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Human Sexually - Your Opinions?
Human Sexually - Your Opinions?
Premise of Our Human Social Sexual Interactions
Your body is innocent, just as it is, just the way it naturally functions. Be completely at ease with your body and with all the things that it normally and naturally does. Never feel ashamed of your body or any of its natural functions. Don't feel embarrassed when other people see your naked body, or see you having sex or using the toilet, or carrying out any other function or activity appropriate to your body. Never feel offended or embarrassed when you see other people's naked bodies, or see them carrying out any bodily function.
Other people’s bodies are as innocent as your own. Be completely at ease with other people’s bodies and with all the things that their bodies normally and naturally do. Don’t be upset or offended when you see other people’s naked bodies, or when you see them having sex or using the toilet, or engaging in any other function or activity appropriate to their bodies.
Your curiosity about other people’s bodies is natural and innocent. Never suppress your natural curiosity about other people's bodies or how they work, or feel ashamed of your curiosity. Feel free to satisfy your curiosity in any way that’s comfortable for other people, and feel free to satisfy other people's curiosity in any way that is comfortable for you. But when curiosity is satisfied, move on to other things. Be completely free of the shame-laden preoccupation with bodies and their functions that develop when people's instinctual interest in the body is shamed and concealed.
Affectionate touching is innocent and nurturing. Affectionate non-sexual touching and embracing can be a beautiful and supportive part of your communication with other people. Within your community of belief, freely touch and embrace other people, thereby promoting a communal feeling of love and connectedness. Affectionate touch is especially important for children, so freely touch and embrace them within your community.
Whatever you do sexually is innocent, so long as you do it with responsible concern for the well-being of others. Be completely at ease with all your sexual feelings and interests, and feel totally free of guilt about engaging in any kind of sexual activity or relationship, so long as you act responsibly - so long as
• no one deceives anyone else to get them involved;
• everyone involved is competent to give free informed consent, and gives such consent;
• the activity or relationship is not physically harmful or in itself psychologically traumatic to anyone engaged in it;
• everyone involved insures that appropriate measures are taken to prevent inappropriate pregnancy and the transmission of disease; and
• the activity or relationship does not endanger any existing viable intimate relationship.
Any form of sexual relationship is innocent, so long as you engage in it with responsible concern for the well-being of your partners. Feel free to be sexually involved with one partner or more than one, with a partner of your same sex or the other sex, purely for enjoyment or as an expression of committed love, in a long-term commitment or just for the moment, so long as your involvement is responsible, satisfying the requirements proposed above. Feel free to choose among all these kinds of activities and relationships, taking into account your sexual orientation, your values, your preferences, your interests, and the circumstances of your life.
Honest communication about your sexual feelings is innocent. When you feel sexually attracted to someone, feel free to communicate your feelings openly, but in a way which assumes no obligation by the other person to return your feelings or to act on them. When other people let you know that they are sexually attracted to you, accept their interest as a compliment, but don't feel obligated to return their feelings or to act on them.
Pleasuring yourself sexually is innocent. Pleasure yourself whenever you feel like it. Don't be ashamed to be seen pleasuring yourself by anyone who will not be offended, and don't be offended or embarrassed when you see other people pleasuring themselves.
Speaking openly about your body and its functions is innocent. Don't be ashamed to speak freely about your body and any of its functions. If it's normal and natural to do something, feel comfortable talking about doing it.
Being sexual with people other than your spouse or lover is innocent, so long as your spouse or lover freely and truly accepts your “outside” encounters or relationships. If you and your partner are both confident that having responsible sex with "outsiders" won't endanger your relationship, then feel completely free to engage without guilt in “outside” encounters and relationships, and completely support your partner in enjoying the same freedom.
Being sexual in the presence of other people is innocent, so long as they consent. Feel completely free to be sexual in the presence of other people, if they won't be offended; and don't be embarrassed or offended if other people have sex in your presence.
Children’s bodily curiosity is natural and innocent. Be completely at ease with the curiosity that children of all ages have about their own and others’ bodies, and particularly about their sexuality. Be completely at ease with the exploratory behavior that this curiosity naturally evokes. Always answer their questions about sexuality in an honest and accurate way, appropriate to their capacity for understanding. Encourage your children to explore their developing sexuality responsibly, in ways that are voluntary, consensual, and harmless for every participant.
Teenagers’ sexuality is innocent, so long as they express it responsibly. Be completely at ease with the developing sexuality of teenagers, but teach your sons and daughters to be emotionally and biologically responsible in their sexual interactions while they are being sexually free and uninhibited. At every stage of their growing up, completely accept for them the degree of sexual freedom commensurate with their demonstrated biological and emotional responsibility.
Enjoying erotic productions is natural and innocent. Enjoy sexually explicit pictures, performances, and stories without shame or guilt, and be completely at ease enjoying the arousal that they may evoke.
A community which lives in such natural innocence is a community worth establishing and protecting in the world. Don't try to impose this freedom, openness, and candor on anyone who finds it abhorrent, but adamantly reject and oppose any attempt by anyone to restrict your practice of body-acceptance and responsible sexual freedom within your own community of belief. Work to establish an ever-widening community of people who share with you this belief in our natural innocence as embodied beings, and who act and speak in their personal lives with responsible freedom. Work to establish a worldwide humane culture which teaches, practices, and celebrates this innocence, responsibility and freedom.
© 2005 by Bert Clanton. Permission is hereby granted to republish this document in hard-copy or electronic form, provided that the full document is published without editing or omission, and that this copyright notice is included in full as an integral part of the published document.
8/18/2006 9:12 am
very uplifting article|
now i have a different way to look at all things
9/14/2006 8:44 pm
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