meet like minded women, namely nymphos (other qualities are negotiable). I met a woman we fell in love (her other qualities were great). Sadly, I had no desire to destroy my little extended family that included my ex-wife and our kids, by introducing this woman into our lives as my my public lover. I still have that extended family, and I still seek to maintain it until my kids grow up. In the meantime I still seek like-minded women. My first AdultFriendFinder partner is now far away but when we're in the same zip code we fuck like rabbits until we both literally collapse. Despite the negative energy resulting from my refusal to drastically change my life, it still comes back to the sex, which is where it started for us both. Discreet, No-Strings Sex is what I use AdultFriendFinder to find. Just that simple. So far only one person has met me despite many efforts on my part. So VALER4ALL I hear you brother. Fortunately, my ex-wife also likes to fuck me periodically and I'm not averse to meeting folks elsewhere. If I depended on AdultFriendFinder for sex, I'd have committed suicide long ago, nymphomania is real and I seek no cure, only encouragement.


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